Would you date a black woman?

Question

So I am a black woman and I know that black women have one of the lowest marriage rates / are one of the least desired races. This, on top of declining marriage rates, on top of higher divorce rates, makes my chances lower, but I still have the intention to get married and stay married one day. I was wondering what the percentage is of men that would date a black woman.

Disclaimer: I see this as a personal preference, so even though I would be disappointed if you said no, I would rather you be honest. I think people naturally gravitate towards people that are similar to themselves so it is what it is.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Just like with any other race of girls, yes if we got along well and found each other attractive. I don't care about race personally and behind white girls, have been attracted to black girls the most.

The issue why black girls are among the least desirable is because more of them tend to be low-educated, belligerent, rude, demanding, entitled, gold-digging, nasty, or unattractive looking. Though this has more to do with socioeconomics than race itself, as trailer trash white girls, while less common, are just as undesirable. I think most men would be into black girls who are classy, intelligent, feminine, and well put-together, but outside of Hollywood celebrities, they are less common in the real world. And economics plays a large part in that.

0112358 · Accepted Answer

Yes.

for what it's worth, the data I've seen around online response rates by race suggests race is actually a much smaller impact than weight, facial attractiveness, etc. Your own characteristics matter a lot more. Beyond that I don't believe black women face a "universal penalty" like it's not like all men are subtracting one from your looks for being black. I think what you get more is a bunch of men subtracting three and a bunch who see you the same as other women. And that's -much better- for you. I think it's more like 1/3 of men are uninterested and your odds with the other 2/3 are just as good. So you're going to get a few more "not interested" just finding the guys who don't care but with the guys who don't care your odds are fine.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Yes. I've never dated a black woman but it was not for lack of trying on my part (it was complicated), but I would try again if I found a black woman that I meshed with.

As for the marriage rates, well yes but I think that is also because the black marriage rates are lowest i. e. black men and black women don't marry each other. The most stable marriage is actually white man black woman however so if you want to stay married that would probably be the best pairing for that statistically speaking. So if you want to date/marry it might be better to try other races/ethnicities.

As for least desirable, statistically that is true based upon SOME studies. However, statistically the second most searched for porn catagory is ebony which suggests that those studies are only part of the story. I think the reason is due to black women being less likely to date outside of their race one, and two, I think their are issues with race relations (as a white man the last thing I want is to date a girl that is going to see me as an evil oppressor and right now that is the dominant narrative in our culture (sadly as its not true and hurts every one)). So I wouldn't take those studies personally. Your best options are to be friendly, open and sincere and make it so that people have positive experiences with you. Do that and your far more likely to get guys of other races to date you. Positive experiences help build bridges between groups as does familiarity so that is something to keep in mind.

Wisenhot · Answer

The problem I find with black women is that they are not feminine. They are very masculine.

This is because the government ( since jimmy carter I believe) has been giving free money to black women for every kid they have as long as there is no father in the house. So there has been an incentive for the black women not to have a father. This has caused serious problems in the black family and it is now extending to all families.

Since the government has been incentivizing the black woman not to have a man in the house and instead the government is “playing the role of he man” “ provider”(through the tax payers money) the women have had to become more masculine because of the lack of protection that they don’t get from having a man. This causes men not to want to be around these women. Why? Because men want feminine women who they can protect. Feminism is doing the same to the most women.

Since women want ro be “strong and independent” men don’t want ro take care of them anymore. And it is my experience that there is nothing that a woman wants more than to be taken care of by a man.

It’s truly sad and I think this is why marriage has declined so much. Something like 80% of divorces are filed by women. That also is a silent cue to men not to get married.

Obviously there are still some feminine women but they are usually from countries that don’t have the freedoms of the west such as feminism.

I hope this helped

MikeTnVol4Life · Answer

I am a white man and I would 100% absolutely date and would even marry a black woman!! In fact, I think black women can be the sexiest women of any race, & have some of the best genetics also, for the most part anyway. (But I live in Knoxville Tennessee, & don't really see very many black women on a daily basis unfortunately) except for while I'm at the gym working out, whether it's doing cardio before work in the morning, or after work doing weight training. I do get to see a few black hotties while at the Planet Fitness on Chapman Hwy, bc it's close to the University of Tennessee & some of the college girls work out there... And let me tell you, Black girls have Incredible Butt's!! Plus they have the Sexiest breasts as well, (from what I've seen online anyway) *I've never been with a black woman before, but I would love to meet one that's into white guy's! (But with sexy Skin, Breasts, Booty's, & gorgeous faces, what's not to like?)
*** But to answer why they have the lowest marriage rates... This is just my opinion, but I imagine a lot of people are probably intimidated by black women bc you always hear that Black guy's have "Really Big" Penises, & an "average" guy would be afraid he wouldn't be enough to satisfy her & would feel inadequate.. (That's just my thought, I could be wrong, but I'm sure that plays at least a small role) -Mike Terry

doopayo · Answer

Black women are the absolute pinnacle of beauty, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. So many other people pay to have our hair, our lips, our melanin but the original will always be better than the copied off brand dollar store wanna be❤️

HiveBee · Answer

Been wanting to date a black girl. I like the girls with natural poofy hair. It looks super cute. I dont like when black girls try to look white.

I didn't always like black women. But as time went on i realized that black women are hyper feminine physically. So much so, that instead of it being attractive, it goes too far and becomes unattractive.

But, I began to see that femininity rather than seeing it as something else because i wasn't accustomed to how they look.

I've seen some black girls who are so stupendously beautiful from one angle, and look like a gorilla from another angle.

I think black women are more like a fine wine or liquor. You have to get a taste for them but it's worth it!

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I’m a male “white”. I think that I would look for a mate based on more than their race. Race is far less a factor for every white friend I have than people of color I know. I’m married to a woman of a different race and love everything about her. I would never rule out a race of people. We all have physical attributes we find attractive so people may lean toward a certain race if they embody more of the traits they are attracted to but in short yes: I would date any race if the personality and physical attraction was there.

Anonymous · Answer

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the only reason I asked was because in different polls I looked at regarding race and love, black women came as one of the lasts (if not last).

While that may be true it doesn't define your experience.

Its no different from saying that on average black men have the largest penises (by 0.3 of an inch by the way over white men) that doesn't mean that every black guy has a big dick and it doesn't mean that all Asians have small dicks.

There are Asians with bigger dicks than black guys, obviously, because averages dont tell you anything about a specific individual.

You are probably American and Americans, generally speaking, are ignorant, racist, Bible thumping nut jobs so perhaps you would do better to move to a place with a less degenerate culture.

Emii_Urashima · Answer

I am bisexual and two of my close friends are black women. There are many beautiful black women living in Tokyo and they come from all over the world. I disagree that your race is the "least desired". I hope that you find a wonderful partner who is deserving of you.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not my preference in most cases, however I'm not entirely saying no. I would date a black girl if she had the features I like and she had an ideal personality. Black women tend to not have the sharper facial features I like and most are "thick". I prefer petite, slim and perky. There's also her culture which comes into play. Most black people I've met are highly religious and when they break out into their culture's way of talking, I don't find it particularly attractive. I guess you can say I prefer a "whitewashed" black girl.

Again though, at the end of the day, what matters to me are similarities. Are we both physicallg attracted to each other? Do we have similar views, interests, way of communicating, sense of humor, goals in life? Etc.

I would date a black girl, but chances are unlikely.

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

I would date a black woman but it isn't just the skin color. I am not looking for some ignorant, loud mouth, uneducated black woman. I have met and seen quite a few black women that I would love to give a shot at dating. They don't have to have the best job or college education but just not the stupid kind of ignorant but that is based more on character because they are a lot of other women of different races I find highly unattractive due to their character more than their skin color. I wouldn't date anyone of that show Dance Moms (never watched it but seen bits on it). I hate the Kardashians. They could give my $50K a month to date one of them and I wouldn't. No one from any of the Real Housewives shows. If I were to date a black lady she needs to be funny, understanding, thoughtful, educated, ambitious, kind, and not hoodratish. If that makes me wrong then I am wrong but I have standards and I will not settle. I just want someone down to Earth.

BoMwarrior · Answer

Skin color is just a preference, similar to liking gal's who have a certain hair color or certain interests. 🤷

"Race" is just a social construct, and "being racist" is nothing more than being a bully or in extreme cases being a terrorist. 😒

As for the marriage rates... I know if more women spoke out against men-hating feminists like Chloe Roma does, or were honest about how certain ideals are designed to keep families from staying together like Candace Owens has expressed, then more guys might be married. 😐

Plus, if more gals took care of themselves physically they'd be happier and attract more guys. "Be the kind of person who you want to marry."

mk200195 · Answer

Absolutely, if we had something in common to make a connection through, like music or movies or hobbies or books, but that’s the same for anyone I would date if I was single. Skin color doesn’t really enter into the picture for me. Maybe I come from a very diverse and metropolitan environment, but I honestly don’t understand why the question would come up. I mean, why wouldn’t I? Now, if you had said “a woman over 7 feet tall” I might have to think about it but asking about skin color seems strange, like asking “Would you date a woman who wore orange?” ?“Someone who wore orange” would probably tell me a little more about the person than telling me what their skin color is.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

I don't base my decisions about whom I date on their skin color. All that matters to me is our compatibility as potential partners.

So long as we'd be a good couple, and find each other at least somewhat mutually attractive (important for physical intimacy, but certainly not the most important consideration), then I'll date a woman of any ethnicity/race/etc. Black, White, Asian, Klingon; it's all the same to me.

invalid1 · Answer

A black girl rejected me. Sorry don't mean to be racist she was a lair asshole. Doesn't represent black girls and black people in general.
But yeah I would, basically especially east African girls because they are the size of my body. I find African Americans and east Africans huge, and a taller girl is a turn off.

ODC2112 · Answer

I live in a country where black Africans are 0.72% of the population, almost all are immigrants who speak the local language poorly. When I volunteered I met several Africans and I noticed that there is an abysmal difference in mentality that often undermines any possible coexistence or makes it very difficult. Of course there are exceptions as for example a friend's mother comes from Burundi and is a very stable couple with her father, but they have a similar (low) cultural level. Everyone else I know who has had an African wife or partner has quickly gotten into a divorce or relationship breakup. I remember a friend who had an affair with a Nigerian girl who left him because he didn't believe in magic. The only ones who had European-like ways of doing things were the Angolans.
Coming to the question, I think it would be very difficult.

amaguqe · Answer

When I say "you" in this text, I don't mean you personally, I'm speaking to everyone.

As non American... I find your emphasis on skin color disturbing. I really don't get why would anyone even pay attention to that and give it any importance at all. Let alone freaking identifying with your own skin. It's just as silly as if I suddenly decided identified with my hair colour.
I guess that there are still cultural differences between people originating from different continents. But if that's the case, wouldn't it be better for everyone involved to learn from those differences, and maybe even adopt parts of different culture. As long as you even think of black folks being somehow different than white folks, nothing will be better.

So, the answer to your question is a resounding yes. Probably. Depends on whether I find a black woman to be good for me or not

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes but the issue is black women as a whole are not attractive to me. Most seem to embrace this thick shit life... nah i like zoe saldana please. Also most seem to be very liberal and into blm stuff. I only date conservatives. And lastly i dont mind some of the ghetto life shit but no hood rat crap. Like sure i like rap too but if i can't take you dancing at a country bar because you dont like any other music or dancing besides twerk shit then ehhh no thanks.

I got the exact same problems with white and other race girls but it just seems like way more black girls have these problems.

MTC29 · Answer

I've dated several black women. The most important thing for me is that they look BLACK, and not like some white chick with a good tan. I like short natural hair, or even shaved down to bald.

At one time I had imagined marrying a black woman who had a daughter. The problem was the ex-husband did not want his daughter raised "white." That guy was never going away. He'd be there forever, and I couldn't deal with him.

DWornock · Answer

No! because if pretty enough for me to be attracted to her, she wouldn't have me. The fact is that in my preferred age range, 40% of Asians, 25% of whites, and only 10% of black appeal to me. And, I know, if a black girl is that pretty, she will not accept me because she can do better.

MDollarBill · Answer

I've seen many black women who would be spectacularly attractive to anyone. And I gather that they are much more physical and sensual than the average white girl. (stereotype, I know) That said, there are cultural and biological differences that must be factored into the whole "attractiveness" and "Compatability" thing. Foods, fragrances, etc. also have a real (albeit subconscious) impact. It seems like every black woman I've ever been around literally drenched themselves in cheap (Avon) fragrances. For me, subtlety, at least in this regard, is a virtue. Also, it seems to me that it's more cultually acceptable in black culture (even church) to be loud and boisterous. Again, I favor more subtle personalities. Please, the lady asked for honesty. I'm trying to be onsiderate but honest here. Don't give me a woke backlash.

BCA6010 · Answer

I put "only if I really liked her" because that's my approach to dating as a whole; I don't waste my time (or hers') if I don't see potential for a long term, committed relationship/marriage. Just clarifying because after re-reading the options I realized that one could be interpreted as considering blackness to be a handicap.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Shit i don't have to read this to respond with no I'm good nothing against all black women but my experience with dating black women is in good and that is all i ever dated and this time i mean it I'm good was a I'm good ok don't eat to get my ass kicked by bunch of black women who still insist girl ain't no moe good as men out there, no matter how good you are to them you still get, i told you all the good men don't exicst kno moe, so I'm good I'm in one piece with my sanity intact, I'm good

blank_expression · Answer

It really comes down to facial features for me. Most black women do not have the features that attract me however some so. It is difficult to describe, but high forehead, medium nose, lips, narrower face overall. Other than that, the black part wouldn’t matter. Some with the right stuff are gorgeous.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Sure. I pick those I'm willing to date based on attraction, shared interests, and compatible personalities; skin color doesn't really enter into it. The only real downside I can think of off the top of my head is not being able to borrow sunscreen; I think most non-Irish people use SPFs that AREN'T listed in scientific notation.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Everyone has preferences on things, but my only preferences is dating a woman, as I would not date a man.

I have never cared what someone's race is, unless they start shoving it in my face.

Even so race, hair color or any other feature is not reason for me to exclude anyone.

Compatibility is the best reason, if I just don't think things will work out.

worldscolide · Answer

Skin color is never a factor to me, it's weather or not I like them as a person. I don't care if she is black, brown, yellow, purple, red... Only one I won't date is clear skinned. I tried that once, when she took her clothes off, I couldn't find the girl.. Never again..

In all seriousness though what I said stands. When I was dating skin color was not a factor.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

As I just wrote on another question I don't care in the slightest what skin colour my future wife has. I care about her faith, values and to an extent her culture. People of today would do well to mature and focus on things that really matters instead of conceived notions on superficial matters.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I already have. They’re definitely more athletic. That’s what I like. Bigger boobs. Bigger booty. Better in bed than most white girls and listen I don’t hold you responsible or blame anyone for any of the low marriage rates. That’s something that has been done on purpose to the black community since Civil Rights. It’s ugly. It’s disgusting. It’s been done by design.

lancecantee · Answer

I had a really nice dating experience with a black woman. Unfortunately, right when we started to hit it off I got a really great opportunity overseas and she had a great career path open up. We parted ways, but I often wonder what would happen if life turned out differently.

hughmathews · Answer

definitely. although im pretty socially inept, so a black woman would have to be patient with me to understand the way she goes about her life, but thats the same with pretty much any woman honestly lol

92KixNcereal · Answer

Yes and hell yes. Plus I’m a sucker for brown eyes. The black women I’ve dated had the most gorgeous of honey dark every shade of brown a hopeless romantic could imagine. Just be out existing looking sexy af and what not. Don’t stop.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Check this is out girl. 😜

Not_Average · Answer

I mean sure, if she’s attractive then she’s attractive. Race is irrelevant to me. I tend to date Latinas and white women because I’m half Latino and half white. The closest I got to a black girl was a dark Dominicana lol

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

If I weren't already married and we meshed well, then absolutely. The amount of melatonin in someone's skin doesn't matter to me, their personality does.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If I liked her and she ticked the right boxes in terms of standards and deal breakers, then sure. I'm open to dating any race, so long as they fit the above.

Nachowedgie · Answer

99% of my answer would be no because I generally find them unattractive

I myself prefer the appearance of Asian women which is quite different to that of Black women so she'd have to be something extremely special for me to consider it but in the long run I don't see myself being completely happy in a relationship with a balck women

(I left personality out of this mostly, because I know everyone is different)

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

If she's godly and intelligent, then yes. But those features are missing even in most white women. So I don't expect to have much luck.

CentralPerk77 · Answer

I have always been attracted to black women - I think my problem has always been they just don’t seem to notice me :-(

ZackBan · Answer

I once made out with a black woman but we never dated.  I would if i like the woman but generally speaking black women features are not my type

Laciandmaci · Answer

I am straight but I would not date a black man, but I would be friends with a black person of course!

razzmatazz21 · Answer

"Least desired race" gtfoh. Must be the same people who think black people don't have IDs or internet. That is some bullshit and not at all true. That being said I love black women!

CharlieDrag · Answer

If it were up to me, yes. But I would be vary of them "ghetto" ones with no class, be they black, white or brown. If it's someone like Candance Owens, heck yeah. She's attractive.

DarcRefractions · Answer

only nerdy or geeky black girls or girly or social award. I think kelly Stamp is beautiful inside and out. but I do have a soft spot for nicki minaj

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

I prefer to date black women because in my experience, they are full of self confidence, they know what they want and besides that a woman of colour are some of the most beautiful women in the world.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Not an American black woman, no. If it was a French, African, Brazilian etc.. Black woman yes. Too combative and confrontational for basically no reason. Also the way many of them act in public is embarrassing.

Barry88 · Answer

Sure, for me race isn't an issue. I can be attracted to women of every race.

Celtero · Answer

If it makes you feel any better white man+black woman in marriage has the lowest rate of divorce.

ohshee · Answer

Yes I would just like every other women they are Beautiful

GJ2154 · Answer

Usually not, since a lot of them aren't very feminine. There are some out there who I found extremely attractive, but they're in the minority from my pov.

abc3643 · Answer

I really would have loved to have dated this one 25 years ago...

SlavBoi · Answer

Of course. It is, however it will sound, on my bucket list to at least date a black girl. I don't know why, you're just different and that makes you hotter in my eyes So yeah, totally

Kabluie · Answer

Already have and continue to do so if they are hot.

Yellovv · Answer

Why not I can, because they are very friendly I have too many lovely customer like that ☺️

alance99 · Answer

I would definitly date her and if things go well would even like to settle down with her and have kids too

wankiam · Answer

I've dated several black women.. makes no difference to me. if she is attractive, she is attractive and skin tone doesn't factor into that

loveslongnails · Answer

I think the option of "only if I really liked her" is silly. I wouldn't date ANY woman if I didn't like her, and I WOULD date any woman if I did.

Andres77 · Answer

I dated a few and married two of them. I ended up marrying a Latina.

Andy79 · Answer

Of course I do, black girls are hot and sexy. I wish to date black guys too 😊

4dmins-4-13itches · Answer

Only if I really liked her which applies to anyone like yeah.

Furuok · Answer

Not looking for marriage that day has passed. Still thoughts of interracial dating have occurred but haven't resolved any.

Would you date a black woman?

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