Would you date a black woman?

[Anonymous]

Studies show that black women are the least desirable. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

Careful you're not fetishizing Black women or wrapping them in stereotypes...

But to answer your question: yes, if I wasn't already married to a mixed Black / Latina, I would absolutely date and likely marry a Black, and/or mixed woman. Before my wife and I got together, I 'dated' a few Black women (I saw 'dated' loosely since I've only actually had two official girlfriends before my wife; most of the people I got together with were either friends-with-benefits, or one-night stands).

I'm a white guy, by the way, and to be honest, even though I've dated and hooked up with White women, I've never felt more comfortable or relaxed than when I was with non-white women. One thing I've definitely noticed is the amount of racism Black women receive on the daily. Just to live like everyone else, they have to put up with racism, colorism, stereotypes, and toxicity on the daily. And seeing the comments from others who've posted on this topic, it's like, damn y'all, if you don't know about Black women personally, as in- you've never been in a relationship with a Black person or you have zero actual Black friends, then shut up until you've gotten some real knowledge. I see plenty of stereotypes, even from those people who said they'd date a Black woman themselves. Like someone trying to say Black women are 'less desirable...(due to) the fact a lot of them are very dramatic, loud, disrespectful, etc.' Like no dude- that's a racist and messed up thing to say, especially against an entire racial group. There are 'loud, dramatic, "disrespectful"' (not sure what the disrespect is supposed to be?) women and men from every racial, ethnic, and cultural group, and yet, Black women are constantly believed by many to have all these negative traits.

One word of advice: don't judge, label, or stereotype a group or an individual, especially if you have little to no actual contact with members of that group. So if your only exposure to Black women and Black culture is by occasionally listening to some hip/hop, then keep your racist opinions to yourself and read, experience, learn before passing judgement.

I had a couple (ex) friends who made racist comments when they found out I was hooking up with / dating a mixed Black woman. They said things like 'what's sex with her like? How's she feel (meaning are vaginas of Black women somehow different than vaginas of non-Black women) Are you sure you can handle her? (meaning, as a White guy, would I be able to 'handle' a woman like her) Is it true that the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice? (meaning if she's got darker skin, then she's got to taste real sweet, right?) What's her p*ssy look like?' (again, because she's Black, does her pussy look totally different than say for instance, a White woman's p*ssy or a light-skinned Latina's?) and other similar trash comments. So while it was shocking to hear such hate from people I thought were friends, I'm thankful I learned that about them then, and promptly cut ties with those persons.

So yes, I would 100% date another Black woman if my wife and I were no longer together.

[Asker]

I agree with you 100% although majority of the comments are positive. A lot of men are saying that black women are loud. We’re not a monolith what you see online doesn’t happen in real life.

[Malwi93]

yeah they say we r not desirable because they r racist

[AndrewAzul]

I don't usually like black women, there's probably nothing wrong with black women, a lot of black women I see online are disgusting overweight, other times I feel like pretty black women can be less submissive or feminine than women of other colors. Like I'm talking, man... Some black women I've seen are nearly manly with their assertiveness. I mean, all the black women you've posted are beautiful and I'd have interest in them, it's just they are not the same women I see. I don't know, I also love the white, or European look. Hmmm I don't know. Perhaps I'm racist. I don't know. I mean I think all the girls above would look better black than white. It would be off it they were white. But man, I do looove white women, I do. I do.

[Asker]

That’s understandable, I mean at least you’re open to an extent. There’s tons of beautiful black women. I don’t think we’re masculine, I think a lot of us were raised to be caregivers and mother figures. Myself I’m more introverted and I get attention from all races. White women are beautiful, I’m glad you’re honest and open😊

[wolfcat87]

I would, there are lots of incredible gorgeous black women, and black don't crack.

That being said, I have mommy issues so she would have to be as different from my mother as possible otherwise it's a no.

Also, culture seems to be the main problem with me dating black men or women. That's probably the main issue for most people. A black person who conforms to the mainstream idealogy and white culture is going to have more people interested. African American culture is certainly unique. I appreciate some of it, but I don't relate to a lot of it. That causes me to be much more compatible with dating white, portuguese, or hispanic men so far.

In my personal experience, I've never met a white man who wasn't attracted to me or did not want to date me based on my color. The one polite refusal stated that he thought I was very attractive and he'd love to, but his mother in Texas was incredibly racist, and he didn't want to lead a girl on because he couldn't be with a woman he couldn't take home to his mother. I thought it was great that he told me that right away rather than starting something that couldn't go anywhere.

Even a lot of racist white people would still have sex with a black person. They just tend to have hangups when it gets to kids and family.

[menina]

I always get surprised when I see this question. I don't know if you're new here or not, but if you are new then I understand why are you asking this.

Yes, unfortunately there are many stereotypes about black women and I've seen awful comments about us online. Sadly here on GAG is not different, so you're brave for asking this.

We're seen as the least desirable because of all these stereotypes and racism overall. Many people still see us as inferior, loud, aggressive, ugly etc..

I don't this will ever change. 😕😞

I'm not sure why you included the last 3 pictures... 🤔🤔🤔

[Asker]

I agree and surprisingly a lot of people said they would. Black women come in all shades and colors. We’re very diverse and very beautiful

[menina]

Yes, that's indeed surprising. I know that we are very diverse but I don't consider those 3 women black.

[Asker]

They’re half black. I’m also black and I look exactly like the 4th girl.

[menina]

Exactly, that was my point. When I think of a black woman, I don't think about someone who looks like the 4th girl. But that's just me...

[Avicenna]

Absolutely. I have and would do it again.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

I have and I would again IF she wasn't difficult to get along with. My issue is in a majority of cases I run into women who are extremely brash, over the top loud and just basically difficult to be around. This can be any race by the way.

If she presents any type of "ghetto" personality for lack of a better term then I won't even consider it. This includes having extensive hair extensions, wigs, freddy kreuger nails and a habit of cursing and yelling and just being highly confrontational.

[VertigoJ]

What studies does this information come from? Uncle Adolfs guide to eugenics? This is absolutely preposterous. A: How is it quantified? 'We asked 100 men on the street, in 1950s Arkansas?' Absolutely I'd date a black woman. I'd subject them to the same criteria I apparently have 'Is she single?' 'If not, is her husband around?' (Joke by the way). Is she fun to be around? Has she got the required amount of brain damage to possible accept a proposal of a date with me? I think even if there is a group of people you perhaps don't feel particularly drawn to, or you have a heavy preference for a 'type', mine being the Angels depicted on the buttresses of Art Deco buildings, you shouldn't ever be saying you wouldn't date a person because of their 'race'. If look at any of the ladies in the photographs posted, and say 'Ooh, I wouldn't date her because she's black' you are almost definitely inreconcilably stupid.

[JacobJordan]

if I wasn't married and attracted to a black woman i don't see why not. it doesn't really bother me what someone looks like. I care more the kind of person they are. though if we are talking why are black women seen as less desirable I would say it may have something to do with the fact a lot of them are very dramatic, loud, disrespectful etc. they add stress to a man's life they do not remove or reduce stress. which for men is a big thing we look at when finding a partner.

[Asker]

I mean don’t Latina women do it too? I’ve seen a Latina woman the other day yell at her man and the men the comments were saying that’s wife material but as soon as it’s a black woman is perceived as ignorant and ghetto, why is that?

[JacobJordan]

personally I find yelling at one's partner to be not wife material or even girlfriend material. as for why the difference. it could be for a number of reasons. many times when I hear or see stories of black women yelling at their men they are quite abusive with it. genuine insults, disrespect etc. where as latina women tend to be more loud but they talk more from the "I feel" type of situation. I would say a lot of these things really boil down to how the interactions happen. if the yelling is from the point of constantly blaming the other it isn't great. if the yelling is from the point of "I feel unloved, left out, ignored, etc" still not amazing but comes across far better than the other

[Asker]

Well that’s not true. You know there’s majority of black single mothers, they yell at black men because they want black men to do better. Your partner shouldn’t have to parent you, why not step up and be a man? When a black man is confronted with any kinds of facts that wanna resort to making up stories and playing victims. When a black woman is upset it’s for a good reason. I’ve seen Latina women hit their men for no reason and they just take it. There’s ghettos in all cultures

[JacobJordan]

I know a lot of black men that do raise there kids. I think you mean fathers. a lot of men do not want to be fathers. here is the thing though men do not have any reproductive rights. if a woman gets pregnant by us whether she lied about bc or not we have no say. if she wants to keep it she can and if she wants to also come after men for child support she can whether he steps up or not. if she decides to abort it she can. if she puts it up for adoption she can. a for those guys that don't step up flip that question around why didn't those women use birth control if they weren't ready? this is the problem with the blame game no matter what blame is placed where the opposite side of that coin applies to the other. I have seen people get upset for no reason and the way they act when upset is a pretty big indicator of why they having trouble in life. getting upset is one thing how one acts is entirely another. as I said for me personally any yelling is an automatic nope from me. my wife doesn't yell never has. that is why she is my wife. unfortunately I don't think anyone has the full answer for what you seek as the majority of people will be utilizing personal preference and then as for why x group is not desirable they are going to go off what is readily accessible for information. I think the larger issue here is people not finding it abusive when a woman hits them. regardless of skin color

[Asker]

Why don’t those guys use condoms? My state is top 3 for stds. I can’t tell you how many black men tried to force themselves onto me without using any condoms. And, this situation happens for a lot of women. Also there’s baby trapping, when men get envious of their girls and try to impregnate her so he can have control over her even if he leaves. That’s my point, there’s loud and ghetto women in every race. So saying only black women are loud and ghetto aren’t applicable. I’m a black woman im in college getting my degree in mechanical engineering, you think I’m out here being loud and ghetto? Absolutely not I’m quite introverted and I’m very into my studies.

[JacobJordan]

by that same token why don't those women just not have sex if they don't want a kid. this is my whole point you can't call out an entire group of people when that sword cuts both ways. in my opinion any woman who is a decent person not loud, not disrespectful, not argumentative etc is halfway to being attractive. so women that fail in the regards to being attractive tend to be failing more in the personality department. I would advise against lumping everyone into 1 category and look at specifically why people have certain opinions. if you are a black woman who is at least average looking and has a good personality then people will find you attractive. if however you come off as rude, disrespectful, loud, argumentative etc (simplified as not feminine) then people will not find you as attractive. the majority of men WANT feminine women.

[Asker]

You can’t just not have sex. Sex is part of nature. Well all eventually do it. Isn’t it kind of hypocritical for you to say don’t lump everyone together but you said “they’re loud.” You called all black women loud. I’m not loud at all. Black women are feminine, I’m very feminine. Do you not think racism has anything to do with it? I mean dark skin women have been looked at as masculine for decades and decades

[JacobJordan]

I most certainly did not call all black women loud do not attempt to twist my words or we will end this farce expeditiously. the entire point I am making is that if you make a generalization there is an equal and opposite generalization that would apply to you. and what does skin color have to do with anything in fact world wide men of every ethnicity are generally more attracted to Asian, white and latino women. meanwhile according to the exact same stats black women by and large only attracted to black men. which if that stat is accurate it would mean that every one has no issues with each other. but everyone also has issues with black women. which if true would seem to indicate that if everyone gets alone perfectly fine but you as a person have problems with those people then the one common denominator is you the person with all the problems. not the people who get along perfectly fine. so lets not play the race card when it comes to attraction it is childish and silly

[Angelo75]

The thing is, many times black women I have encountered are either overcompensating for some insecurity by playing "princess" and "queen".
Or they really think too much of themselves. Either way, a lot of times I simply don't like their attitude.
Apart from that it happens a lot that they wear fake something like eyelashes (but especially hair). That also is a turnoff for me.

[Asker]

What’s wrong with having confidence? Everyone doubts us so why is it wrong when we have confidence? Also a lot of people wear fake hair. We wear fake hair because it protects your natural hair. I wear braids and my real hair is to my bra strap. I’m also in college and every single white girl here wears extensions

[Angelo75]

Well... you asked... and I answered.
Not interested in a discussion or some reason.

Some people like the color blue... others like the color yellow.
And others green.

It's a taste.

[Asker]

there's a difference between just choosing a color and loving someone. You never know who your soulmate is or who you’re going to fall in love with. It’s important to be open

[Angelo75]

Nope.
Some people will just be open and others (like me) we just know what we want and actively search for it.

Well not anymore. I found who I was looking for over 20+ years ago and am still married to her.

But like I said at the beginning, you asked a question about "why" and I simply gave you an answer.

:-)

[Asker]

Well okay if you’ve already found your SO then then that makes sense. But, I still advocate for people to be open. You never know who god blesses you with🙂

[Angelo75]

And I'll still tell you that no matter how hard all of us try, people will still have favorite or preferences.
Many guys (and also girls) have a preferences.
Some guys love Asians, others love brunettes, some loves blondes, others love blacks, some love redhairs, others go crazy for latina's, some love tall women, other love petites...
Some girls love blonde guys-with-blue-eyes, others go crazy for a black guy, some love super-muscular men.

The interesting thing about this whole back-and-forth we have is that you started the thread with a "question". Meaning people will "answer" that question. A different kind of people will respond to such a thread. In that case the response on the answers shouldn't become a back-and-forth.

Perhaps it would be easier to just start with the statement of something like "I think people should be open to dating black women."
Then some would say "Amen... you're right"... others would say "I don't think so... because bla bla bla". Then you have a response.

Otherwise the only thing you'll end up with is just scaring people of ever answering on questions, simply cuz they are not looking to get corrected on their tastes.

But hey... consider this an IMHO moment.
I'll give no further answers on this topic. Not looking to be changed on my preferences.
Much of succes and blesses.

[Asker]

I think having a racial preference is understandable but I think people should be open. A lot of black women only want to stick with black men and then they wonder why they get themselves into unfortunate situations. Being open, opens a lot of doors for you. That’s all I advocate for😊

[Boomchakalaca]

This asker rlly wants u to date a black woman..

[Asker]

@Boomchakalaca I don’t I want people to drop the stereotypes about black women.

[ZackBan]

It's never stopped me before so I don't see why it would now.

That being said I can't deny that on average it is less common for me to find a black woman attractive compared to other ethnicities but that's completely arbitrary and based on certain physical preferences.

All this to say: who cares what "studies" have to say on the matter. The heart wants what the heart ones and we are all desirable to some more than others

[Andres77]

i married two of them (one was half latina), and dated many. no problem with her ethnicity. but i'm done dating any women now, until my daughters are on their own. those are my first loves now. when they are on their feet i'll consider dating again but for now i'm closed for business.

[Mag-Man]

These studies are often “self-reported studies” meaning someone went around asking guys what ethnicity they prefer dating, or how do they rank ethnicities when it comes to dating. The result is unreliable, as many factors can contribute to it: age groups, backgrounds, reference images used as examples etc…

It would be impossible to determine if black women are indeed universally the least desirable and frankly pointless.

Personal taste is meant to be personal: the idea is to associate with the ones you have a mutual desire with.

[Luke03]

Not really a matter of skin complexion. It's a matter of face and body. The pics you picked surely don't show an average black woman... it's like picking Margot Robbie's pics and asking "would you date a blonde woman?".

Anyway, looking at the black women in these pics, i'd definitely say "hell yeah instantly"... but these are clearly not average black women... especially the 2nd one. Consider i mostly care about a beautiful smile and a great body, so skin complexion isn't something i take in consideration.

[Boomchakalaca]

I would not date a black man or women. Most of my friends are black but most of them r openly racist or get very defensive when something small is said. Its like walking with eggshells with them. I will say tho the only celebrity thats very attractive is micheal b jordan but these types of people do not fall as my type.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've dated many. I see no reason to stop it. That said, none of these women are covered in tattoos or built like a linebacker, trends which are taking a disproportionate grasp on the black community, so it's getting somewhat harder and harder to continue to do so.

[RingOfFire]

I would and I have. My last girlfriend was black. Do have to say that our cultures were entirely different, but that wasn't a deal breaker... it was just an opportunity to learn something about a different way of thinking. That was one of my favorite parts of our relationship.

[Altheavas]

If someone has to express derogative comments about your preference of race you rather breed with, that alone says a lot about your character, and your intelligence. To each their own, they exist in all race.

[slatyb]

I've crushed on a few I would have happily dated. I think one would have dated me but I was involved at the time with a horrible woman.

[burntchicken]

I can relate to that.

[midnightmoon05]

I don’t date women. I am happily married.
My best friends are from Ethiopia and Jamaica and Haiti… they are beautiful by heart and married with kids like me.

know much about black women…. Where are they from and what are they like?

[Katebfun]

I'm not a guy or lesbian. Yea> would. I've met many black women as friends ans you can't lump sum all in 1 category.

[strateguy632]

for me case by case. but i don't believe any study like that.

[WheelerOfSeeds1]

As a white greasy dude, yes. I don’t think race matters when it comes to love. The problem is black people are hyper aware of race. And may unknowingly be wary of a white partner. So as long as they don’t see me as a “white male”, I’m cool with it.

[Anonymous]

Very slim chance. Maybe a girl who’s half black, but most of my perception of black women has been all ghetto. Loud, obnoxious, thrashing their own men. Social media doesn’t help either seeing them fight at Wendy’s, McDonald’s, etc.

[Asker]

Have you seen white college students? They’re just as worse. My social media is filled with black women doing their hair and makeup. I rarely get videos of them yelling and being ghetto.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I’m much older so college girls aren’t for me. Maybe this generation of younger women is like that but all my life growing up that’s what I’ve seen w black women. I’ve lived in Cali, Oklahoma, Missouri, North Carolina, Virginia, they’ve all been the same as far as what I seen growing up and even where I work now.

[Asker]

Well I mean that’s your experience. Not all black women are the same

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure a lot of people think that way. I’m not the only one. The funny thing is having lived in many states as well as stationed in many states while in the military, a lot of them were like that. And I didn’t even date them. That was just from observation. Even the 3 black male friends who I’ve known for a long time will not date black women. I mean you said studies show black women are the least desirable. Maybe this is a big part of the reason why.

[Asker]

Black men who don’t date black women because they’re colorist and self hating. Just like white women who say that gate white men. They had bad experiences with them and they all want to group us all in a category when we’re not. There’s all kinds of black women out there and we’re all different. So having this one thought about black women as a whole is a bit small minded and I suggest opening up your mind.

[Asker]

Hate^

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well regardless I won’t date a black woman. That’s just a choice of mine. Obviously you’re really not interested in the reason why black women are the least desirable when you can’t even consider what I said as a possibility. Have a good day.

[FunkyMonkee]

I might. It depends on if I'm attracted to her. My ex was practically black. She is a dark Indian.