I think it’s a sign of respect for me if they can at least make a bit of effort with their appearance like I do for them. Just simple things like wear clothes that don’t have holes in them and need to be thrown out, shower, brush hair etc...
I find it a turn off to see them not taking care of them self. I would’ve thought a guy would want their girl to be turned on by them? Fair enough if that’s just how they are... but why be fake in the beginning trying to look nice if that’s not what they normally do?