but I also notice him online talking to someone whole night and day time to time
what do I take this as?
You haven't proven that you're loyal to him so he's not going to put his life on hold and wait 3 months for you. There's always a period of time when people get to know each other IN PERSON before a relationship becomes serious. He would be foolish to put his life on hold for you. Also he wants you to know that he has other options and he wants to remind himself of that too. It's not looking good for you.
You should have thought about this before you started something with somebody you can't even meet for months.
by the way he keeps texting him when I never initiate a text. And what pissed me off the most is when he said. “ By the time you land we'll either basically already be in a relationship or we'll have stopped talking long before you got home” ? Why threaten me I find it very manipulative
@TessCasie He's not threatening you. He's just stating facts.
@MalesGOD1 You're what is known as a drive-by troll. That's why you don't have any reputation on this site yet you come in here hurling an accusation at me... www.urbandictionary.com/define.php
Next.
I don't know of anyone that would be talking to friends for a such a long time all evening and day, flirting, girl/boyfriend is common. Oh I hate trying to give my opinion when I don't know the person. Judging can cause problems, but I don't you or anyone in the same situation getting hurt.
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We are genetically programmed to "spread our seed" far and wide. Only most religions and governments tell people that one women one man is the right thing to do. if children were not so overly expensive these days both men and women would be screwing every one that they can and women would not complain. Men and their children would have excellent relationships since women would not be bitter because of money. Its like prostitution, its largely illegal around the world because of two things. One is because the population would plummet to levels so low society could never survive and two because if women can't fund their children's raising and or men can't/don't/won't fund the children the government has to. And that would be a lot of children. Do you see the connection there?
He's hedging his bets, because he doesn't trust you yet. Apparently he still senses that you are playing games with him. You haven't proven yourself trustworthy. You haven't given him enough reason to fully invest in you.
Why can’t he just wait until I come back. Why he so in hurry like saying “ your coming back in three months so either it’ll be a serious relationship or we would stop talking to each other long time” ? I’m also getting to know another two men online even they waiting to meet up with me once back to the country. But they very cool and collected no hurry. Unlike this 40 year old divorced guy
to stop another guy dating you
1. "Why can’t he just wait until I come back.". Because there's no guarantee that you'll be his girlfriend. And you're not even giving him any confidence that that's what you want. You're being wishy-washy.
2. "I’m also getting to know another two men online.". BINGO. You're proving my point. You're talking to other people as well. (by the way, I hope you know that makes you a hypocrite.)
3. "even they waiting to meet up with me once back to the country. But they very cool and collected no hurry.". Maybe they don't really care whether they date you or not. So I predict that there will probably be less passion in the relationship if you get together with one of these guys.
I have decided to not talk to him anymore. I’ll only message him once back. I don’t like him saying all these things of either we are in relationship once your back or we stop talking altogether when I can see he is talking to another woman day and night on chat. I’m done with him. Will message him only after I land the country.
You're not making any sense. If you don't want him to wait for you, then why do you care what he does? Why are you posting questions about him on GAG?
Him not waiting for you would mean you're dead to him. You're history. Don't you understand that?
You show interest if you're interested in someone. He WANTS to meet you face to face! Don't you get it?
That's fine if you don't want to talk to him anymore, though. I never liked him anyway.
How did u know he talking with someone else day night?
But queen how did u know he doing with other girls? You have proof?
I take it you mean he is sexting another woman?
Or is it women? Do you know how many women?
@IDontBelieveIt I don't know cause we met online so it’s quite obvious he is talking to others too
So you been dating 3 months if I remember? Did you meet on a dating site, and that is where he is talking to other women and for long hours? If this is the case, why? Or is it say Facebook, Twitter etc. I would think mainly just friends.
@IDontBelieveIt online dating site ain’t for friendship that’s weird
@IDontBelieveIt we haven’t met yet in person. Read my detail description
It sounds like keeping his options open, incase it doesn't work out between you both, worse case would be if he is hooking up with them now, that's not on if that is what he's doing, how my mind works is when I start dating depends how well we have bonded if good, looks promising probably before the month us up or a bit earlier, I wouldn't be on a dating site still talking with other girls.
If you can prove he is sexting that would be a huge red warning sign, if you're serious you only sext with the one you are dating, no if's or but's.
I wouldn't take him seriously if he lives in another country, unless it's within a few hours of you
Every guy knows that a million and one things can destroy a budding relationship… from a practical standpoint, it is best to have a few irons in the fire until one gets hot.
My attention span is insufficiently broad enough to be able to focus on more than one female simultaneously.
Yeah; same here. Any yet they get put off it we give them all of our attention and try to build a meaningful relationship.
So that trains men to be players, because it's a biological adaptation to the behavior of women.
Women are illogical and self-sabotaging.
I don't. I don't know why others do. It's probably to have options because most relationships end.
Why do women cheat on men after being committed for months, years, or even decades then proceed to blame the men?
Because he is used up manwhore. Dont date sich male sluts, if you dont want to be a cuck. You deserve better
That means he's not taking you serious if he's still talking to other girls
I talk to a lot of women, that does not mean do not take them seriously!
But this is on a dating site!
I wouldn't date more than one woman at a time.
What does he mean by “you’re coming back?”
Ah, ok. Well then if you’re interested in a relationship with him, talk to him about it. Maybe he’s talking to other girls for now because he doesn’t know if you’re serious about him. Or is he playing around until you’re back?
I’m always online to chat he keeps a tap on me but I see him talking to another woman day and night. He even said stupid things like” by the time you’ll be back well either be in relationship or stop talking all together “ what confuses me is he doesn’t talk much to me as much I see him online talking to another woman.
Same reason chicks do it.
That is very true you shouldn’t do that
I don't
Well, I really only talked to one woman at a time. If one wasn't ideal, then on to the next and so forth.
my thoughts too
Because women are flaky ad FUCK
hahahahaha
no.
I am monogamous.
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