I'm 19 still living with parents and Im in love with this girl.. please help?

[BlairL2001]

So I am a 19 year old guy (will be 20 in July) and i still live with my parents but I have a full time job in construction that I get up and go to everyday, have my own car, help parents pay bills, do house work, etc. I met this girl (she just turned 29 this month) 6 months ago and we been talking for over 3 months straight every single day and we have so much in common, we have laughs, we have good conversation, we both feel comfortable with eachother, we both feel a spark and we just have this connection I've never had with anyone and I get butterflies when I see her name pop up, my heart beats faster and she feels the same way. Should I get my own place so I can make things work with her? I have been thinking about it but I been staying with my parents So I can save up money for a downpayment for a place which is very expensive at the moment. Would it be wrong to see this girl while still living with my parents? Should I wait until I get my own place?

[Imcmullan]

Saving for a home while living with your parents is very wise. She should definitely understand this idea. Unfortunately to develop a real lasting relationship with her, you guys need privacy. Can u have this at her place? Is she allowed at your home without distractions?
My only concern is the age difference, I feel like she's too old for you. U are 19.. why would a woman being almost 30 date someone who is clearly in 2 different places in their life?

[BlairL2001]

She has no issue with me being at my parents and supports me staying their until I save up. I do have my own part of the house where can have privacy. I don't see the age as a concern. My parents had a big gap as well and are still together this day and are a very strong couple. My sister started dating her boyfriend at age 18 when he was 32 and they been together 6 years and they have the best connection. I tried dating a girl around my age and it didn't work out and all she did was drink, party and hang with friends. I'm more mature than that and I prefer a mature girl over girls around my age since all they wanna do is drinks and party, not my thing. This girl doesn't drink, party, etc. Besides I'm an adult that's all that should matter, it's not like I'm 16 or 15. I'm legally aloud to date her.

[Imcmullan]

This is very true... and trust me, im in my first relationship now marriage that has ever been close in age. I was 19 dating 50yo men.. so, im not judging... just speaking from experience. At 19, you should be having fun, making mistakes, figuring out what is your life's passions, traveling if possible, falling in and out of love a zillion times in 3 months... why? Bc this gives you life experiences so u have no regrets as you get older... in 10 years when u should be considering children, she won't be able to have any... be happy n I wish you well but also look at all facts. There are girls your age who aren't party animals anyways as long as you're happy.

[BlairL2001]

I've had all those experiences at a very. young age.. I've done traveling, dated different girls by age 13. I wanna settle believe it or not lol. I wanna just go to work, make money, save up, buy a house down the road and have a wonderful wife/girlfriend to come home to.. I'm done experiencing and had my fun and living life times. I wasn't happy doing what other 19 year olds would do, sure I might not be 100% matured but I'm also working on that as well. I'm also gonna Abe 20 soon so it only makes a 9year difference between me and her which is not a lot at all. Me and her have the exact same personality, interests, etc. That's all I really care about. I've tried meeting people and it got no where and I never felt what I feel with this girl. As long as I'm over 18 which is Alos considered an adult, the age gap should not matter. Of I was 17 or under then yeah that is definitely a problem. We wouldn't even be talking to eachother if we both knew I wasn't legal.

[slatyb]

That’s a pretty big age difference. Have you met her? There aren’t a lot of 29-years-old women willing to date 19-year-olds.

Don’t rush to change your living situation. Give it some time. See how it goes.

[BlairL2001]

That doesn't matter. Were both legal adults regardless and that's all that should matter.

[slatyb]

I'm trying to give you best advice I can. I know another young man who married a woman about ten years older and it was a disaster. Have you met this woman? What is she doing with her life?

[BlairL2001]

Well that's their experience, not everyone is gonna have the same experience they did. The main focus should be that I'm an adult, I'm legal and not under age so I don't even see an issue or know why it's a problem. She's got a job and does volunteering at a animal shelter. That's all I'm saying about her since it's not my place to talk about her personal life.

[slatyb]

She's anonymous to us. You are the one who asked the question and I gave you the best advice I could based on my experience seeing teenagers dating adults. Mostly it ends badly for the younger person. But instead I see that you just wanted to brag about how you are dating a hot older woman. BFD.

[BlairL2001]

I wasn't bragging lol. Was looking for advice on if it's best I get my own place or if it's ok staying with my parents. I'm not a teenager, I'm an adult lol. Adulthood starts at the age of 18 and I'm going to be 20 in July soooo...

[Astarlessnightsky]

Why wait, go see this girl, you can always move out or move in with her.

[BlairL2001]

We wanna take it slow so not planning on moving in together just yet lol, don't wanna rush things. I definitely will go see her.. just thought it would be better if I had my own place.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I don't think this stuff matters. If you want your own place get it, if you like living together with your parents do this. But the girl will like you either way if you are meant to be together.

[In_Trance]

I think you need to chill