Would you date a black woman?

Question

Studies show that black women are the least desirable. Why is that?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Careful you're not fetishizing Black women or wrapping them in stereotypes...

But to answer your question: yes, if I wasn't already married to a mixed Black / Latina, I would absolutely date and likely marry a Black, and/or mixed woman. Before my wife and I got together, I 'dated' a few Black women (I saw 'dated' loosely since I've only actually had two official girlfriends before my wife; most of the people I got together with were either friends-with-benefits, or one-night stands).

I'm a white guy, by the way, and to be honest, even though I've dated and hooked up with White women, I've never felt more comfortable or relaxed than when I was with non-white women. One thing I've definitely noticed is the amount of racism Black women receive on the daily. Just to live like everyone else, they have to put up with racism, colorism, stereotypes, and toxicity on the daily. And seeing the comments from others who've posted on this topic, it's like, damn y'all, if you don't know about Black women personally, as in- you've never been in a relationship with a Black person or you have zero actual Black friends, then shut up until you've gotten some real knowledge. I see plenty of stereotypes, even from those people who said they'd date a Black woman themselves. Like someone trying to say Black women are 'less desirable...(due to) the fact a lot of them are very dramatic, loud, disrespectful, etc.' Like no dude- that's a racist and messed up thing to say, especially against an entire racial group. There are 'loud, dramatic, "disrespectful"' (not sure what the disrespect is supposed to be?) women and men from every racial, ethnic, and cultural group, and yet, Black women are constantly believed by many to have all these negative traits.

One word of advice: don't judge, label, or stereotype a group or an individual, especially if you have little to no actual contact with members of that group. So if your only exposure to Black women and Black culture is by occasionally listening to some hip/hop, then keep your racist opinions to yourself and read, experience, learn before passing judgement.

I had a couple (ex) friends who made racist comments when they found out I was hooking up with / dating a mixed Black woman. They said things like 'what's sex with her like? How's she feel (meaning are vaginas of Black women somehow different than vaginas of non-Black women) Are you sure you can handle her? (meaning, as a White guy, would I be able to 'handle' a woman like her) Is it true that the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice? (meaning if she's got darker skin, then she's got to taste real sweet, right?) What's her p*ssy look like?' (again, because she's Black, does her pussy look totally different than say for instance, a White woman's p*ssy or a light-skinned Latina's?) and other similar trash comments. So while it was shocking to hear such hate from people I thought were friends, I'm thankful I learned that about them then, and promptly cut ties with those persons.

So yes, I would 100% date another Black woman if my wife and I were no longer together.

AndrewAzul · Accepted Answer

I don't usually like black women, there's probably nothing wrong with black women, a lot of black women I see online are disgusting overweight, other times I feel like pretty black women can be less submissive or feminine than women of other colors. Like I'm talking, man... Some black women I've seen are nearly manly with their assertiveness. I mean, all the black women you've posted are beautiful and I'd have interest in them, it's just they are not the same women I see. I don't know, I also love the white, or European look. Hmmm I don't know. Perhaps I'm racist. I don't know. I mean I think all the girls above would look better black than white. It would be off it they were white. But man, I do looove white women, I do. I do.

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

I would, there are lots of incredible gorgeous black women, and black don't crack.

That being said, I have mommy issues so she would have to be as different from my mother as possible otherwise it's a no.

Also, culture seems to be the main problem with me dating black men or women. That's probably the main issue for most people. A black person who conforms to the mainstream idealogy and white culture is going to have more people interested. African American culture is certainly unique. I appreciate some of it, but I don't relate to a lot of it. That causes me to be much more compatible with dating white, portuguese, or hispanic men so far.

In my personal experience, I've never met a white man who wasn't attracted to me or did not want to date me based on my color. The one polite refusal stated that he thought I was very attractive and he'd love to, but his mother in Texas was incredibly racist, and he didn't want to lead a girl on because he couldn't be with a woman he couldn't take home to his mother. I thought it was great that he told me that right away rather than starting something that couldn't go anywhere.

Even a lot of racist white people would still have sex with a black person. They just tend to have hangups when it gets to kids and family.

menina · Accepted Answer

I always get surprised when I see this question. I don't know if you're new here or not, but if you are new then I understand why are you asking this.

Yes, unfortunately there are many stereotypes about black women and I've seen awful comments about us online. Sadly here on GAG is not different, so you're brave for asking this.

We're seen as the least desirable because of all these stereotypes and racism overall. Many people still see us as inferior, loud, aggressive, ugly etc..

I don't this will ever change. 😕😞

I'm not sure why you included the last 3 pictures... 🤔🤔🤔

Avicenna · Answer

Absolutely. I have and would do it again.

Conguerito · Answer

Hello,
well I don't understand why black women should be less desirable than other women. Studies are not always right, but nevertheless, there are of course a lot of stereotypes, as stated in other comments here. I am a so-called white man and yes I find women of color attractive, why is that? I don't really know, I feel it. Maybe there is a thing of exotism, but I also like white women. Actually I'm with an African woman in a long distance relationship, I got to know her some weeks ago when she visited me. We got into contact via a common friend who is a child friend of her and lives in Paris. I live in Germany. I always had an interest in women of color and well there are African people that are louder than the average european, they are more outgoing, not all, maybe not most but many. That there a people who say, black women are disrespectfull, I can't say that, what I see is, that many African ladies are strong women and also respectful, thats my impression. I think they know what they like and they say it. Sometimes this can seam mean, but I guess it's because they have to deal with many obstacles and with societies that are more or less "patriarchic". Well I think in so called "macho"-societies also the women are "machas", so strong and knowing how to get their right. Of course that is my impression and of course there are women who are shy and introverted, it's as in every group or society, there is not only "black" or "white", but all in between and all colours. And that's the interesting thing in this world, it's colourful and diverse, and that is what I like.
Maybe I'm attracted to women of color because I also like in many other fields things that are not so common. So I already answered your question, yes I date a black woman.
Of the above fotos of women I like most the 4th, because she has an attractive smile and seems very natural to me, the above women are over-styled in my point of view. So I find the last pictures good, although the women are not "black", but does that matter anyway? For me the color of skin is not so much important, most intriguing assets of a person are face and especially eyes.

Greetings

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

I have and I would again IF she wasn't difficult to get along with. My issue is in a majority of cases I run into women who are extremely brash, over the top loud and just basically difficult to be around. This can be any race by the way.

If she presents any type of "ghetto" personality for lack of a better term then I won't even consider it. This includes having extensive hair extensions, wigs, freddy kreuger nails and a habit of cursing and yelling and just being highly confrontational.

VertigoJ · Answer

What studies does this information come from? Uncle Adolfs guide to eugenics? This is absolutely preposterous. A: How is it quantified? 'We asked 100 men on the street, in 1950s Arkansas?' Absolutely I'd date a black woman. I'd subject them to the same criteria I apparently have 'Is she single?' 'If not, is her husband around?' (Joke by the way). Is she fun to be around? Has she got the required amount of brain damage to possible accept a proposal of a date with me? I think even if there is a group of people you perhaps don't feel particularly drawn to, or you have a heavy preference for a 'type', mine being the Angels depicted on the buttresses of Art Deco buildings, you shouldn't ever be saying you wouldn't date a person because of their 'race'. If look at any of the ladies in the photographs posted, and say 'Ooh, I wouldn't date her because she's black' you are almost definitely inreconcilably stupid.

JacobJordan · Answer

if I wasn't married and attracted to a black woman i don't see why not. it doesn't really bother me what someone looks like. I care more the kind of person they are. though if we are talking why are black women seen as less desirable I would say it may have something to do with the fact a lot of them are very dramatic, loud, disrespectful etc. they add stress to a man's life they do not remove or reduce stress. which for men is a big thing we look at when finding a partner.

Angelo75 · Answer

The thing is, many times black women I have encountered are either overcompensating for some insecurity by playing "princess" and "queen".
Or they really think too much of themselves. Either way, a lot of times I simply don't like their attitude.
Apart from that it happens a lot that they wear fake something like eyelashes (but especially hair). That also is a turnoff for me.

ZackBan · Answer

It's never stopped me before so I don't see why it would now.

That being said I can't deny that on average it is less common for me to find a black woman attractive compared to other ethnicities but that's completely arbitrary and based on certain physical preferences.

All this to say: who cares what "studies" have to say on the matter. The heart wants what the heart ones and we are all desirable to some more than others

Andres77 · Answer

i married two of them (one was half latina), and dated many. no problem with her ethnicity. but i'm done dating any women now, until my daughters are on their own. those are my first loves now. when they are on their feet i'll consider dating again but for now i'm closed for business.

Mag-Man · Answer

These studies are often “self-reported studies” meaning someone went around asking guys what ethnicity they prefer dating, or how do they rank ethnicities when it comes to dating. The result is unreliable, as many factors can contribute to it: age groups, backgrounds, reference images used as examples etc…

It would be impossible to determine if black women are indeed universally the least desirable and frankly pointless.

Personal taste is meant to be personal: the idea is to associate with the ones you have a mutual desire with.

Luke03 · Answer

Not really a matter of skin complexion. It's a matter of face and body. The pics you picked surely don't show an average black woman... it's like picking Margot Robbie's pics and asking "would you date a blonde woman?".

Anyway, looking at the black women in these pics, i'd definitely say "hell yeah instantly"... but these are clearly not average black women... especially the 2nd one. Consider i mostly care about a beautiful smile and a great body, so skin complexion isn't something i take in consideration.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

I would not date a black man or women. Most of my friends are black but most of them r openly racist or get very defensive when something small is said. Its like walking with eggshells with them. I will say tho the only celebrity thats very attractive is micheal b jordan but these types of people do not fall as my type.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've dated many. I see no reason to stop it. That said, none of these women are covered in tattoos or built like a linebacker, trends which are taking a disproportionate grasp on the black community, so it's getting somewhat harder and harder to continue to do so.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would and I have. My last girlfriend was black. Do have to say that our cultures were entirely different, but that wasn't a deal breaker... it was just an opportunity to learn something about a different way of thinking. That was one of my favorite parts of our relationship.

WheelerOfSeeds1 · Answer

As a white greasy dude, yes. I don’t think race matters when it comes to love. The problem is black people are hyper aware of race. And may unknowingly be wary of a white partner. So as long as they don’t see me as a “white male”, I’m cool with it.

Altheavas · Answer

If someone has to express derogative comments about your preference of race you rather breed with, that alone says a lot about your character, and your intelligence. To each their own, they exist in all race.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I don’t date women. I am happily married.
My best friends are from Ethiopia and Jamaica and Haiti… they are beautiful by heart and married with kids like me.

know much about black women…. Where are they from and what are they like?

slatyb · Answer

I've crushed on a few I would have happily dated. I think one would have dated me but I was involved at the time with a horrible woman.

Katebfun · Answer

I'm not a guy or lesbian. Yea> would. I've met many black women as friends ans you can't lump sum all in 1 category.

strateguy632 · Answer

for me case by case. but i don't believe any study like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Very slim chance. Maybe a girl who’s half black, but most of my perception of black women has been all ghetto. Loud, obnoxious, thrashing their own men. Social media doesn’t help either seeing them fight at Wendy’s, McDonald’s, etc.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I might. It depends on if I'm attracted to her. My ex was practically black. She is a dark Indian.

aceleon · Answer

i don't do dating. but if you are asking me purely my attraction then yes especially ifthey are like the 3rd and 1st picture.

Billlewis · Answer

Would I date a Black woman? I've dated/served Black women exclusively throughout my adult life, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Lynx122 · Answer

If she's from NA then no if she's from somewhere else then maybe.

lightbulb27 · Answer

color isn't the determinant, it's character... culture... personality.

Likes2drive · Answer

Most of them are biracial but yes I would and have been with

abitcurious2022 · Answer

This is the first time I hear black women are the least desirable.

Sweetsyrup · Answer

Being a white guy I'm only attracted to black women. Black women are more attractive. Black man just want to get the woman pregnant.

Anonymous · Answer

95%of white men don't like black women and id probably say 50% of black men don't like black women

Nifrayu · Answer

Yes. I actually find dark skin to be beautiful. It's an attractive trait.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have more than one. I care about the person a woman is, not skin, hair, or eye color.

pethouse · Answer

In Highschool there was a black girl I worked with that liked me. Should of asked her out but I had a crush on a girl that wasn’t into me. Missed a lotta chances back then.

Maddy2002_ · Answer

I would dated few. And had few one nightstands, and friends with benefits.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Oh yeah some hotties on TV lately like Jaz Sinclair and Tayonna Paris such

Danny_dan92 · Answer

All the ones in these pictures are examples of black girls I’d date

Raaj4you · Answer

Naturally, I am attracted to girls / women from all races, black, brown and white. I would prefer white girl for dating and marriage.

FenixG45 · Answer

I would date a black woman, but they won't date me.

driven159 · Answer

why not they are all the same color in the inside and that is what is most sexy and there is nothing more beautiful than a wonderful smile.

BLP11520 · Answer

I would, I never had the chance when i was single. I see nice black women all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

It's because of attitude, personality and culture.

Anonymous · Answer

The first picture says it all. Plus they love money.

QuietRunner · Answer

just like any woman, if I'm attracted to her and she is compatible with me, then yes I would White guys and Black girls are sexy together

Anonymous · Answer

Black women are just not for me. I am sorry I am attracted to white color.

exitseven · Answer

If she was nice and was into me I would.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If she ticks the boxes, then yeah.

Anonymous · Answer

What bogus studies have you been reading?

boobliker · Answer

all of them are dateable

Staximus · Answer

I did 26 years ago, I would do it again

dudeinohio · Answer

I absolutely would and have done so.

Paul09 · Answer

If she's my style, yes , yes I would.

syncheart · Answer

Simple answer: YES

Ironic_Method · Answer

If I found one that meshed with me, absolutely.

NathanDavis · Answer

I have

Forceinhand · Answer

I have no issue.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Possibly

Anonymous · Answer

I like that third one!

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no 🙅🏼‍♂️

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I love Ebonies.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I would not

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