My girlfriend asked for a break in our relationship and I don’t understand or know what to do? Have I lost her?

[Anonymous]

I am a 24 year old guy and have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. To give a backstory of the relationship, we started dating and I took her to nice restaurants, cute dates, and it was the most amazing connection I had ever felt. A while in to the relationship I went to NYC for vacation. I brought her back this fancy fur coat from Bloomingdales because I wanted her to have something nobody around here had. Her parents saw it and forbade her from dating me since I was nothing but a “rich city boy” who would break her heart. She was devastated. Long story short, we agreed to see each other behind their back because we didn’t want to give up on us. For the last year, our relationship has been seeing each other a few times a month, talking, and texting because she is too afraid to tell her parents about us. I have always reassured her that I will wait on her and won’t push her in to telling them until she is ready. They told her if they ever found out she was dating me again, they would disown her.

Last week she texted me asking for a break. The first text said, “I have not been very fair to you. It breaks my heart because you have been the man I’ve always wanted. To help us become stronger, could we take a break and then start over? I love you more than anything in this world and I want to be fair to you. Maybe if we start over we could have a normal relationship. You have just given me the whole world and I want to make it up to you. I don’t want to lose my best friend.” A few days passed by and I texted her a Happy Thanksgiving and asked if she needed more time and she said, “ I have really missed talking to you. I feel like we should give it a little more time but please remember it’s not because of you. I love you dearly and I appreciate you messaging me more than you will ever know. I need to figure myself out and not feel like I have been taking you away from living your life.”

Have I lost her? I love her to death and want nobody but her. What should I do?

[SueShe]

I see it as the beginning of the end of your relation.

It seems to me that she is trying hard not to bring it bluntly to you that she is slowly moving away from you but you have to realize and read between the lines that most likely, the break may be a permanent one.

Perhaps that her parents have become aware that she was disobeying their wish not to see you again and that she is the victim of the pressure by her parents to act accordingly.

I don't know how strong her character is but if she is under their pressure and does not want to risk any negative consequences, she may have given in and is slowly parting with you under the pretext of a (temporary) break in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

It is over accept it and the better off you will be. After this maybe you will learn to never develop feelings for a female. She probably has another guy blowing smoke up her ass. You need to start looking now for somebody else. You should of had a side girl to start with. It sounds like she might of had some side action too.

[Avicenna]

Normally a break means it’s de facto over, but maybe not in your case. Let her know you‘re there for her and that she has the wrong impression.

[Anonymous]

breaks are usually permananet but they come across is maybe there is still a chance

[Smilingqueen2]

Ask her