Why would a guy be super interested and then his interest suddenly drops to the ground? Is this a player thing?

[Saralee8901]

Im not sure if im doing something wrong, everything is steady and then the guy suddenly loses interest

[yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo]

No not really. You probably did something to turn away his interest.

I've lost interest pretty quickly before, girls I didn't find morally compatible after knowing them.

It happens, that's why people date first before officializing a relationship

[have_a_good_day]

Reciprocation.
Match my effort.

Women love to play the victim these days and judge every guy as being the same as the bad ones until they prove themselves otherwise.
That's not fair at all.
You start at zero and move to 1, then 2, then 3.. What women these days do to men is make them start at -4.. and they themselves stand still on zero and just waits there until the guy jumps through your make belief hoops for your own amusement.
This makes you feel superior from the get go even if you don't realize it.

Men are not being given a fair chance these days and women are happy with that up until men "suddenly lose interest out of the blue". Then it's the guy's fault as well. 🤷‍♀️

[Exc3l]

You seem like a loser who can’t get a girl lol

[have_a_good_day]

You seem like a little bitch who gets his teeth knocked in a lot 😉

[Aleximorgan]

because they get scared. things go really well and they disappear because its "too much" they'll make some bullshit excuse first too. they'll be like i was feeling not ready like i thought i was etc etc. they are boys not men, men know what they want boys dont. his loss

[FlutteringFeelings]

It all starts off good because it’s new but as time goes on his true intentions unfold.

[ArztSchlachthof]

He might have realised a thing or two about him or yourself - it doesn't need to be negative, though. Also, guys sometimes just look interested while they really aren't. Happened to me several times, girls thought I am into them when I really was just trying to be nice and mindful.

Also, the pace might be too slow. Some just have neither time nor energy to run a marathon, so they drop it in the middle and try to look for a shortcut somewhere else.

[Saralee8901]

But he was constantly bringing up sexual topics regarding me and wasn't really getting to know me as a person. Does that have a factor to it?

[ArztSchlachthof]

Well, we guys bring up sexual topics regarding the other "debater" all the time, no difference if it's a man or a woman. Might have misunderstood his intentions. Or, maybe he found someone else he likes, he got mad over something you did, got some false/truthy information on you that he didn't like or really just realised he doesn't want to have a partner yet. But in most cases, women misunderstand intentions (from my experience, of course).

Also, by saying he "wasn't really getting to know you as a person", you mean that you were both just looking for some fun to have? Because it implies he was either just looking for quick sex or he was ghosting you. Truth be told, in such shallow coherence between you two, anything could have gone wrong or just make him uninterested.

[Overmind]

Playing too many games; I'm guilty of this myself. I can go from hot to cold in an instant once I "see the signs". I know what I want & it's not some confused girl I have to "win over". She's confused about what she wants? That's fine; don't expect me to waste my time while she "figures it out". (small glimpse into my thought process)

[bamesjond0069]

1. Maybe you did something wrong to turn him off.
2. He found someone he likes better.
3. he's busy with other things ie life.
4. he's always initiated conversation and he's waiting to see if you will do it or let him go. Men want a girl who will come after him too you know.

[williamHD]

It could be a million things if he’s a genuine guy he could be going through something? What did he do to show that he stopped liking you? Or it could be simple he found someone else

[Saralee8901]

He just started pulling away and would still say things that i want to hear. When i called him out on his behaviour he just ghosted

[williamHD]

Move on that’s all I can say

[Alyssa11]

Yes it’s a player thing. It’s to see how far you’ll go for him. A man who genuinely wants to be with you won’t risk losing you.

[tatianamay]

Okay, did you guys meet online or have you met in person?

[Saralee8901]

Online

[tatianamay]

Ahh, okay, so I have had a similar experience, except mine was filled with lots of drama. The guy I used to be interested in was fucked up in so many ways more than one. He was a drug addict, an alcoholic, and smoked cigarettes, weed, and what not. And his family was going through a very hard time. He ghosted me for 3 weeks, should have gotten the hint, but I didn’t. He used me as his therapist, you could say. I was always there for him and I thought we had this connection or something, I used to reply like 2 seconds after he texts me or something. The problem was, I always there for him. Is your guy going through something at home? Did you feel like he was emotionally detached from you? Or maybe he’s talking to 10 different girls. The guy who ghosted me, I saw his snap score going wayy up even when he was apparently not online. He was talking to other girls. So that’s another possibility, that’s modern dating right? People talk to 10 different people at the same time. Or maybe he’s just a player. You never know. Guys sometimes lose interest when I don't know, you’re like always there for them? Maybe you’re just too easy (not in a bad way, I meant like you were always there for him and stuff like that) some guys like playing hard to get. But others don’t. It just depends. Either way, the possibilities are:
1) he found someone else
2) he lost interest in you because maybe you were always there for him and he didn’t really get a sense of “thrill”
3) he maybe thought you guys wouldn’t work out
4) maybe you were moving too fast and he wanted to slow it down
5) he may have some stuff going on at home

[tatianamay]

3 )*

[Tstrbrainer]

Drug addicts seems to get lots of girlfriends, cool 😂😂😂.

I need to search for weeds in Amazon

[tatianamay]

@Tstrbrainer lol, we did not date. i stupidly told him that i liked him a lot, and he told me that he liked me too ( i sent him a very long heartfelt text message despite my friends' protest.) apparently his phone broke, so that is why he couldn't text me for 3 weeks, then how did his snap score go from 12000 to 13000 if he wasn't online? smh, i was stupid, im not into guys like that anymore. dont do drugs lol, his whole life is kinda fucked up cuz of drugs

[tatianamay]

@saralee8901 oh and other possibility is maybe you were too nice?

[Tstrbrainer]

Agreed. Anyway, the thing is I've heard that many young women falls for boys who do drugs, I never saw it though.

[tatianamay]

@Tstrbrainer yeah, but you'll see that the guys these women would eventually fall in love are the good guys. bad boys are not worth the hype

[tatianamay]

i used to be so into bad boys, but after coming across this dude, my whole preference has changed. im allowed to date only when i turn 21, so i'll only date a good guy after i turn 21. no bad boys for me lol

[Tstrbrainer]

So you are allowed to date.
I guess your parents are open minded

[tatianamay]

@Tstrbrainer loll yeah, i am hahah. everyone dates these days lol. but my mum is close-minded, on the other hand, my dad told me that i could date whoever i want lol. My dad kind of always wins arguments related to me

[Tstrbrainer]

That's a good thing, to have your dad support you

[tatianamay]

Lol ya

[MotorcycleMan]

I could give you 100 guesses and at least 99 of them would be wrong.
Ask him.

[iseekpinetrees]

Not necessarily a player thing just a lost interest thing.

[fred_durst]

probably you dont show enough interest to him as much as he did to you , so he thought you are not interested with him , and move on

[Shah11]

It's a nature law babe.
Whatever come fast
Go fast.

[nbraun]

Probaly cuz you can't hold a conversation. I be texting girls and the add nothing to the conversation, so I get bored and ghost them

[Tstrbrainer]

You played hard to get?
From your other question, you said you didn't sit closer to him, right?

[JesseJayNeak]

Maybe you're playing hard to get. That's a very big turnoff

[Anonymous]

When he was interested in you, how did you reaspond him?

[Anonymous]

he could be super busy or going through some personal stuff

[Anonymous]

It’s not a player thing. You probably aren’t reciprocating and so he doesn’t feel like picking up your slack.

[FlowerSeeds]

He's just not that into you, plain and simple.

[Saralee8901]

So it was fake all along?

[FlowerSeeds]

I'm sorry that happened to you tho

[Saralee8901]

Im just confused

[Saralee8901]

Well tbh he would bring up the sexual topic more than once I don't know if that plays a factor

[FlowerSeeds]

I mean I wouldn't be cuz I would know right away what it's about and just move on.

[FlowerSeeds]

That doesn't matter if he's losing interest than he only wanted sex and is not that into you sorry but move on.

[boggboss]

Probobly found someone else

[Saralee8901]

Wow seriously

[Xoxocutekitty]

It means he founds someone else.

[Anonymous]

No sex. Play hard to get.

[Omario2049]

Maybe u're the player🤔

[tallcuck]

There is only so much rejection a man can take...

[Anonymous]

Or maybe he got to know you better? Just a thought

[anylolone]

Same thing as girls.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Bad breath?

[Anonymous]

what did you do