How many people have you slept with? is it a deal breaker for you if someone has a high number?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy a few weeks ago and we really hit it off, going on dates, calling for hours etc. Yesterday he disclosed to me that he has slept with more than 20 women and he is 27 years old now. He does seem very sexual when we have conversations but I have told him that I don't move fast in relationships, and he said he is willing to wait until I'm ready.

Is this a red flag? How many people have you slept with and how old are you?

Still a virgin

1-5

6-10

11-15

16-20

21-25

More than 25

[Anonymous]

If you care about body count, that's major deal breaker. I mean the guy has been very very intimate with many women. I really don't think he had more than 20 relationships in his life. So those girls must be some strangers or one night stands or FWBs he had. Strangers have STDs and other girls have lose morals and if he is someone who goes after such girls, it means sex is very much important to him than real connection and also that he has cheap values. Also how can you be sure if one of those girls still don't call him out as a bootycall?
Anyway that's just my view. It's all up to you. If you go forward with it, just be careful and keep an eye. Gl😊

[EmmaMary]

I would certainly be a little wary of him being a possible Player.
I'm 27 years of age.
Including my husband 5.

[flexin-on-yuu]

You have had 5 husbands?

[EmmaMary]

I suggest you read the question again.

[Asker]

I have been taking things very slow, and setting boundaries that he seems to be respecting. If he was a player, wouldn't he move onto a girl that would sleep with him immediately? I have made it clear that he might have to wait months for me to be ready and he said that he will wait for me.

[EmmaMary]

Under these circumstances I think you can only go with your own instincts.
After all, you've only know him for a few weeks so perhaps he's just playing along with you for the time being.
You might just want to prepare yourself for when, or if he might get bored and tries pushing more advances onto you.

[Asker]

Thank you, I will keep my eyes open.

[EmmaMary]

You are so very welcome and I wish you all the luck in the world. x

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[DJB72]

3. I'm 48.

I wouldn't want to be with someone who sees it as some kind of accomplishment to have had more sexual partners than their age. Double digits would make me nervous. Triple digits requires serious psychiatric help.

It isn't an achievement to play Russian Roulette and not die. It's not an achievement to sleep with so many people they become nothing but a number.

I was in love with every girl; more than that, I honestly believed I was going to grow old with each of them and I deliberately went several years between girlfriends to try and minimise any emotional baggage I was carrying.

[MCheetah]

Let me count right now...

1. Sadie (lost virginity to)
2. Jenna Ju.
3. Jenna Ja.
4. Short Nicole
5. Lisa
6. Neena
7. Ms. Young
8. Ruby
9. Ms. Milion
10. Julie
11. Cookie
12. Tutu
13. Kaitlyn
14. Angel
15. Kristina
16. Tall Nicole
17. Tall Taylor
18. Tiffany K.
19. Amanda
20. Cherry (sucks)
21. Linda
22. Lingling

So, I've only been with 22 women before. Not a lot, considering I'm 34.

(By the way, I legit keep track of every one in my phone contacts.)

[MCheetah]

And it's only a negative to me if they've been with more people than their age. Like a 30 year old who's been with 35-40+ men in her life. It's never going to be a dealbreaker unless it hits triple digits or something.

[Ricky1112]

I have a picture collection and most of there panties as a trophy wife knows and seen the collection before we even went on a date

[PhantomMk]

I don't know honestly for me it indicates that they have a high sex drive and that they’d likely continue having sex with other people. The reason I say that is because I myself am Asexual I can be romantic but sex isn’t really my idea of a fun relationship maybe here and there a few times but really I don’t know. It’s not a complete dealbreaker however I would have to contemplate that for a little bit.

[HikerDude]

Those records are classified. That said, don't get hung up on numbers. Understand that, if the person you're with is sexy, they've been fucking other people before you met and likely during the early phase of your relationship. Sexy people have scavengers literally throwing themselves at them. If you're concerned about this particular guy, make him use condoms and get tested before he gets in without one.

[ChrisMaster69]

I don’t actually know, keeping a count is actually a bit gross

yeah if it’s a couple of relationships fair enough.

does it matter if the girl has had a number of sex partners or the guy.

I think from 13 to 22 must have went over that, but it’s actually hard not to living in Newcastle.

it’s how a person is, trust, respect etc.

you could pick a guy at number 2 of his bed post notching trail or when he gets to 25.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Still a virgin, but I don't feel like I'd care so much, as long as she's clean, never cheated on a previous partner or knowingly slept with someone else, knowing they were in a relationship, unless that person was seperated.

[Cdnowl]

You have to be comfortable with that number. That does seem pretty high. I’d be worried he may have std or something. Lol. I guess the you also need to stand your ground don’t give in just because he wants it

[likelyOK]

For his age it seems like a lot but hookups are so common now it’s hard to say if it is a red flag if he is not using a condom then yea I’d say it’s red one

[Anonymous]

Im almost 26. And have slept with 7 women so far in my life.

and i dont care what a girls count is

My girlfriend has slept with a lot more people than i have, And i dont have problems with it

[iseekpinetrees]

A good ount. Its only a deal breaker to me is its like 40 or 50 because it's like damn bro come one date some people don't just fuck EVERYONE

[okeydoke]

It’s not a red flag unless it bothers you. The fact that he’s being honest is a good thing.

[Asker]

I thought the same thing. He could have hid it from me, but instead he chose to be honest despite the consequences. The fact that he's slept with so many women doesn't bother me, I'm just worried that he'd get bored of only being with me.

[okeydoke]

It’s worth talking to him about. But I wouldn’t consider it a reason to think he! d cheat.

[Dchrls78104]

I'm a virgin. I am 43. I have no interest in dating women with a high body count. I could not learn anything about sex by walking on the beaten path!

[Anonymous]

Yes. At my age, a so called "high number", to me, is a dealbreaker.
I'm 18, still a virgin

[exitseven]

If a girl says 12 it's probably 24. If a guy says 12 it's probably 6.

[itsnotme123]

It's kinda irrelevant in my opinion, although I would prefer she wasn't a virgin. I like a woman who knows what she wants, because lord know I need her to tell me XD

[Anonymous]

I stopped counting at 58 a few years ago. But I’m not good with healthy relationships so I can’t judge.

[Anonymous]

one guy and two girls so far i'm 19 as far a sleeping go's anyways . for a guy thats 20 years old 27 doesn't sound bad

[Anonymous]

I've been with about 60 women. Not all have been intercourse. I wouldn't ever get into a monogamous relationship again.

[novian]

hm if id have to guess wait wait let me see here

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[Anonymous]

Zero, and it is a deal breaker if she has more sexual experience than me. He sounds like a cad; which is a red flag. I am 36.

[Anonymous]

I'm 25. Slept with 3 girls. I don't do girls who have had sex with other guys.

[Agape93]

26 and numbers don’t mean shit to me