Girlfriend broke up with me because she "lost feelings". What? Help!

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I were together for 6 months. We are in our last year of high school together. She told me she wanted to end our relationship because she just doesn't feel the same way like she did in the beginning. I asked a mutual friend that she's close with and she said that what my ex told me is what she told her. I don't think there's another guy. I know her well enough to know that. I have noticed her distancing her self from Me when we were physically beside each other and her pattern of texting changed. She said she thought about everything for a month which is when I noticed but I thought not much of it.

Anyways, she is my first love and I really do care about her. We had soooooo many things in common, even down to the finer details. I really miss her a lot and I want her back so badly. She's an amazing girl and I hope she finds a person who will appreciate her as much as me if not more. But coping is so hard and it's a struggle cause I love this girl.
I just don't get how you lose feelings all of a sudden and what I'm afraid of I guess, is that I'll never find someone as unique and relatable as she is to me. I'll always be there for her no matter what, but if you have a similar experience of how she lost feelings or how to cope; please do share.

[truthbeknown]

It is hard for you to realize because you still love her so much. She just doesn't feel the same way. There was something there in the beginning, but it wasn't enough to sustain a long term relationship. She didn't lose feelings all of a sudden. Most people start to realize the relationship isn't for them a long time before hand, but they don't show it and pretend to act normal while they assess the situation. They do not want to hurt anyone and continue in the relationship for as long as they can. Either they find a way to make it work, or look to get out. What ever happens, just appreciate the time you had together and her honestly about how she felt.

[Asker]

I really appreciate your insight. It makes logical sense and you're right. But it honestly does suck simply because of how much I liked her :/

[truthbeknown]

Yah man. I do feel sorry for you. Been there! Just be reassured, there are lots of great women out there!!!

[bob111111]

if you just broke up and you want her back you better win the breakup game

if she has any feeling for you then completely ignore her and she'll either come back or be gone forever either way showing that you still want her after the breakup will never work im getting a girl back that broke up with you

[lumos]

Distancing yourself from her is probably good. If you keep hanging around, it'll only be harder for you to move on.

[Asker]

Thanks, I guess I'll have too.

[wasalobster]

hi man... it was the same for me too. we were both same , had similar interest, hell we even looked the same... people said we were perfect... but now she lost her feelings... i think she'll come back cause before i confessed i lost my feelings for her too like for 2 days since i was sick but i got my feelings back when she texted me asking "how are you doing now?"... then i realised the problem was with me... then suddenly i got my feelings back... this time more stronger than ever... and now she lost her feelings... i hope she comes back like we didn't have anything toxic between us... it was a healthy relationship like the one everyone needs... she told me that if she is going to break up with me its her other side and i need to make sure it doesn't happen... but now it happened... but i'll keep my promise that i kept to her that i'll make her change... our relationship lasted a month and half... everyone these days normalize relationship as a timepass using their partners for their personal needs bit our case was not like that we dreamt of a future and good one where in spite of our family backgrounds we'll live happily... I strongly believe that she'll come back to me since i've prayed to God to get me in a relationship with her and i know God will surely answer my prayers again... if there is nothing toxic it will always work out im sure of it !!

[puddles]

honestly dude, know it must be hard, but think you just need to walk away and try to move on... you'll find someone who cares just as much for you as you do for them :3

[Asker]

Thanks man, I guess you're right. But it sure is a rocky road ahead..