My girlfriend was in Tears when I said I don't want kids with her because they will come out mix and not black, what should I do?

[Yuuibtony]

[Gravit1]

That is the dumbest racist shit I've ever heard. There is no black, white, or mixed. People are not paint. Every country/people has formed from distinct tribes coming together to make a new people. Every human on this planet is a collection of genes. Confirmed History puts people moving out from the middle East. This is even where languages originate from. What is Mostly called black (though there are others as it is a faux phenetic description) are African American individuals. The Average African American has European and Native American Genes as well, that is why they are African American. You have a collection of genes that make up your body, the woman you take as wife and reproduce with will also have a collection of genes. You will combine to form a family, if you are so concerned about the skin color of your children you are Racist. Every human being is a combination of genes. Mine hail from Northern Europe. Though I was born American, Genetically I am European. America is called the Great Melting pot for a reason. Please stop being racist for you and your family's sake.

[pigoat]

Adopt seems to be the only option if you guys scared to deal with the mix child shit

[Yuuibtony]

True,

[Anonymous]

Let me get this right, you’re dating your girlfriend. Who’s you happen to love very much. But I’m guessing she’s Caucasian and you don’t want to have kids with her? So why you dating her? To waste her time? Because you’ve clearly made it known without a doubt that you are in fact racist simply because you can’t accept biracial children? You stated in your comments that people are already racist to you because you’re dating her. Think about the bigger picture. Not only is society judging you, but you’ve also taken the liberty of judging her and basically shutting her down on having kids.

[Yuuibtony]

But how am racist through when I refuse to get her pregnant?

[Opinion Owner]

No. You refuse to have kids with her...

[Opinion Owner]

Because like you said, you don’t want biracial children. Don’t waste her time. You knew she wasn’t like you when you first started dating.

[Yuuibtony]

But I still want to be her boyfriend

[Jayceeleigh]

Sheesh! Get a time machine. Seriously, dude, you can’t put that one back in the box. I guess the only thing you can do is maintain your honesty and tell her why (if there are any specific reasons why you don’t want mixed children)

[Yuuibtony]

I going to try to talk to her I didn't know women take stuff like that seriously

[Jayceeleigh]

Absolutely. You basically just told her you want kids but not with her.. so no future together.

[Jayceeleigh]

At least that’s how I would see it

[Yuuibtony]

But I love her, I hope she can understand

[Jayceeleigh]

I hope so too. Good luck

[jennifer_bloom]

You can adopt a black child if that is what she wants

[hellionthesagereborn]

Wow your pretty fucked up. So she is good enough to fuck but thats it and she isn't deserving of having kids with you because she isn't black? doesn't that sound, apart from just being cruel and assholish, a bit racist? What you should do is probably figure out why your racist, why you hate whites enough to not want a mixed child but not enough where you won't have sex and date a white woman. I know your going to argue this isn't racist some how but if the roles where reversed, you and every one else would state that it is racist (you see mixed race as some how inferior to black which again is racist).

[slatyb]

You may already be mixed. Many African-Americans are. Anyway, in the US people of mixed race are generally viewed as black. I'm wondering if you are worrying about whether you will be accepted by her family.

It's going to be hard to walk this one back.

Didn't you know this when you started dating her? Why did you date her knowing you would never want to marry her and have a family? Have you just been wasting her time waiting until you found what you really wanted?

What you should do is search your mind and decide if you really cannot be the father of her children. If you cannot then end the relationship with abject apologies.

[Hannah_le]

Mm u shouldn’t be afraid of having a mix girlfriend unless there’s some kind of reason like family judgement or smth I don't know but adoption is still good for couples who want kids. Other then that there’s not many options

[Hannah_le]

I meant kid*

[Yuuibtony]

I don't know it weird that our kids might come different i am scared to mix race

[Hannah_le]

Yeah but just depends on how u raise them but u shouldn’t judge when u don’t know yet. The whole idea shouldn’t matter much lol

[Yuuibtony]

It hard to date interracial too many racist people attacking me bc my girlfriend is white

[Hannah_le]

Yea but u jus gotta learn how to ignore. For any race it’s quite hard even me I’m white and half Vietnamese and I meet racist people or when I dated a black guy ofc people are stertyping cuz my mom is Asian n saying random shit but once u ignore people don’t care as much to talk shit

[Hannah_le]

I don't know just if ur happy then be happy don’t let mfs ruin it

[Yuuibtony]

Some racist white guy on here want proof of my white girlfriend

[Hannah_le]

Oh dude u shouldn’t listen to people on social media. They can either be trolling , racist asf , or simply just hating. people say shit on social media but Fr when it comes down to it no one will care there’s millions of mixed kids why would u wanna listen to someone who’s ignorant and negative yk.

[Yuuibtony]

I don't know, he says am lying when I not showing a pic of my white girlfriend

[Hannah_le]

But why listen lol when someone says smth dumb I just don’t reply Simple as that , block or ignore. I mean cmon it seems like ur insecure of being in a interracial relationship like it’s fine and it’s funny ur listening to some trolls on here. Like Fr it’s cool and u post about race so much so ofc ur gonna meet people who says stuff it’s social media people will say positive or negative things same goes to everyone

[Hannah_le]

They wanna get to u and u let that happen but like don’t do that over ur girlfriend like u made her upset cuz u don’t want mixed kids it’s like she doesn’t care I’m sure and no one else cares jus u

[Yuuibtony]

Hannah u a cute girl thats all lol

[Anonymous]

If I were told this by my boyfriend, I would 100% leave him because I personally want a child. I once dated an Orthodox Jew who revealed that he would never marry me because he would only marry a Jewish woman. No matter how much we actually liked being a couple, it wasn't going to work our because we had different paths. Unless she's fine with not having a child at all, let her go if you really do love her.

[InferiorElegy]

Let her move on to someone who will want kids with her, seems like you're making a selfish decision and giving her no choice and she deserves to have kids with someone who loves her and she loves back. You should also be with a black woman if you want your kids black.

[guesswhoseback]

So you are black and she’s not? What’s her ethnicity?

Mix kids are usually good looking from what I’ve observed. Inter racial breeding often brings out the best of different ethnicities. But maybe you feel different.

[fortunechips]

Why do prefer your kids coming out black instead of mixed?

[Yuuibtony]

Because am black, and the fact I have a sister gross me out to date black women, if I didn't have a sister I won't mind dating black women and black women I date will feel like incest in my opinion

[fortunechips]

But if you prefer to date non-black women because dating black women feels like you're dating your sister an fluke incest, why would you want black children? What if you have a black baby girl and when she grows up she looks a lot like your sister (it's in the genes, and it can definitely happen)? And if you say that it is different because that would be your child and not your sister, I'd respond by saying that it's still family.

My question is, why are you so afraid of dating someone that has the same skin color as your sister. If you don't look at your sister in that matter then it shouldn't psychologically be a problem, unless... you like your sister, but you know it's incest and taboo.

If that's the case then the problem would be that your own mind is keeping you from dating someone who's black because of the ties to your sister, while no one else in the world would care or even think of that.

I'm most likely wrong here but I'm trying to throw things out to understand further.

[Meldrum]

What a terrible thing to say!! What is the mix? Where were your ancestors born? Did your ancestors ever get raped by a slave owner or some that worked for him? If you love someone, color don't mean shit.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Sounds like you are a racist, or am I misunderstanding what you are asking? Why date a different race if you can't handle having kids with them?

[zagor]

Afraid they will be mixed, like Barack Obama? Patrick Mahomes? Bob Marley? Yeah, I'm sure that would doom your kids to failure.

[Yuuibtony]

What?

[zagor]

You just said you don't want mixed race kids. I just mentioned three people who are mixed.

[SenseiSeptred]

Apologize to her and tell her that you failed your own people by doing the thing that you and your family suffer from the most.

[Yuuibtony]

Thats your narrative, thats like saying all white people fuck animals

[SenseiSeptred]

Here is a better term. Do you like being discriminated against for almost the least little thing?

[Yuuibtony]

Nope not no more I don't care i going date a white woman while u guys stay racist, it funny to me

[SenseiSeptred]

My point is that nobody likes being discriminated against no matter what it is about.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Try explain your concerns to her instead of suiting her down.

[iFarted]

If she wants kids and you do not or you won't have one with her cause she's not black then whats the point in continuing the relationship?

[Yuuibtony]

Because I love her

[Anonymous]

Stop being racist - for starters.

Who cares what they'll look like?

[Yuuibtony]

How am racist if my girlfriend is white?

[OlderAndWiser]

What are the choices?

[Yuuibtony]

I can't date black because I have a sister and it will gross me out so I don't know

[YHL6965]

Why do you care that much about race? What makes mix children worse than black children?

[Yuuibtony]

Because it not pure

[YHL6965]

And so what? How does it make them worse? Also, doesn't purity of race rings a bell to you?

[Yuuibtony]

I mean yeah, but it weird to get a woman pregnant from a different race i love her but it hard to do this

[YHL6965]

How is it weird? What is so important to you about race? What are the bad things you associate to that?

[Yuuibtony]

Stereotypes that why I scare to hold my white girlfriend hand in public

[YHL6965]

And how do these stereotypes prevent you from living your life? Are you afraid of what others think? Wouldn't you prefer to love your partner without holding back by fear of what others think? Screw what others think, you're here to have a good time n this Earth, don't let others and their judgement ruin your good time.

[Yuuibtony]

Me and her will talk about it but she still hurt

[YHL6965]

If I understand well, you don't want mixed race children because you're concerned about what others think? Are you concerned by a particular group of people like friends or family for example?

[Yuuibtony]

Everybody

[YHL6965]

Other than that, without taking into account what others think, does it bother you to have mixed children?

[Yuuibtony]

Yes, it does

[YHL6965]

Why does it bother you? Why is it a big deal?

[Dweezil]

Race again?

Forget about being obsessed with race.

Sound like you are nothing more than a racist.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Nothing. Its up to her if she wants to stay with you. You did you part by being honest with her

[KrakenAttackin]

Nothing you can do. She will just have to suck it up.

[KrakenAttackin]

Although I would expect her to have a "surprise pregnancy" sooner or later.

[Samhanks]

If your girlfriend wants, its fine, after all the children are and will be yours !

[boombastik]

Are you serious right now

[Yuuibtony]

Yeah am scared to have mix kids with her.

[WAPdestroyer]

You got a white girlfriend now?

[Yuuibtony]

Yeah but I made her cry I don't stay on social media I go out and meet women

[WAPdestroyer]

I was looking for Asian but they are racist as f. I'm looking back at white girls on tinder

[Yuuibtony]

Yeah they worship white skin a lot

[WAPdestroyer]

Asians yeah smh

[Waldoe]

get a black girlfriend, quit playin. fool

[Yuuibtony]

Nope I have a sister and dating a black girl feel like I dating my sister

[Anonymous]

Why are you with her then?

[Yuuibtony]

Because she my girlfriend and I love her

[Opinion Owner]

If the situation was reversed, you would have called her a racist...

[Yuuibtony]

No I wouldn't

[Opinion Owner]

What is it then?

[Yuuibtony]

Wouldn't date if she was racist

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you're the racist one.

[Yuuibtony]

You white right?

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed

[Yuuibtony]

U find blacks guys attractive?

[Opinion Owner]

Not really.

[Yuuibtony]

Is it the nose being too big or the lips?

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you ask?

[Yuuibtony]

Because u find black men ugly

[Opinion Owner]

No, I don't. I'm just not attracted to them.

[dev765]

Clearly trolling

[HikerDude]

wee was kangz win yoo was eetin mudd

[Jack9949]

Adopt.

[SupStepBro]

Adopt then?