I'm loosing my mind over a girl?

[Irobot7]

I need someone to talk to...

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I did that. But it's really hard when girls ask for space because I can't do anything or change herind while far away

[SavageGirl101]

so u jerked off to girls on the internet and your wondering why she has doubts and is mad at u? wow your making it seem like she's not enough for u cause u have to jerk off to other girls on the internet instead of to her thats so mean i feel sorry for the poor girl

[Irobot7]

No it was before we met, I told her that's what I use to do, and she said it was very immature of me to say it and I should never say it to any girl about this

[SavageGirl101]

I mean that is immature lol😭and what did u do that was so bad that she left? There’s something missing

[Irobot7]

That I was a bit too clingy as well. I grew up in orphanage so I never a mother, I think that's what is missing. That's why I keep getting attached to those girls whom I really like and keep pushing them away. I'm gonna start therapy to help me mature. I'm in army in infantry, I'm mentally strong but emotionally not.

[SavageGirl101]

Then u should quit dating hun at least until u grow and mature

[Anonymous]

I've probably been through whatever you're going through.
You just have to be more specific.

[Irobot7]

I added my reply to top user so I don't have repeat my self. You just read it and add your opinion here. Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

You say that you were rude to her and now she doesn't like you?
You gotta tighten up your game my friend.
Being rude or arguing with women won't get you anywhere.
You just gotta learn to avoid conflict, avoid touchy subjects and be smooth.
Women aren't perfect, but if you want her to like you, she's gotta like being around you.
I'm not saying to let her walk all over you, just learn to pick your battles, be sweet to her and be the best version of yourself you can be.

[Irobot7]

Ok I'll tell you what I did that pushed her away. I said that I basically usually masturbate to women on ig and she said that it was very immature and I shouldn't have said that. Being around guys in army we always say that. So it kinda slipped out. And another time, is when she forgot our date and I acted out. Those stupid little mistakes that I could have fixed is what got me you know. I make mistakes wish it was easier to fix them

[Opinion Owner]

I think I understand.
Once I was talking to this woman and she asked what I was doing?
I'm brutally honest I told her "Nothing, I jerked off like 4 times today." She was quite offended and told me that she was disappointed in me.
In the past I always had girlfriends that were very open about sexual things so I wasn't expecting her to react that way. I basically told her that I'm a very open person when it comes to sex and maybe we're not right for each other.
I moved on quickly, but we live and learn right?
I definitely don't speak freely about masturbation with every woman now. I take more time to see what their comfort level is and what kind of person she is before we start sharing sexual experiences.
I'm sure your girlfriend was quite jealous that you fantasize about girls on ig and that's just one of those things you might want to keep to yourself in the future.

[Irobot7]

Yes that's pretty much my story. And it's just like why would I say that u know.

[Opinion Owner]

It was just a mistake, don't beat yourself up too much about it.
I remember one time I was having sex with my first girlfriend. She asked me why I all the sudden got so hard and had so much energy near the end?
I told her that I just closed my eyes and I thought about all the girls at my high school that have nice butts, and it made me extra excited.
She was so mad. 😅
At the time I thought I did a good thing because she had a good orgasm and all is well.
I was incorrect and she was hurt.
At that age it just took me a while to understand her perspective.
Sometimes honesty is not the best policy and you learn.
Other women that I knew later on loved talking about sex and sharing fantasies.
I never had to be careful with them.
Hopefully your girlfriend will get over it.
It's weird that she wanted space, she might even be talking to someone else though.
Women are sneaky man.

[Irobot7]

Yeah I think that's also could be the case. And we were just talking we weren't dating. I don't know what to do man. Like I asked her if we done, she said she doesn't know and that she likes me. I want to stay hopefull but then it might hurt in the end. She just could be keeping me on the back burner in case it don't work out with another guy. And I apologized and everything. And she said she will do her best and she is trying her hardest to give me a chance because I made her doubt. I don't know what's the move

[Irobot7]

It would be much easier to move on unfollowing her on everything but then I feel like we might click in few months so doing that could also be immature but I don't know

[Irobot7]

I'm 25 by the way

[Opinion Owner]

Just for future reference, if you're ever in a relationship with a woman and she says she wants to take a break it's usually because she's interested in someone else.
I've been through that situation many times.
I would sit at home like you and lose my mind.
I would wonder what I did wrong and how I am supposed to fix myself.
I would have trouble sleeping and I was so upset.
Meanwhile the woman I'm stressing over is out with her friends partying and sleeping around.
Then a week later she'll come back.
She did this a few times until I figured it out.
I learned when a woman is being inconsistent and confusing and wants a break to just go out and enjoy my freedom because she sure as hell is.
I don't ever stress about them anymore.
To me women are fairly simple. If she wants to be with you, she will.
If she doesn't, she won't.
Put her out if your head for now and just enjoy yourself.
Sometimes these relationship troubles are actually games.
Your best move is to be happy.
If she messages you, she messages you, if she doesn't, she doesn't and it will most likely be because she's talking to someone else.
Oh well, there's only 3 billion more women out there.
Life will go on.

[Irobot7]

Thanks a lot. I really appreciate it. It's really as you know. But with time I'll heal and reflect. It's just I've slept with lots of women and only very few that I've met I was truly interested. Just hurts

[Opinion Owner]

I can relate.
Right now I've got about 3 or 4 of those women in my mind that still hurt me a bit, including my ex wife.
Once I meet someone new I forget they existed completely throughout the whole relationship until I'm single again.
The more days you go without talking to that woman, the easier it will get.
What used to piss me off is after a few weeks go by and I'm over a woman and feeling happy again, guess who comes walking back in the front door.
She shows up and ruins the progress I've made.
We would have make up sex and start the whole toxic relationship all over again.
Anyway, just hang in there.
Take care of yourself, don't argue with women, it's pointless.
Don't let their games get you down either.
Don't blame yourself for everything because some of it could just be her excuses.
She could be talking to others.
You need to meet new women as well so that one doesn't have so much power over you.
Good luck.🙂

[Egirl28]

Talk to me

[Irobot7]

Hey so I met this awesome girl and we been dating for like month and a half and for some reason I was rude twice and I'm not even rude person I care and like her a lot. I pushed her away, now she has doubts

[Irobot7]

I know what I need to do, give her space not talk to her etc. But it's hard. I ask her if we done so I can move on but she says she doesn't know because she likes me still

[Egirl28]

I would say apologize and show her through your actions you value her

[Egirl28]

Space is good but also show her you heard what she said and value her and want to be with her

[Egirl28]

She needs time to process her feelings and it is a good sign that she isn't walking away yet

[Irobot7]

I feel like I keep fucking up. I Teel her one thing that I won't text her but then keep texting and blowing up her phone. I know what I'm doing will push her even further

[Irobot7]

Tomorrow I'm gonna start complete no contact for two weeks, ill try to move on in my mind and heart and after two weeks I'll ask if she interested and if not then I won't be hurt so much

[Egirl28]

Girls want to feel secure in relationships not being consistent can kill our attraction to you as it feels like games does that make sense?

[Irobot7]

Yes but she doesn't reply my text, so no point to reach out. Obviously during this 2 weeks no contact if she reaches out I'll definitely talk to her

[Irobot7]

I'm just afraid to text even more and ruin even more

[Egirl28]

Okay I think your plan makes sense. If she does come back to you just be consistent and kind

[Egirl28]

I hope I helped some

[Irobot7]

Hopefully she does. Just sucks that women can't like give another chances

[Irobot7]

Thanks for talking to me. Helps a lot you know and doesn't take much effort

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Try talking to the girl causing the loss-of-mind.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong

[Irobot7]

If you can guys read above answer and add your opinion on it I'll drop reply to above

[Opinion Owner]

I asked for space before because I needed to gather myself mentally and physically. Most importantly women from his job gave me a problem. you can try talking to her and see where her head at. maybe she asked for space for a different reason. you should try talking to her

[Irobot7]

She asked for space because I was being rude and acted immature. Being in the army around young guys all the time has influence on me. And I said jokes that weren't mature and offensive.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I been there before and still actually is away. it wasn't just his maturity level but the fact he didn't realize what kind of woman I was until I walked away. he was being so damn disrespectful that he don't get like this until he is around them. I even moved out the house for now. he is military and with all my patience I waited until he was ready for me

[Opinion Owner]

one of the things he said to me is what lead me to just be myself until he can figure this out

[Irobot7]

I respect her a lot it's just what I said about certain topic is what turned her off. I just wish space didn't exist and I could just prove myself with actions you know

[Opinion Owner]

I understand but just prove to her that you are all about no games and you are ready for this relationship to move forward.

[Opinion Owner]

and what's the downvote for

[Irobot7]

I didn't downvote my bad if I did accidentally. I'll fix it.

[Opinion Owner]

oh sorry that was someone else I thought it was you

[Irobot7]

Yes I can't really prove it, the only thing I can do right now is basically move on and like hopefully she'll reach out at some point. We hang out a lot, had great sex. She likes me maybe not as much. She even posted pic of us on Facebook. But not on ig. But that don't bother me

[Opinion Owner]

I read your other responses. I’m not comfortable with speaking openly sexual about other men except for the one I’m dating. Sometimes a woman can feel disrespected when you tell her about fantasies with another woman or that you masturbate to other women. I would actually feel heartbroken if this was me.

[Irobot7]

Yes it was very stupid and immature of me. But she knows how much I care for her. But hopefully in time she'll understand that it wasn't my intentions

[Opinion Owner]

Let her know that

[Irobot7]

I did many times. I even send her voice recording. And then I asked her if we were done? She said that she doesn't know yet, and has a lot to think about. And I asked why, I know you just want to let go why you keep talking to me. And she said because she likes me. So I don't know what to think. And she posted our pic together on Facebook but on ig