How much drama is too much drama in a brand new relationship?

[Anonymous]

Everything is great and then bam, worst night of my life. Too drunk, too much anger, too much crying and asking for forgiveness, too much ultimatum and its been less than six months and happened twice. Do I look over it and pursue with patience and help the cause or do I drop em like its hot and potentially move on to something worse because let's be honest, dating nowadays is a pain in the fucking ass.

[BigHomieNasty]

A new relationship is too much drama. Things should be smooth calm and may be exciting but not scary. Save yourself the time and effort and heartbreak and move forward. I think if you are this worried you should move on. All guys aren’t bad, and dating can seem like barely any good options; but safety always comes first.


Any drama in A new relationship is too much drama. Things should be smooth calm and may be exciting but not scary. Save yourself the time and effort and heartbreak and move forward.


Perhaps you should try dating a different kind of man or opening your options two different kinds of men. This will broaden your horizons and you may find something that you like better.


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[Asker]

I also think its way too early for this kind of in depth drama. But if its hard I dont know if that means give up.

[BigHomieNasty]

The choice to stay or leave is yours fully to make. It can get worse. Or it can get better. But in my experience these things tend to get worse. I wish you the best either way!

Don’t hesitate to reach out to me as well!

[Madhatter920]

Drunken anger and ultimatums are pretty big red flags. Personally, I would move on. It might be to something worse, but it might also be to something better. Nothing worth having came easily, so keep at it. :p

[Asker]

I think so too, being red flags. But he’s also coming off of drinking too much, doing drugs his whole adult life and his parents both have history of anger outbursts. It’ll be six months in February and he has come, a long, long way. Clean, keeping clean, therapy, my positive attitude, but - I know how this goes and before it becomes too too serious, is it worth my mental health too, you know?

[Madhatter920]

It's great he's getting better, but you have no responsibility to fix him. Your own happiness matters, too. You owe that to yourself.

[Asker]

This is true..

[rjroy3]

Assuming you were not an instigating factor in these two events. Do you want to be with an emotionally stable man you can feel secure with? If not, then proceed.

[Asker]

I was not, and I try to help more than hurt. But he has a history (via family and friends from before me) of drinking too much, blacking out and then not remembering the rampage he goes on. Which.. is kinda scary.

[rjroy3]

Sounds like you have your answer

[Asker]

truth

[Luckycharms12]

A new romance is ment to be fun and keep your hands of one another

[jimmy2]

No no no drama