Girls, Would it bother you if your man has a lot of female friends?

[MisterTee]

Ladies, would it bother you or make you jealous if your man had many female friends. Like, they are literally just female friends and nothing else. Would you trust him? I have a lot of female friends (pretty much all of them) and I had issues in the past where my girl gets jealous because of my friends. I love having girl friends because I can talk to them better and explain my emotions as I'm somewhat of a sensitive man. What do you girls think?

[AmandaYVR]

I've been on this topic before and some people find me vehemently that if your partner is uncomfortable, then you must stop doing the behaviour.
While I'm a very, very sensitive person and always think of how others would feel, I actually push back on this one. Some people just do not believe men and women can be platonic friends, and to that I disagree.
There are plenty of mitigating and prior circumstances, and personality traits of all involved, here. You can't apply a one-size-fits-all to this, but in general, I think people need to grow up, and get over petty jealousy. Once your partner does something to lose your trust, that's one thing. But if they are treating you well, being respectful, then I say stop trying to control them just because you can't handle them having other interests and influences outside of yourself.
Humans are dynamic creatures, with big brains, and one person in your life is just not going to cut it. You can be loyal, but also have friends, hobbies, interests, conversations, and interactions with others and with life, and it not take away from your core, key, relationship. Let them spread their wings, let them grow. If they come home at night to you, you have given them the greatest give you have - trust. And they may love you even deeper for it.

[Smiley_93]

No, it wouldn't bother me. Then again, I'm not the jealous type of female. I've dated jealous guys and every time it has ended badly. I was a jealous girlfriend with a few of my exs in the past, those also didn't end well either. Sure, a little jealousy is cute but there is a fine line that separates "cute" from "toxic." I learned (the hard way, trial and error) a long time ago that if you're partner wants to cheat on you then they are going to do it regardless of how hard you try to stop it, or how many friends they have of the opposite sex. There's literally nothing you can do to stop it. So in my opinion, it all comes down to how trustworthy & loyal your partner is and how much they respect and value your relationship you two share. My partner can leave with his female friend, turn off his phone for 24 hours and not come home... and unless he gives me reason not to believe him, then I take his word as truth. If somebody is so wrapped up in you that them having friends, same or opposite sex bothers you, then you have major insecurities within yourself to work on. In a relationship you have to have trust, if you don't, then your building your relationship on a unsteady foundation and over time it will eventually fall without it.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

As someone who has a lot of guy friends and just generally seems to click really well with men, for me it would depend on how he interacts with them and what kind of boundaries he sets while in a relationship. I would be completely okay with strictly platonic friends as long as he sets and enforces appropriate boundaries and doesn't allow anything to cross the line, either on his part or on the girls'. I would be concerned if his only friends were women and he acted flirtatious with them or spent unusual amounts of time with them, especially one on one.

[msbrightness]

Do you hold yourself to the same standard?
You don't find any of your male friends sexually appealing one bit?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@msbrightness Yes. I'm asexual, which helps.

[msbrightness]

Asexual with your friends or asexual in general?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@msbrightness In general.

[McMillanD]

My fella also has a lot of female friends.
Before I was in a situation like this I would have said I was 100% cool with it, but knowing what I do know now, my opinion has changed.
Even though I am secure in our relationship I still feel that pang of jealousy. The problem lies in the fact that I can never be 100% sure that he doesn't have feelings for any of them. I don't know what he is thinking or feeling and even though I trust him I still have that "what if" nagging at the back of my mind.
It also doesn't help that they all have to be beautiful, I think if they were less attractive or at least not his "type" it might be easier.
What kind of helps is getting to know them a bit. At least if I know them then I know what I am up against and if I can be friends with them too, It would be easier to feel comfortable with the idea of them alone with him.

[msbrightness]

You can, to an extent, rest assured they are jealous of each other.

[crazyish]

Nope. It would not bother me or make me jealous. The only thing that would bother me is if they had a problem hanging out with him if I was around. I'm probably bias considering the fact that I have mostly guy friends. I know the dynamic and understand that opposite genders can be just friends. I've heard from most females that it would pose a problem, so it's honestly just down to how secure they are and if they are used to being friends with the opposite sex.

[zed-789]

I would say no. Because technically an intelligent person can have a platonic relationship with a person no matter what gender they r. But even the nicest man is stupid and is easily lead or tricked into ruining good things, even if it isn’t his intention. Plus some men have zero standards. I can be friends with an ugly guy and because I’m not attracted to him that lowers the chance of having sex even more. Men can be friends with an ugly woman who has the personality of celery, the intelligence of a rock and a body covered in pus boils and because she has a vagina he would still possibly have sex if given a chance. So because of that... nope he can’t have female friends.

[Vickymoore9]

Yeah it bother me but I get over it if I knew I could trust him my boyfriend has a lot of female friends. The only time it may end for us if it’s a girl who doesn’t respect our relationship. Also if he doesn’t draw the line and also if she can kick my ass and wants to 😂

[Anonymous]

I thrust on him when he is completely honest that he doesn't feel something else. I mean, it's easy to see when he likes other girl. Man are always so clear. The last man that I used to have a crush on him. I was so conscious that he so talkative with girls, he told me "she have a boyfriend or she is dating with someone else" but after a week someone showed me the chats of both (my crush and her) and he was lying. Then he stills come back again and talk to me. I begging to be suspicious about everything he told me. The thrust was broken. Then he was again taking a lot with a girl... They get outside and eat together. I get very jealous and I decided to get away and delete his phone number. But guess what... this time he was honest. She was only a friend but at the begging he was not honest with the another girl. So... Men if you likes a girl... Never broke their trust. Always be honest.

[astrangeaddiction]

Just don’t flirt with them , and treat your girl in a special way. If she sees the difference in treatment between them and her , I don’t think she would mind. But women tend to get jealous ( and they have every right to) if you go sharing everything with your female friends and not her.

[FlutteringFeelings]

0 tolerance from me. I had a decent amount of guys I would text but not out of the intention to hook up just people I knew. I began to lessen the conversation one by one because I know if those people are in my life then it creates a distraction for my future relationship. I am still in contact with someone because we work together but I don’t consider them to be a “friend” anymore. I don’t want my man to feel uncomfortable and if that “friend” respects a relationship then they’ll back off.

[UnlovedWife]

I personally don’t like it. But if that’s who you are then you will have to find someone who is ok with that or even in the same situation (she only has male friends). There is a shoe for every foot. Personally, I see it as a total red flag and don’t even consider dating a man with many female friends.

[doopayo]

No. That’d probably be a good sign that he respects women enough to be able to keep a friendship with a lot of them as studies have shown that when men usually have relationships with women they view a large majority of it as more than just friends