I just wanna find a decent man?

Question

Talking to guys on whisper and telling them I'm 16 when I'm 23.

they continue talking sexually and it's disgusting

I've lost faith in men.

See this is why I've given up. I'm done. the level of predators and pedophiles online now is disgusting and I want nothing to do with men anymore. It's being normalized but just watch you'll start blaming me cause I told him I was younger younger I am. I'm disgusted and I pray you ladies find good men, because there's none. Who the fuck wants a man who think its okay to talk to a young girl online? Is this how men are? I just wanna find someone decent? How can I? I'm not looking on whisper and never was. BUT I just want a decent man. Where can I find one? Where can I just look to see and make friends with a guy? I don't know

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

I look the same at 35 as I did at 14, so any woman attracted to what I look like right now, would have also found 16 year old me attractive.

Do you think that makes those women pedophiles? Because I don't.

Pedophilia is being attracting to prepubecent people, and I finished puberty at 11, not 16.

Being attracted to mid to late teenagers is refered to as ephebophillia, not pedophillia, but most people have little to no appearance changes from mid teens to early 30s if they take care of themselves, so it's based on a false notion of substancial differences, and should just be called teleiophillia (attraction to adults).

This means that anyone attracted to healthy 30 year olds would logically be attracted to teens who also look like those same 30 year olds.

Also worth noting, is that you are 23, not 16, so if he saw a pic of you and was attracted, you would either have to admit that you looked the same at both ages, thus making your argument moot, or that you looked subtancially different, and thus he was actually attracted to 23 year old you, not 16 year old you, which would also make your argument moot.

It seems like you are just trying to invent problems. So stop lying to people, just find a guy you share hobbies with and stop worrying about the imaginary problems he has.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Wait... didn't you just say:
"I've lost faith in men. See this is why I've given up. I'm done."
Well if you're DONE, why are you still looking?
And if men are all disgusting pedophiles, why do you want to befriend any guys?

With your current level of distrust and disgust, I wouldn't want to set you up with any decent guy that I know. What will happen when, or IF, you actually DO meet a good man and treat him like he's untrustworthy until he proves otherwise? Then there's always the obvious question - what do YOU bring to the party right now, except your anger? Why does a "decent man" want you? Tell us, please.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel the same way honestly. I feel like even if you're not decent but are hot and outgoing, you will probably have a higher chance of being in a successful relationship than a girl who is only decent but shy. Try maybe looking for friends, coworkers, colleagues, or people who share similar interests to you (church, sports, music, hobbies), and maybe you'll find someone. Best of luck :)

GhostMochi · Accepted Answer

Why not stop pretending you're 16, get off of Whisper, and go talk to some guys irl or I don't know, make friends with some on a less pedo infested platform and see where it goes.

sawno · Answer

If you wanna find a decent men telling them your under age is not a good start. Go for the guy who is minding his own business and isn't constantly trying to get laid. See if you can get his attention or simply strike up a conversation. You will have much more luck if you also approach guys than if you just wait for the most confident ones to approach you.

jshm2 · Answer

You're the type of simpleton that expects to find diamonds in every sewer.

Whisper is a cesspool of bullshitters and egoists. Nothing good comes from it. It's your fault for building up your expectations for no good reasons.

Why the hell do you think you're entitled to a man anyway? For all you know, they were trolling a naïve kid like you.

JSmuve · Answer

Why are you trying to bait guys into thinking you're seven years younger than you really are and then blaming them when you lead them on? Who's the real predator in this situation? I think you just did all that so you can come here and dump all over guys because you've been rejected one too many times. Perhaps, instead of claiming to be an underage girl and baiting unassuming guys, you act your actual age and go find a decent guy. But something tells me that's not what you're really after.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I've talked with under 18s on here, but never sexually and never in DMS, because I strongly believe that minors have no business talking about sex online. It would be unwise for me to spend any great amount of time with a minor in my country, because too many of them here are loud, aggressive, and disrespectful. I have almost given up on women, too, because most have made themselves ugly in my estimation.

WesBrewer · Answer

Well first of all, online dating doesn’t really work anyway, but to find a decent man you should date a country bumpkin or something, a guy who was raised in a traditional environment being thought traditional things, that way they have morals.

sensible27 · Answer

I think there are a lot of good people.. And not everyone is the same.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

Stop spending all your time online then. It's pretty much common knowledge that it is a haven for creeps and pedos.

JosyJosy · Answer

Goodluck finding a decent man when you lie about your age

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Loads decent men and women out there got take good with the bad

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Are you a decent woman? You're pretending to be an underage girl online catfishing. You sound like trash to me.

fred_durst · Answer

internet is home of sexually frustrated people ,  if you want to met sane guy , try to meet him in real life

RationalMale · Answer

Actually 16 is age of consent in many states, so not really pedo.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

the decent guys are not talking to that 16 year old girl you are pretending to be, you are the one lying

Anonymous · Answer

You're lying about your age online to attract men but you think THEY are bad people? Lmao!

Sophi3e · Answer

Sometimes the good ones fall in your lap. When you're looking, in my experience, is when you run into all the dirtbags.

ayomanwya · Answer

Here’s some advice... stop lying about your freaking age

MrBadd · Answer

Maybe don’t look on a site filled with weirdos.

StunningANDbrave · Answer

Then be gay and quit pretending you're 16

scott04sa22 · Answer

Start going to church

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Are you a decent woman?

princeofromance · Answer

There still out there. Keep looking.

Djaay · Answer

Decent , starts with you first.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes most men are... so sad... im bi now bc of it

Anonymous · Answer

Pssst👀 come here, what's bothering you baby boo!

Anonymous · Answer

the same place you find decent women.

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