Girlfriend broke up with me.. I’m shattered?

[Anonymous]

girlfriend broke up with me after a little more than a year.. she says she isn’t ready for give me her all because she’s still dealing with insecurities from a past relationship before me. I was feeling like she was the one and I have no interest in other girls. I expressed my love and how much she means to me, to her already.. Do I contact her at all or just let it go and leave it be? I am completely broken over this.

[Anonymous]

Accept the closure she gave you and give her the space to heal. I’m sorry you’re going through pain, but one thing you should want to do is be unselfish about this and respect her wishes. When she’s saying she can’t be in a relationship right now, you don’t treat that decision as an obstacle just because you’re having a hard time, by trying changing her mind. You say “this hurts like hell but if you need to be single then I can give you that”. Maybe you will find your way back to one another eventually but not right now.

[Asker]

That’s the thing.. she didn’t give complete closure. Since I’m so hurt about it I asked if we were done for good or if maybe there’s something there when she’s ready. She said she couldn’t answer that right now. It leaves my with a sliver or hope.

[Opinion Owner]

The closure is in an amicable breakup. It’s not her saying with validity that you will end back together, unfortunately, which I’m sure is what would’ve made you feel the best. Right now is the time to just focus on healing, and building your life outside of a relationship with her. It doesn’t mean looking for other women — you aren’t wrong for not being interested in anyone else right now. But making this transition as smooth as possible. If you have close friends/loved ones then seek out their company, try to busy yourself, and keep moving forward.

[FallonSamuels]

Hey.


I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Break ups are never easy. I would advise that you give her the space that she needs. Anything you do from this point - be it begging or confessing your love to try win her back will just feel like you’re smothering her. Try distracting yourself from the breakup; work on yourself, exercise, meditate, go out with friends. If she wants to talk to you, she’ll initiate contact. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. All the best

[VikingWarLord]

She did you a favor.

Over half of married couples divorce and most are cheating on each other. Don't ever get attached to any biitch. Words to the wise. At least you're not gonna get taken to the cleaners for child support and alimony so count your blessings. Now go out and have as much fun with as many Heauxs as you can!

[Shamalien]

Well you could suggest going to therapy together if you really wanna help her work through it, but tbh there’s probably more specific reasons she doesn’t wanna say because it would hurt you…if she wants to heal alone and not with you then there is a reason for it.

[Anonymous]

please leave her be. she has broken up with you. sorry to sound so harsh, but you need it said to you straight. when people break up, they go separate ways. which is what you need to do. it'll take some time, but you really need to start separating yourself from her.

[joeldalton]

Don't contact. Take your L and move on.