Should I be concerned about this? Should I stop contacting him?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy off tinder about a month ago. I was looking for a relationship and he was looking for something more casual, as he’s just got out of a serious relationship. Since then, I’ve been dating him, and we’ve had sex.

during sex, he pins me down, chokes me, and role plays raping me. He slaps my face too and calls me his ‘little slut’ whom he can ‘use whenever he wants’. He also took a picture of me without my consent after he came on my face. I told him previously that I like to be dominated in bed, but whenever he leaves me, I start to feel incredibly anxious. When he leaves, I don’t hear back from him within 24 hours and I just start to feel used and cheap. Then he gets back in contact with me and then I go back to the same cycle.

should I be concerned about this?

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Yes you should be concerned and don’t ever let a guy take photos like that of you especially From a dating app.
People are malicious and he shouldn’t have took it that far that’s not even dominating honestly that’s just creepy and abusive frankly.
Also not talking to you all day like that is a weird thing to do, watching out for this dude he feels off af

[Paris13]

Be Concerned. He sounds Weird and Not into a Real Relationship but more Rough.. Maybe Doing and Screwing others Two. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[ashish804]

its clear sign he is using u for his fantasies... now what u want from him.. if u r getting.. u can continue.. but it would be good if u find someone another

[Searlas]

Yes,

Its time rethink, pick up the pieces and rebuild if you want some different.

He was genuine enough to tell you the truth, whatever he wanted was all casual, you knew that but still decided to tag along. You also indicated you like being dominated, thats what he's doing. So don't complain. Whatever you were planning to do, 'change' him or make him committed will not work, people don't change, they are only suppressed by circumstances and reset back once they can't handle the pressure no more. This relationship started on the wrong foot, it's casual sex nothing more, don't waste time, no offense intended.

[mfate76]

Besides sex has this guy given you anything for example bought you gifts? Im not saying what he does sexually can be compensated with material objects. Usually we can gauge another person's sincerity towards us by the generosity of their pockets.

Ok if he doesn't buy you anything then does he at least share his time with you in deep meaningful conversations?

A person's submission of their time resource is the best way to gauge sincere interest.

If you dislike the actions in the bedroom then cease giving him the opportunity to do it.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

This is why aftercare is really important, he's just leaving you after a violent sexual encounter. This guy literally has no care whatsoever about your feelings. If a girl was doing things without asking, i'd break her phone and show her the door.

[Anonymous]

Only you can answer this question. He's treating you the way you said you wanted to be treated and you're confirming you like it by continuing to talk to him and have sex with him.

If you're looking for a relationship then you should cut ties with that guy and stop using Tinder.

If you like the sex and the way he dominates you sexually and you don't feel your safety is in danger, then why stop?

[TheOverthinker31]

It's completely natural being worried and if he's doing stuff to you that you haven't consented you should talk to him about it and confront him , if he's not willing to make you happy , then I'd suggest finding someone new , you deserve to be treated with respect, care and love

[abhi_97]

You've already answered your question. If he treats you like this, why are you still with him unless you want to be used? He's obviously using you to fulfil his sexual desires.

[asker9030]

Well he has been very straight with what he wanted and he is getting it too.
If you feel nice to have sex with him without being into serious relationship then you can continue hooking up
If you want something serious you should move on

[Valnac]

On this site I’ve read all the crap girls put up with from guys on Tinder.
When are you all going to realize, there’s nothing but scumbags on that site that are just looking for hookups and probably spreading std’s.

[SarahP080102]

Sounds like he is playing a game with you. You need to decide if you like the game

[LiamSawyer]

Definitely stop seeing him. You never know what it could escalate too.

[Anonymous]

Used and abused and he is wacky. I would be more than anxious. He could also be using your pix online for a nice piece of ass money.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. x

[Wise4myage]

He is just using you, and Tinder is about hookups. If you don't like his behavior, then stop seeing him.

[Anonymous]

What are you asking about... whether you should be concerned about what this guy is doing to you, or whether you should be concerned about the fact that you enjoy it and keep asking for more?

[kinkydrummer]

Well do you like it or don't you? if you don't, then stop contacting him. if you do then keep playin.

[WhiteGlaze]

he's just playing his game. If you like it, then like it

[Anonymous]

How many times are you going to ask this question? This is literally at least the fifth time I've seen it in the last few days.

[KrakenAttackin]

Fucking hell, you are one neurotic bitch. You need to call a shrink.

[Paul09]

You are using Tinder.. That's what it's made for. Sex! Not serious realationships.

[Twalli]

As long as you like being with him I don't see why not.

[Anonymous]

I would be. If he is going to be your dom you two need to be up front about what is and isn't acceptable. And you need to establish a safe word.