Is this what we call a rebound 'relationship' ?

[Anonymous]

so I met this guy one year ago, while we both were interested in each other, when I asked him his relationship status he was confused one time he said there is someone ( not a full-on relationship) then he changed and said his girlfriend... I knew something was wrong, I started psychoanalysing him. I could not understand whether he was in an open relationship or in denial. Someone confirmed me it's not an open relationship at least not from his side. He was surprised when I told him that he was having a hard time letting go of his ex who pushed him away and he hid that from his parents. I ran psychology sessions for him and did what I could to help him move on but he was too stubborn. He was not investing much, I was investing more giving him gifts, writing poems etc... Finally, after more than 1 year I wrote his mother and told her the truth and asked her to talk to her son. She brought him to reason and he broke down and pushed me away (because he is angry that I told his mother his secret). I told him to take his time and enjoy his life before going back to dating and if god wants us to be together we will meet again, then I left. Is this what you call a rebound relationship?

[Anonymous]

Yes you were his rebound and you shouldn't have tried to play the hero because that's what pushed him a way more.

[Opinion Owner]

Either way in rebounds people in your position always lose.

[Asker]

My aim was not to be his rebound but to make him realise that it's time for him to move on after 4 years of lingering on the same girl post break up. His mother knows that I was his companion.
It's complicated but the situation was such that I had to open my mouth and talk.

[Asker]

I sticked with him because i felt sad that he was in denial and wasted 4 years of his life. Had I not intervene he probably would have had mental disorder.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not saying it's your fault, i'm meant to say you were 100% his rebound and rebound relationships never work or you could say they aren't considered real relationships.

From what i have read you sound sweet and caring and it's surely wasn't your fault.

[Asker]

ok noted however there was nothing fun ( nothing sexual, no dates apart from the fact that i was sending him love letters and gifts) in the rebound relationship, I ran psychology sessions, I kept trying to open his eyes by being super blunt and putting out sometimes embarrassing comments but he was too stubborn to listen so i got his mom involved and scared his ex away. I left because he has to build himself again and i told him if god wants it we will meet again ( we saw each other the first time at the temple) who knows. Thanks for your opinion :)

[Asker]

by the way he is immature
(another reason why i wanted to help him)
but that's fine he will grow with time... cheers