The answer is no. For the most, people are attracted to those whom are biologically and culturally similar to them. Subconsciously they are drawn to those whom resemble to them of a close loved one (a parent, a sibling, a past significant other). Majority wish to date someone whom is able to compliment themself. However, looks and attraction to what one desires as attractive is subjective.
My cousin is fat and, being honest, unnatractive and his wife looks like shakira, maybe prettier, but with black hair and light olive skin they have been together for almost two decades (she is in late 30s but looks young and in shape)
they will if they see you are not fazed by their BS. those ones that are hot aren't really so hot in reality. Its often image. They know how moody, bitchy, difficult, and blotched their skin is. They will get wrinkly and fat. Maybe don't have jobs. Don't make assumptions based upon looks and their hair dresser.
Don't let those women get the upper hand on you and go slowly so you choose based upon the heart, integrity, character... you will be way better off.
People are going to date in “their league” Not everyone of course, I’ve definitely seen some attractive people paired up with average or even ugly people. But majority of the time, people want to date someone they have things in common with.
maybe date in your league and give “normal” girls a chance instead of going after the 10s
Lmao? No? Everyone is entitled to choose who they like. Obviously people are going to primarily want to date people who are ideally attractive to them, and obviously people are going to end up with people who they feel are equally or more attractive than they are.
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I think hot is very subjective and just because you look good on the outside doesn’t mean you are good on the inside. There are so much more to dating than just looks. It’s the conversations you have and how well you get along. Are your goals the same? I think everyone has a fair game in the dating world. My boyfriend is a 15/10 and I’m a solid 6 with makeup on but we work because he is my best friend and we are so real and goofy with each other.
No. No matter how "hot" you think a girl is, they are allowed to go for whoever they want. If that is only what you or society consider to be a handsome guy, then so be it. And same goes for the other way around.
@VanillaSalt yea sorry. if u have been on dating apps for 2 years and no girl ever met up with you. Then there is a good chance you are just ugly. People would date plain janes , but not ugly folks. Ugly is just gone too far
So what you’re saying is there no hope and I should just go kill myself or cereal killer and start killing beautiful women because I’ll never be loved? Is that close?
@VanillaSalt ugly people date other ugly people. If my son turns out ugly then I can’t do anything about that. Humans are meant to be attracted to specific physical characteristics
@VanillaSalt dating apps don’t work well for ugly people. You would fare better getting dates through getting to know women friends. Let your personality shine
While I agree is that the right way to do this? Considering current statistics of women to men rates of homosexuality and the 80/20 rule discovered by an okcupid study that means the top 135million women are fighting over the top 30.8million men. This does not include the men and women that has decided never to marry or just leave the dating scene.
In the past this has worked but now with online dating and social media it’s a real problem. Not only this but the quality of these women and men are dropping because women don’t have to be anything to get a man besides look good but men can’t fix many of the things they have no control over. Women are fed up with boys that won’t grow up and the boys are the men that get what they want because they can and the ones that are bitter because they think basically like you said no options for them. This promotes decay in both men and women as is proven by the loss of testosterone and declining birth rate and failing marriage rates.
@VanillaSalt hun evolutionarily, men place a higher importance on physical attraction. While women also require physical attraction too but not to the extreme extent of men. Women consider more factors than men such as: personality and character. Because evolutionarily , a woman who picks the wrong male to mate with , would be costly to herself and her offspring. Since will not be a good father and partner to help raise her offspring. Women also consider other factors such as resources to help raise her children. A mans with good status also helps give her offspring protection from predators
Women have more specific standards but not necessarily higher standards than men.
But honestly people usually date their own kind. Prostitutes date drug dealers. Criminals date criminals. attractive people date attractive people. Educated men don’t like uneducated women. Poor men tend to date poor women. Rich men tend to date rich women
So do you think 50% of women are beautiful and 50% are ugly? Do you think an equal number of men to women are ugly and beautiful? If not then somebody gets left behind and depending on the number of ugly to beautiful men/women this could be a significant number.
Something else that plays into this is single men will never know love. A woman receives praise often through out her life but men do not recover such praise. If their not too specific standards they will never be anything more than average. Meanwhile women get overwhelmed by the attention they get.
@VanillaSalt Ohh.. lots of men do date. Its just that men do all the approaching. Men tend to be braver and bolder and dominant than women. Women tend to be more shy, less brave, less bold. you dont need to be physically attractive as a man to get a date. Plain looking guys get dates as well. But if you're ugly, this approaching technique won't work. You will need to find some other way.
@VanillaSalt Not all women get praise. Ugly women do not get hit on. I remember as a kid , i was an ugly duckling. No guy ever paid any attention to me up to until I was 20 years old. I always felt sorry for myself about why no man wants me.
Suddenly when i was 21, my face drastically changed. I am no longer unattractive. I had boys blushing when they looked at me. I had boys develop crushes on me in college. I had guys call me stunning and beautiful.
Understand that ugly girls go through the same thing as ugly guys. you're really not special.
@VanillaSalt If i were ugly until right now, i wouldn't know what it was like for be hit on or flirted with. I wouldn't know if i had any worth to men. Ugly is also subjective. What may be ugly to you, might not be as ugly to someone else. What you may find attractive, someone else might not find attractive. But there are some people out there who are universally unattractive.
Honestly I can say that 80% of unattractive people are not truly ugly. Its usually because they never groom themselves the right way or take care of their appearance. Ask people about what you can do to look better. Maybe a different haircut? Maybe lose some weight? Maybe workout and get some muscles? Maybe get dressed a little better? All these little things matter.
I used to think that too until I had this overweight, less attractive woman messaging me constantly. I tried to be nice, but I just couldn't force an attraction where their wasn't one. I found myself purposely going into dark mode so she couldn't see I was online. I would then try to message the hotter women on my contact list. I realized that I'm just as shallow as women and we all pursue our most attractive options.
Nah, it is justified. I mean would you date a fat woman? Of course not.
Want to look handsome? Do something about it. Make money, spend your cash on beauty products and get involved into the beauty and fashion. I did. Don't worry, you won't turn gay. Because I did and I am obsessed with women ❤
To see this as a matter of "fairness," indicates a severe woke brainwashing. Attraction isn't a social justice seminar, it's raw feelings. "Fair" has nothing to do with it, nor should it. What are we supposed to do, have the government pass a law that hot women are only allowed to date ugly men in the name of social justice? This is a seriously warped question.
I mean, it depends. If they find a hot guy that is nice and it's not all about looks. Sure. But if their going straight for looks then for me it is unfair. However it is still their choice either way. But looks matter for everybody, everybody is attracted to some looks more then others. I don't hate on them for doing so either. However it shouldn't be ALL about the looks.
So to your question is it fair? Yes it is, if I put in the work to look good (eat good, exercise often, and groom) yes, I expect to date hot babes too. It wouldn't be fair if an ugly unfit slob is waiting to get lucky with a hot babe without having to put the work in. Now if you want a meaningful relationship, looking for a hot babe because of looks isn't going to be enough.
Eh not really it is what they seek and who knows it does not really end where they find that they might get lucky and find that and they might not where they may give up and just have little dates like I wanted a cute and emotional woman but eh I just found women who were 1 of the 2 and just ended up dating until now when it finally happened I met this older woman rose who is 26 and really emotional sense she never had a real relationship just played for sexual use and whatever
It's really shallow and HORRIBEL, and yes we women are like pathetic hookers. We are very low Intelligent to think a hot guy should be preferred for great squar guys. Once again I'm so embarrassed by how ignorant we women can be
@CakesNCream because I'm not as immature shallow asshole , that alone don't make nyme an nice medium great guy, eventhoug bthst might be part of the description of a super medium gyt
I think it is fair to demand someone who matches your commitment to your own health. If you are healthy and make an intentional effort to be (and pay the high costs attached to the vegetables and lean meats and whole grains) then it is fair to demand someone who does the same.
If you are just naturally good looking and do nothing intentionally then I would say no.
So it's not about being good looking, it's about matching decisions.
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Ah I’ve seen plenty of hot girls date average looking guys. I got passed up with when I was younger for average looking guys who were better at the game. Painful at the time BUT I did later score a beautiful 21 yr old fitness model when I was 34. I enjoyed 9 months of hitting that.
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The answer is no. For the most, people are attracted to those whom are biologically and culturally similar to them. Subconsciously they are drawn to those whom resemble to them of a close loved one (a parent, a sibling, a past significant other). Majority wish to date someone whom is able to compliment themself. However, looks and attraction to what one desires as attractive is subjective.
My cousin is fat and, being honest, unnatractive
and his wife looks like shakira, maybe prettier, but with black hair and light olive skin
they have been together for almost two decades (she is in late 30s but looks young and in shape)
some hot girls do not care :)
unattractive*
they will if they see you are not fazed by their BS. those ones that are hot aren't really so hot in reality. Its often image. They know how moody, bitchy, difficult, and blotched their skin is. They will get wrinkly and fat. Maybe don't have jobs. Don't make assumptions based upon looks and their hair dresser.
Don't let those women get the upper hand on you and go slowly so you choose based upon the heart, integrity, character... you will be way better off.
People are going to date in “their league”
Not everyone of course, I’ve definitely seen some attractive people paired up with average or even ugly people. But majority of the time, people want to date someone they have things in common with.
maybe date in your league and give “normal” girls a chance instead of going after the 10s
People can date who they want.
Is it fair to force someone to date someone they don't want to, because people they aren't interested in dating feel it's unfair?
Lmao? No? Everyone is entitled to choose who they like. Obviously people are going to primarily want to date people who are ideally attractive to them, and obviously people are going to end up with people who they feel are equally or more attractive than they are.
I think hot is very subjective and just because you look good on the outside doesn’t mean you are good on the inside. There are so much more to dating than just looks. It’s the conversations you have and how well you get along. Are your goals the same? I think everyone has a fair game in the dating world. My boyfriend is a 15/10 and I’m a solid 6 with makeup on but we work because he is my best friend and we are so real and goofy with each other.
No. No matter how "hot" you think a girl is, they are allowed to go for whoever they want. If that is only what you or society consider to be a handsome guy, then so be it. And same goes for the other way around.
I don’t see you giving average plain janes a chance either. You’re so dying to hot babe that you had to complain online
I don’t see those same plane James giving me their time.
Janes*
Plain janes damnit.
@VanillaSalt Well where are you looking? You ain't going to find the girls who may want you in a bar or club.
Dating apps for 2 years.
I don’t drink. And I’ve been the guy yelled at in Walmart for talking to her... said excuse me.
@VanillaSalt yea sorry. if u have been on dating apps for 2 years and no girl ever met up with you. Then there is a good chance you are just ugly. People would date plain janes , but not ugly folks. Ugly is just gone too far
So what you’re saying is there no hope and I should just go kill myself or cereal killer and start killing beautiful women because I’ll never be loved? Is that close?
One other question. How will you feel when your sons ugly? Will you also tell them they can’t succeed?
@VanillaSalt ugly people date other ugly people. If my son turns out ugly then I can’t do anything about that. Humans are meant to be attracted to specific physical characteristics
@VanillaSalt dating apps don’t work well for ugly people. You would fare better getting dates through getting to know women friends. Let your personality shine
While I agree is that the right way to do this? Considering current statistics of women to men rates of homosexuality and the 80/20 rule discovered by an okcupid study that means the top 135million women are fighting over the top 30.8million men. This does not include the men and women that has decided never to marry or just leave the dating scene.
In the past this has worked but now with online dating and social media it’s a real problem. Not only this but the quality of these women and men are dropping because women don’t have to be anything to get a man besides look good but men can’t fix many of the things they have no control over. Women are fed up with boys that won’t grow up and the boys are the men that get what they want because they can and the ones that are bitter because they think basically like you said no options for them. This promotes decay in both men and women as is proven by the loss of testosterone and declining birth rate and failing marriage rates.
@VanillaSalt hun evolutionarily, men place a higher importance on physical attraction. While women also require physical attraction too but not to the extreme extent of men. Women consider more factors than men such as: personality and character. Because evolutionarily , a woman who picks the wrong male to mate with , would be costly to herself and her offspring. Since will not be a good father and partner to help raise her offspring. Women also consider other factors such as resources to help raise her children. A mans with good status also helps give her offspring protection from predators
Women have more specific standards but not necessarily higher standards than men.
But honestly people usually date their own kind. Prostitutes date drug dealers. Criminals date criminals. attractive people date attractive people. Educated men don’t like uneducated women. Poor men tend to date poor women. Rich men tend to date rich women
So do you think 50% of women are beautiful and 50% are ugly? Do you think an equal number of men to women are ugly and beautiful? If not then somebody gets left behind and depending on the number of ugly to beautiful men/women this could be a significant number.
Something else that plays into this is single men will never know love. A woman receives praise often through out her life but men do not recover such praise. If their not too specific standards they will never be anything more than average. Meanwhile women get overwhelmed by the attention they get.
@VanillaSalt Ohh.. lots of men do date. Its just that men do all the approaching. Men tend to be braver and bolder and dominant than women. Women tend to be more shy, less brave, less bold.
you dont need to be physically attractive as a man to get a date. Plain looking guys get dates as well. But if you're ugly, this approaching technique won't work. You will need to find some other way.
@VanillaSalt Not all women get praise. Ugly women do not get hit on. I remember as a kid , i was an ugly duckling. No guy ever paid any attention to me up to until I was 20 years old. I always felt sorry for myself about why no man wants me.
Suddenly when i was 21, my face drastically changed. I am no longer unattractive. I had boys blushing when they looked at me. I had boys develop crushes on me in college. I had guys call me stunning and beautiful.
Understand that ugly girls go through the same thing as ugly guys. you're really not special.
And if that never changed? What if you remained ugly forever?
Although I just realized you called me ugly but didn’t design it and I only understood it as the base word. What is ugly to you.
@VanillaSalt If i were ugly until right now, i wouldn't know what it was like for be hit on or flirted with. I wouldn't know if i had any worth to men. Ugly is also subjective. What may be ugly to you, might not be as ugly to someone else. What you may find attractive, someone else might not find attractive. But there are some people out there who are universally unattractive.
Honestly I can say that 80% of unattractive people are not truly ugly. Its usually because they never groom themselves the right way or take care of their appearance. Ask people about what you can do to look better. Maybe a different haircut? Maybe lose some weight? Maybe workout and get some muscles? Maybe get dressed a little better? All these little things matter.
No no no no no no the hair stays I like my pompadour.
I used to think that too until I had this overweight, less attractive woman messaging me constantly.
I tried to be nice, but I just couldn't force an attraction where their wasn't one.
I found myself purposely going into dark mode so she couldn't see I was online.
I would then try to message the hotter women on my contact list.
I realized that I'm just as shallow as women and we all pursue our most attractive options.
Nah, it is justified. I mean would you date a fat woman? Of course not.
Want to look handsome? Do something about it. Make money, spend your cash on beauty products and get involved into the beauty and fashion. I did. Don't worry, you won't turn gay. Because I did and I am obsessed with women ❤
To see this as a matter of "fairness," indicates a severe woke brainwashing. Attraction isn't a social justice seminar, it's raw feelings. "Fair" has nothing to do with it, nor should it. What are we supposed to do, have the government pass a law that hot women are only allowed to date ugly men in the name of social justice? This is a seriously warped question.
I agree
I mean, it depends. If they find a hot guy that is nice and it's not all about looks. Sure. But if their going straight for looks then for me it is unfair. However it is still their choice either way. But looks matter for everybody, everybody is attracted to some looks more then others. I don't hate on them for doing so either. However it shouldn't be ALL about the looks.
So to your question is it fair? Yes it is, if I put in the work to look good (eat good, exercise often, and groom) yes, I expect to date hot babes too. It wouldn't be fair if an ugly unfit slob is waiting to get lucky with a hot babe without having to put the work in. Now if you want a meaningful relationship, looking for a hot babe because of looks isn't going to be enough.
Lucky of the draw when it comes to things like looks.
Kinda wonder if we will ever get to a stage where a parent can edit their kids before they are born but anyway
We all want someone we are attracted to so hot babes find your hot dude and live life.
Eh not really it is what they seek and who knows it does not really end where they find that they might get lucky and find that and they might not where they may give up and just have little dates like I wanted a cute and emotional woman but eh I just found women who were 1 of the 2 and just ended up dating until now when it finally happened I met this older woman rose who is 26 and really emotional sense she never had a real relationship just played for sexual use and whatever
It's really shallow and HORRIBEL, and yes we women are like pathetic hookers. We are very low Intelligent to think a hot guy should be preferred for great squar guys. Once again I'm so embarrassed by how ignorant we women can be
Hey don't think like that
I'm pretty sure it's a small minority of women that just want a handsome guy or only care about a big dick
Plus don't talk like you're one of them because you know it's bad 🙂👍
Well done for acknowledging this
Women are fantastic
@JesseCraft07 still hoping to find a decend and human thinking kind of my gender. You might hurry
I've seen multiple 🙂
You are as well
@JesseCraft07 there's a guy behind this account, its quite obvious dude lol
@CakesNCream because I'm not as immature shallow asshole , that alone don't make nyme an nice medium great guy, eventhoug bthst might be part of the description of a super medium gyt
I have no idea what you're talking about
I think it is fair to demand someone who matches your commitment to your own health. If you are healthy and make an intentional effort to be (and pay the high costs attached to the vegetables and lean meats and whole grains) then it is fair to demand someone who does the same.
If you are just naturally good looking and do nothing intentionally then I would say no.
So it's not about being good looking, it's about matching decisions.
Ah I’ve seen plenty of hot girls date average looking guys. I got passed up with when I was younger for average looking guys who were better at the game. Painful at the time BUT I did later score a beautiful 21 yr old fitness model when I was 34. I enjoyed 9 months of hitting that.
This is a loaded question. Do you think it's unfair of normal guys to only want to date hot babes?
Hot babes *only* want to date handsome guys. Just like how normal guys don't *only* want to date hot babes.