What do I do with an ex fling who has a new girlfriend but still finds me on other apps or follows me around at events? Is he a narcissist?

[Anonymous]

He'll even leave his girlfriend to go walk up to me. She's completely unaware. But he doesn't want ot be with me or be friends when I ask what he wants.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's not a crime to talk to an ex. What is though is the fact he is happy talking to you behind her back. Tell him if he has nothing to hide by genuinely wanting nothing but to talk to you, to tell her what he's doing.
Why should you be the bad one if she ever finds out he's being talking to you behind her back?

[Asker]

When I ask he just says he doesn't want to be friends or be in each others lives or date (although that's obvious bc he has a girlfriend). I don't know what else to do w him anymore. I just blocked him and walked away the next time I see him. I don't get what game he is playing.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's really the best way.

[Asker]

What do you think his goal is tho?

[TommyMountainFigure]

If I had to guess? I'd say he was keeping his options open for when she breaks up with him.

[Asker]

But he was single for two years before her and also if that's the case why say we can't be friends?

[TommyMountainFigure]

In the whole time you've known him, did he ever use reverse psychology on you?

[Asker]

hmm good point so he thinks if he says the opposite ill want it more?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Don't forget, he knows your innermost thoughts. He knows your weaknesses.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Were you susceptible to mind games when you were together? Did he play them?

[Asker]

Yea.. he def played w me a lot. Seems like his girlfriend is better off w him, they went to Cabo for her bday and he bought her a Versace bracelet.