My boyfriend is ok with me messing around with girls?

Question

I'm bisexual and my boyfriend is totally ok with it. He said he has no problem if I want to mess around with some girls without him. He said he doesn't care as long as I come back to him. I feel weird about it and almost cheating. Is this an ok thing to do or no? I feel wrong about it...

Answer 1

pierre7i | 102 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I can't say what it'd feel like if I was in a committed relationship with a girl..

.. but my close female friend°fwb° is bi-sexual and whilst we our 'agreement' is to be exclusive to/with each other unless we meet someone/fall in love, she has a bi-sexual female she is sexual with from time to time, which I am totally ok with (we sometimes get together in 3somes which I am ever more ok with !!)

pierre7i

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Have you considered nessing around with another girl together with your boyfriend @xElizabeth95x?
pierre7i

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*messing
xElizabeth95x

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I would totally do it with him no problem. He would too. He said he wants me to be able to while he's at work tho if I ever want it. Since he works over nights.
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pierre7i

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Am following you, can you follow me back?
xElizabeth95x

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Followed!

Answer 2

pierre7i

Have you considered nessing around with another girl together with your boyfriend @xElizabeth95x?

Answer 3

pierre7i

*messing

Answer 4

xElizabeth95x

I would totally do it with him no problem. He would too. He said he wants me to be able to while he's at work tho if I ever want it. Since he works over nights.

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pierre7i

Am following you, can you follow me back?

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xElizabeth95x

Followed!

Answer 7

Mark83

Xper 4

If he says it's fine, take his word for it. Be honest about what you do and check back on him regularly to make sure he hasn't changed his mind. Have some ground rules if necessary. It's quite possible he doesn't see women as competition, unlike other men.

xElizabeth95x

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That would seem fair. He knows I'm bisexual and not just sexually attracted but I've had romantic relationships with females too
Mark83

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He's very respectful of your orientation, that's a good thing. Remember you two make the rules of your relationship, if it works for you both then it's okay. Be honest and keep up the communication, and you should be fine.
Mark83

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It's also very respectful of you to not just take the opportunity but to get another opinion. Sounds like you have a good and stable relationship going which is able to support that sort of arrangement.

Answer 8

xElizabeth95x

That would seem fair. He knows I'm bisexual and not just sexually attracted but I've had romantic relationships with females too

Answer 9

Mark83

He's very respectful of your orientation, that's a good thing. Remember you two make the rules of your relationship, if it works for you both then it's okay. Be honest and keep up the communication, and you should be fine.

Answer 10

Mark83

It's also very respectful of you to not just take the opportunity but to get another opinion. Sounds like you have a good and stable relationship going which is able to support that sort of arrangement.

Answer 11

JuliaStyles

Xper 5

If you know it is wrong then why do it? I would classify it as cheating but apparently you don't. Only reason he wouldn't care about it is that he wants to cheat too, or maybe he is hoping for a FFM threesome with you and your girlfriend.

Vetis

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Yeah he might be trying to manipulate her into allowing himself to do what he wants too.

Answer 12

Vetis

Yeah he might be trying to manipulate her into allowing himself to do what he wants too.

Answer 13

BigHomieNasty

Xper 3

Well if you aren’t comfortable with it don’t do it.

Keep in mind it could escalate. He may want to do a threesome later, and this could put you in a bind.

Also ask yourself, “if he was sleeping with boys, would you care?”

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Answer 14

Tyrael | 172 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

I suspect the only reason he's saying that is because he's hoping you'll let him have a threesome with you and another girl at some point in time.

An alternative is that he's already been unfaithful and he feels guilty about it so he's letting you do it.

Or maybe he's just ok with it and there's no underlying motivation. Who knows.

Answer 15

Vetis

Xper 2

This is a fake problem. to even talk about this shows you want to do it. Let me go ahead and tell you, a suspected hedonist, that you shouldn't do what you want, right? Yeah, no, IDC about you, go ruin yourself.

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GOOSEBOY78 | 177 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

sounds like cheating because it is. just with the same gender. he knows its going to go on behind his back whether he wants it to or not.

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WesBrewer | 700 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

If you feel wrong about it don't do it, it's not like you have to do it.

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ashish804 | 251 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

he thinks may be someday He would get an opportunity where he will have threesome with one more girl involved and bang her too

Answer 19

Twalli | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Most guys are okay with their girlfriend and other girls, because he has the penis. Plus girl on girl action can be hot.

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Wise4myage | 995 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He’s a rare breed, but if it doesn’t feel right than why keep doing it?

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Dinosaursandanime65 | 502 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Listen for the Gust of Wind. They’re a great guide.

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chriscdi | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

its okay cause your guy doesn't care but what it does to your face im not sure how others would see it

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iseekpinetrees | 370 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

If it feels wrong dont do it.

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MissDawn7961 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

read your bible and ask God ! thanks

Answer 25

Yourman89

Xper 4

I wish my wife would! Go for it!

xElizabeth95x

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You're ok with it? You wouldn't feel like she's cheating on you if she's messing around with females even if you're not there?
Yourman89

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Nope. As long as its a girl i am fine with it
xElizabeth95x

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Even if you knew she's had romantic relationships with females before?
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Yourman89

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Yep. wouldn't bug me