It's misogynistic to not trust women who are nice to you?

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It's not that I trust men more, but men are more simple-minded and of animal nature so it's easier to see their real intentions when they approach me - not that I allow too many men around me - only those that serve as rubber stamps for my work.
Women on the other hand are much smarter and unpredictable, that's why I put women close to me or that approach me under very close scrutiny. I've learned to be wary of those who approach me first or want to help because they generally hide ulterior intentions.
Currently I don't lose sight of cooperative girl - she met me and got close to me way too quickly as a collaborator, and for now I'm letting her do it just to see what her real intentions are, and see if she'll really be someone to count on to build my projects.

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I stick to my ideas, which is keep any man at two arms' lenght for precaution, and keep any woman at an arm's lenght as to avoid getting hurt.
People like cooperative girl do their best to gain my trust and sometimes I feel like I should give back some, but it's always better to be safe.
Trusting is good, not trusting is better.

hellacray · Accepted Answer

Women are much smarter?

No... Women are much more manipulative. You see it all the time they try to use their looks or sometimes just the fact that their a girl to manipulate men. Whether it's for money or even physical abuse knowing you won't hit back.

I do have trust issues with women because I've seen women manipulate men. Like in school you see it all the time. The women that didn't do their work wants to copy yours.

And when you say no it's like it's his fault you didn't do your work.

I actually have a relative living in a different country that got married. Then a few months later the wife left and stole pretty much everything. And he's not a rich guy either.

So... No it's not misogynistic you're just looking after your own ass.

razelove · Accepted Answer

100% she's either going to stab you in the back or the wheels are in motion. When these things happen in a work place I make sure to find their signature somewhere, reorganize a couple phones, maybe a laptop or two, and transpose their signature onto a sign out sheet for said items.

Leave the sign-out sheet where it belongs, filed away with other signed out items, leave the stuff out of it's usual storage spot and somewhere handy. If a month or two goes by and they don't screw you, put the stuff back. If they screw you over, just start laughing your head off and say what a fucking thief they are, because truly, you know they are, and the paper trail proves it.

The key to not getting fucked is to fuck everyone before they can fuck you.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

No. The intent behind may be depending on the reason. But issues are trust issues. Just because I don't trust a lot of men now, does that make me a man-hatter? No. Because I don't hate men. God created men and he designed them a certain way. Their sinful ways however are not what God intended. Therefore, I understand the kind of type of man I dislike. But I don't hate them. Hate what they do, but not the person themselves. Even for women. It applies to anyone.

claryy · Accepted Answer

Women aren't all the same, so you can't say that, you are seeing women according the bias and the stereotypes. Some women can't be trust, but also a lot of men can't be trust.

MCheetah · Answer

Nowadays *everything* is misogynistic, so nothing is anymore. And yeah, women are much more deceptive, manipulative, and hard to trust (especially among other women), so it makes total sense. VERY few genuinely nice people exist, let alone genuinely nice women.

Liamj132111 · Answer

Wtf... I would say no but your reasoning... dear lord. Simple minded men, unpredictable women. Yes that’s very misogynistic. Like women are some scheming temptresses out to get you. And for the woman who is working with you she probably thinks your nice.

Poppykate · Answer

Maybe she just likes being around you. Maybe you have some things in common... maybe she is lonely... 🤔. It’s too easy to dismiss people in life as having ‘ulterior motives’.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Meh maybe its a human reaction or youve got trust issues, either way I trust no human.

ErickaAlayna · Answer

I think it can be hard to trust kind people in general when we can’t relate to them or understand their intentions. There is always the fear they may be manipulating us for some reason or another. I would say try to give people the benefit of the doubt more often. You’re probably just shorting yourself in the long run by not trusting or building relationships with people that are nice to you. My motto is hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

worldscolide · Answer

No i would say its normal. I dont trust anyone by the way. Trust is earned not granted.

casserolie · Answer

why is it suddenly bad for someone to be nice? you guys keep thinking too much go see a therapist

Glasgow55 · Answer

I don't think it's misogynistic, but it's a tad cynical.

Anonymous · Answer

It's misogynistic to breathe the air I was going to breathe. Stop oppressing me, man!

MzAsh · Answer

I would say this way of thinking is more gender bias rather than strictly misogynistic.

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

Misogyny is a hate for all women. I don’t think not trusting women who are nice to you qualifies with that.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I don’t trust guys so I can’t criticize

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

its fine to not trust people but your premise of how men and women are is wrong, gender has no effect on personality or honesty.

Nottoxic · Answer

Maybe it's just me, but that seems a rather cynical way to live your life.

Hotshowers · Answer

No but I think it’s heartless if you know they are good people and still treat them like shit.

Kas19 · Answer

No. I don't trust anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

"men are more simple-minded and of animal nature" "Women on the other hand are much smarter" You are more prejudiced and have s much lower opinion of men tbh, you aren't a woman hater

Anonymous · Answer

If you are a man, trusting women is a big mistake as they are likely to turn on you for any reason or no reason. Even if they have been nice to you in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope but I can't see how you can be happy if you don't trust a woman who wants to make you happy.

bones0271 · Answer

It is too complicated to say yes or no

Mia-Wallace · Answer

It's fine not to trust people.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Are you insulting men?

Daniel_Dano · Answer

Women just try useless hard mind games

Anonymous · Answer

Don't you trust your fiance?

CT_CD · Answer

No..

Nachowedgie · Answer

Nope

Catwalks · Answer

I think so

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