Boyfriend of mine has never been into texting with me. He never responds immediately, even if I text him back immediately after his message.
He always takes at least 20 minutes and often replies also after an hour or 2... He is in his early 20ies and he doesn’t have so much going on in his life but he also doesn’t have friends so it’s not like he’s hanging with them/texting.
Can a guy really love a girl and not be so much into texting with her, we meet few times a week?
I’m definitely not into texting. I don’t really have that millenial/Gen Z communication urgency, I lived half my life where you were either at home to get a phone call or you weren’t, and very often you just couldn’t get a hold of people. We were just happy to have answering machines so we’d even know someone tried to call us. I had a pager in high school, more because it was trendy, but that kind of worked for me. Hit me up, and I’ll get back to you sometime between 5 minutes and 72 hours, lmao. But to quickly old-man-rant, I feel like it was better that way. There’s way too much expectation of all of us to almost instantly respond to everyone. I just don’t care to be in constant conversation all the time. It’s nothing personal, it’s not an indication of how I feel about anyone, it’s just that doing me comes first, and when I’m done doing me, I’ll set some designated time to respond to people. But human interaction will always be on my terms. When I’m public, I’m public, when I’m private, I’m private. And to tie it into your question, I love my girlfriend to death, but I always decide if I’m on the grid at whatever time or not. I gotta be able to disappear when I want, for short periods anyway. Also, sometimes I just forget to text back. I’m not ready to respond and initiate a conversation at the time I read the text, and then I just space on it. It’s just part of the deal if you want me in your life, haha. But yeah, I wouldn’t take it personally that this guy is slow to text back, some of us are just like that, we kind of have designated “office hours” for life when you can contact us, but otherwise, we’ll holler when we holler.
It could be that he has trouble expressing himself when u meet up he probably expresses himself better face to face I sometimes find it hard to express myself through texting I have to think about what to say or it could be that it’s not that important to answer straight away
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We’ve been together for two years... I think he should be able to express himself by now. Sorry that I didn’t mention that before, you couldn’t just knoe
Well thats an old post we broke up now 2 weeks ago and he's not contacting me so its even clearer he's not even suffering. He was just wanting to be with someone anyone, as long as he's not a guy who can't get a girl cuz he struggled with that before. It was never about love, guy who loves u wants ur attention
His native language may not be English like mine😄. And this makes the person very slow. Are you impatient? Or do you miss him while you wait for him to text?
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Nono we speak same language, its not that at all.. does he even miss me if he’s so independent
Women OVER communicate and think texting means whoever they bestowed the gift of vaginal access owes it to them to be listening, fascinated, ALL DAY long, to the minutia of her day. I make it a rule never to immediately text back unless it is an emergency. It encourages this behavior. Its like women never got over passing notes in middle school-notes from guys were brief and purposeful-"wanna hang out after class?" or "Know where to buy any weed?". Girls were multi-page epistles with "code" for various people. Now grown women engage in this behavior. Freaking out when he doesn't immediately text back to every random thought you text bespeaks a huge insecurity. As a practical matter if you want a response ask him a question.
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Well the problem is no matter what question or talk he will take ages. he's just not interested in communicating with me.
here's something that will blow your mind: Guys are not glued to their phones like girls are and a lot of guys do not enjoy texting at all. I dont know why this such a gender thing. Girls love to chat, guys do it because they have to. Girls invest emotions into texting as if they are actual real life conversations, while guys see it as a tool. I text my mom more than i do my girlfriend. I use text-chat as a tool like i use my car to get from point A to point B.
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Why tho do you not miss her? Hm maybe you meet more often than only on weekends
It bothered me in the beginning, because I also thought guys were just stringing me along, but you learn after a while that YES, guys that aren't good at or don't like texting ACTUALLY exist. In the case of the guy I'm seeing now, he's an over-thinker when it comes to texts so we don't chat that often outside of dates, but when we do, he actually does try chatting or asking questions. And when we meet up, he's very chatty and we talk like normal. I would say he would be stringing you along if he read your messages, ignored them or just gave 1 word replies lol.
As far as not responding right away specifically, I try really hard not to do that to people, but I have been guilty of it as well. I think the main thing you need to do in order to rectify that is to specifically tell him that you want to have an actual conversation with him and ask him if he's available to talk and if it's a good time (and also for how long). That right there will clear up a LOT of misunderstandings.
Also, remember that it is also sometimes okay to reply back and forth sporadically. It depends on the context.
I am a horrible texter. I am often busy, using my hands and pretty much ignore my phone. As far as I am concerned if it's important you can call, if it's a text I consider it low priority and it may be a week or so until I even look at it. I've gotten texts from my kid saying "hay, Im stranded at the mall can you come get me?" Six days later. I saw it 3 days later so I texted back " sure call me when your ready"
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Well he doesn't feel like communicating much with me anyways. He is a jack ass
I know such people... It's weird for me to share this😂... But once i had a friend.. he didn't know how to text anyone but he really liked this one girl.. he used to tell me how nervous he used to get n all.. when she is in front of him he can talk for long time.. but he just couldn't text.. so i used to text from his phone to his girl 😂.. i somehow fixed their first date.. & now they are a happy couple.. & they really love each other
I just think he's not into texting much, I've had girls who use to text me and it was just small messages than they stop and one girl always wanted attention she always claimed to be going to the hospital cause of her asthma and I know dam well she wasn't it was all for me to give her attention
She even went to appoint to show me these pictures of a small child and she tried to tell me that she just had a baby well I know dam well the age of the child was not a baby well that is when I stopped talking to her
He sounds like most guys who are not wedded to their phones and do not check their phones constantly, so they do not see the need to immediately reply to texts, this doesn't mean he doesn't love you, men just communicate differently from women if you need him to reply immediately say so in the text.
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Honestly he's alwaysnon the phone just for other trhings
I hate texting I don’t like checking if I received messages I dont like responding to messages and I hate trying to show my personality through text cuz it doesn’t translate so yea we exist
Newsflash tootsie - YOU CANNOT FORGE A RELATIONSHIP BY TEXTING. PERIOD. Just quit this - guys are not your girlfriends - save all that chatty-cathy crap for them.
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Then why all the other guys are chasing me texting like crazy only he isn’t or if a guy is player or not interested
Guys will say and do ANYTHING to get in your panties. That's ALL you're seeing here. The written word has no emotion attached to it (why they made emoticons) and there's no body language, so you're missing out on at least half of what is being communicated. Which leads to confusion and misunderstanding, and then silly questions like this. The ONLY way you'll really get to know a guy is to actually spend quality face to face time with him IRL. It's called DATING.
I dont see how that could be possible; you should definitely lose your shit and murder him with an axe and then wear his skin as a cloak so that you can be together forever.
If you replied immediately and he responds like 20 minutes later, there's a decent chance he's playing something and is texting you during loading or something
Many people are like that. There's no "obligation" to text someone back immediately. I too don't live with my phone attached to my hand. If something is REALLY important, use the phone as a phone and call. Otherwise, it can wait.
I don't know if it has any meaning. I am bad at texting. I warn people though, that I am a bad texter and if I don't respond on time or fully it's because I am bad at it.
