My ex-girlfriend and I first started dating back in March. At that time, I was a senior and she was a junior in high school. During the time we were together, I treated her right--I would cook for her, I would surprise her with little gifts, I would always be there whenever she needed me. We would always spend time together, and every time we did, we were always laughing and having a good time. Even after I got her, I treated her like I was still chasing after her. She loved me a lot and I know this for a fact.
However, when I started college, the time we would spend together and go out decreased--I would be too busy with studying and HW and the only time we ever saw each other was when I asked her to come over. However, this only applied in November. She told me she started losing feelings for me and tried to understand why--she never told me she lost feelings until the day we broke up. A few days later, I asked her why and she did not know why. I brought up my thought on why, which was me not spending as much time as I use to anymore, and she agreed that was the reason why. However, she added a little bit more--she said that I would spend time playing basketball with my friends on the weekends instead of spending it with her, I would never call her first, my temper was shorter, and she felt that I was pushing her away by not letting her help me with my HW. This was only the case for November, as kids in my college get really busy. The night she broke up with me, she said that she doesn't love me like she use to--more like a friend now. Before we said our farewells, I gave her one last hug. She held on really tightly and started crying her eyes out, for a good 10 minutes or so. I left and she phoned me, saying she'll miss me a lot and even going as far as saying I'm the best she ever had.
I never gave up on our relationship, even now. I'm still fighting to get those feelings back because it was my fault. I haven't changed--I'm still myself, the same guy who got her attention 8 months ago.
For the ladies, what do you think I should do? What is going on in her head? Will those feelings come back if I tried to show her that I'm still that same old person? Any advice is greatly appreciated. I just don't understand how I'm the best you ever had but you lost feelings for me because I couldn't spend any time with you for a month.
However, when I started college, the time we would spend together and go out decreased--I would be too busy with studying and HW and the only time we ever saw each other was when I asked her to come over. However, this only applied in November. She told me she started losing feelings for me and tried to understand why--she never told me she lost feelings until the day we broke up. A few days later, I asked her why and she did not know why. I brought up my thought on why, which was me not spending as much time as I use to anymore, and she agreed that was the reason why. However, she added a little bit more--she said that I would spend time playing basketball with my friends on the weekends instead of spending it with her, I would never call her first, my temper was shorter, and she felt that I was pushing her away by not letting her help me with my HW. This was only the case for November, as kids in my college get really busy. The night she broke up with me, she said that she doesn't love me like she use to--more like a friend now. Before we said our farewells, I gave her one last hug. She held on really tightly and started crying her eyes out, for a good 10 minutes or so. I left and she phoned me, saying she'll miss me a lot and even going as far as saying I'm the best she ever had.
I never gave up on our relationship, even now. I'm still fighting to get those feelings back because it was my fault. I haven't changed--I'm still myself, the same guy who got her attention 8 months ago.
For the ladies, what do you think I should do? What is going on in her head? Will those feelings come back if I tried to show her that I'm still that same old person? Any advice is greatly appreciated. I just don't understand how I'm the best you ever had but you lost feelings for me because I couldn't spend any time with you for a month.
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