I'm losing feelings for my girlfriend what should I do?

[SadLover2]

So my girlfriend and I are both 21 we've been seeing eachother for almost 8 months now. We are both heading into our senior year of college. We met in October and during winter break she cheated on me with her ex. I did nothing to deserve it and the news devastated my friends and people who know me because I am probably one of the nicest people you guys could ever meet.

we got back together and she realized all she's been doing. She used to treat me like crap by yelling at me and not appreciating me. And I always just apologized because I always just took it. Now the roles have changed I yell and get i to argument s and it's like someone I never thought I would turn into. It makes me sad. And during the process of being together the second time we broke up before spring break and she ended up sleeping with someone during the break she had a past with. That hurt me because we got back together and before we broke up we spoke about living together after college. Now in this point in time i am losing feelings for her. We get into constant arguments that I mostly start now. But I love her to much to leave her we have a vacation planned together in two weeks.

Why I am worried to break up with her is because I am worried my friends who are somewhat friends with her will still hang out with her. They did while we were broken up before hand after spring break. Sorry if this story is messy but I just really want feed back.

What should I do about my feelings for her. I just feel like everything I do gets her angry as well. I don't know what to do if I lose her but at the same time I am not that happy as I used to be. We are trying to make it work but I don't know if we will be able to. Her cheating tourments me everyday since the day she did it. It makes me sad and I can't fully trust her.

[mjashin]

you see... being nice doesn't mean surrendering your self esteem to your kindness. that's the only thing you're doing wrong. she doesn't love you. she doesn't respect you. she cheated on you not because she is a slut or "it just happened", but because she just doesn't have strong feelings for you. she is lying to herself and you're lying to yourself too. your relationship was over long time ago, you're just afraid to make any step because you're so worried about being nice. let me tell you. you're not bad if you break up with her. it's called "being nice, but also having a high confidence level and high self esteem", which the next girl you will meet will apreciate so much. just make the step and forget about these sad feelings you have right now. so you're afraid that those friends won't hang out with you? then let me tell you. they are not your friends. so you already planned that vacation? forget about it. these are the only things you can do to grow up and to get out of this and to be happy. you either do it or stay sad. no excuses. that's how it goes.

[Novacane]

First of all I want to say is that your are a brave man for enduring all that. I truly understand you because I went through the same thing just recently. I would say speak this with her how you are losing feelings, because it's best to say it then to keep holding to these feelings and leading something that won't be something.

If it truly do love her, despite what she has done, then try different things to get you back on track with those feelings.

About your feelings I feel like not much can be done, but maybe suppress them. I get that you look past all the things she's done but there has to be a point in your life where need to stop and reevaluate who you are and know you deserve better than to be treated like that. Your friends will probably still hangout with her because they are friends. I know because that happened with me, but that's just a part of life. In life we make a decisions we don't like, and it seems you might be in that position, but remember you deserve better.

[chosenskarlet]

I don't think that you will be able to be happy with her. She cheated on you twice already and it's not something that one can easily forget. Forgive - yes, but forget - no, the trust is for her is just destroyed. To me it's sounds like your relationship with her is toxic and obviously you're sad and unhappy. You need to think about yourself and what is best for you, in this case - ending this miserable relationship, because it's only matter of time when it ends. Don't waste any more time in this depressing relationship, you deserve way better. And I mean you're dating her for only 8 months, it's not that long when you really think about it. Getting over it won't be easy, but it will get better in time. Like I said, put yourself first, choose to leave terrible situation for your own good and your own happiness. Be single for a while, reevaluate everything, work on your self confidence and self esteem, concentrate on yourself. Do what feels right, even if it's hard.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a terrible, mismatched relationship. She treated you like shot early on and you let her... I think you need to work on your self esteem and know your value. She cheats all the time... only women with low self esteem that need external validation cheat. You're angry now cause she hurt you and destroyed any trust. No trust no relationship. Sounds to me like you are both better off alone and working on yourselves to be in a better position to have a healthy relationship with someone else. Who cares about the vacation... your mental and emotional health are more important.

[roséevryday]

I understand why you acted the way you did. Cheating twists people in relationships, and the relationship itself. I've been in a similar situation, and the best way to go about this is to have an honest, unfiltered conversation with her about how you feel. And if that doesn't end up the way you want it to, then you have to cut things off with her. You will only become more and more jaded and unhappy as time goes on. I know you guys share friends, but this is for the good of your emotional health. Best of luck.

[LynJT99]

Im sorry to say this, but you have to let her go. If she really loves you, she would have never cheated. Also, she didn't appreciate you in the beginning, then she will never learn how to properly. This is a type of girl who shouldn't deserve someone as sweet as your love. It was a bad idea to get back with her again. Your feelings are fading for a reason, and she already hurt you enough by cheating. You need to break things off officially, because You deserve so much better.

[Browneye57]

This relationship is doomed.
You have a lying cheating witch of a girl (with a B) and you're 'trying to make it work'. Dood, if it doesn't work now it never will - it should be the best it can be IN THE BEGINNING.

And why are you such a dormat? Kick her cheating ass to the curb and go get a girl that actually appreciates and respects you. Take your balls with you.

And you're WORRIED about your friends? Then they're no friends at all.

Don't be so wishy-washy - stand up for yourself! Remember, YOU are the prize!

[OmgItsJoe123]

Look bro, Lebron James whoever breaks you. In other words, leave her for your own good. She enjoys cheating on you that actually being with you. She disrespects you, and no good relationship has disrespect. If you're worried about your mutual friends, then tell them what you feel about her, what she did to you. Tell them everything. If they side with this hoe (I'm sorry), Lebron James them too. Find the nearest trash can and dump their names and memories in it as deep as you could. I know and fully understand it's hard to do so (If I were you, I'd have the same problem), but there are better people out there for you. You still loving her makes you weak in her eyes, and you don't deserve that bro.

[Emsi1425]

Well I think that she is not the one for you. If she really regretted cheating on you the first time, then she won't cheat on you again no matter what. I don't know how you're still with her after all she's doing to you, you should never let her shout on you, never! She doesn't even respect you. And I don't know what makes you come back to her. If you are worried about you mutual friends then you should tell them everything, you should just tell them how you feel and tell them what she did to you. If they choose her over you then it means that they are stupid and fake people. And you don't need those fake people in your life.

[Emsi1425]

I know it's not easy but if your friends gonna choose her that you should just start a new life. You should just break up with her and leave everything. You don't need to tell her how you feel and try to fix the relationship because no one can fix it, as long as she doesn't respect you and still cheating on you, then you don't need her in your life no more. And trust me, if break up with her right now, you won't regret it in the future.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I don't blame you.. She's a hoe and you deserve better. Just break up with her and tell your friends that you need a break away from her so you'll be avoiding outings that involve her. You need to leave this woman, she's not at all loyal or dedicated to you.

[Robsinsf53]

Its not a healthy relationship. I think you understand this. What's really problematic is that you're taking a vacation together. I ask why? You're both miserable and waiting for this slowly sinking ship to finish sinking. Its not the first relationship to fail. I personally would not have signed onto any vacation together. Part ways while cordial to each other.

[Wertime]

Looking at the beginning of your post sounds like a bs relationship. How did you two get back together in the first place? She cheated on you, man. That should be the end of the story right there.

And then, she cheated on you again. I'm just saying. Loyalty is one of the key elements in relationships.

[nomoreusernames]

Her cheating on you so much isn't great. While you should want your friends to interact with you, you shouldn't stay in an unhealthy relationship for fear of them not liking you. I'd say try to fix thing for a while longer but if things really aren't getting better you need to breakup.

[nevermoregirl7]

If your main worry is your friends, it shouldn't be. I broke up with my ex and part of my thing was we hung out with such a small pool of people, but we still managed it. This is when true friends show themselves.

[Lesliem1984]

You should try and rekindle the love lost by maybe going on date nights or do something you both used to do at the begining of the relationship , try thinking of good times you shared and forget the bad as we can't turn back time

[anmari2001]

out can't do anything if you don't feel anything for her
better brake up than suffer in fake relationship

[dionyxes]

leave her it's simple why waist time not being happy

[ryan242]

Same thing happened to me I just lost feelings for him and it felt wrong to string him along.

[momo770]

it will never be the same, and you know what you need to do. Take care

[Isabela_64]

Tell her bout ur feelings

[Slueth]

break it before you commit.

[Anonymous]

tell her hw you feel