Guys why do you just randomly stop talking to a girl?

[Anonymous]

you are just friends with someone, you even have a girlfriend... and you are actually pretty good friends with that person and you talk everyday. why do you just randomly stop talking to her?

[sean24]

his girlfriend may be tripping out about you 2 talking so much and that jealousy leads to him becoming rude without him really wanting to do that because when I got into a long relationship my senior year in high school my girlfriend pretty much took me away from most of my friends and I didn't even realize it so now that I broke up with her its hard to patch things back up but so far so good like with talking to girls again but I don't know it just happen because that significant other always takes over somehow but try not to worry about it too much maybe one day he will wake up and see what a good friend you are

[Asker]

wellllll...the girlfriend has no idea we talk I mean it hasn't been like specifically stated but if you understood the type of situation, it'd be really understandable that she doesn't know. we're supposed to be good friends.. bleh.

[sean24]

then he himself could just feel like he shouldn't be talking to you because he's so hooked on this one girl and that's the only one he really wants to talk to because every time I got in a relationship I would drop every other girl I would just talk to as a friend because I didn't want the girl to think I would be cheating or something and honestly I don't know what the hell I was thinking because they are the nicest girls and now I'm left with barely a few friends who are girls

[Asker]

nono its not like that... I mean I'm sure I'd be able to tell the difference. I mean maybe she randomly found out but I doubt it especially because there'd be nothing for her to find out considering he's slowly stopped talking to me and ocasionally he will still contact me but then our conversations will be a dud and we usually can talk for hours so...idk.

[sean24]

things change just gotta react to it by either letting it get in your head like it is or just move on and not worry about it and then in time he will talk to you like he did

[Asker]

but there's gotta be a reason, that's what drives me nuts. not even the fact of not talking to him, just not knowing whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy but whatever I'll get over it hah.

[sean24]

yea we can be pretty mysterious, random and hurtful sometimes without even trying but I'm sure you'll find out soon because he's gonna wonder about you and say damn we used talk a lot I miss that and then he will again

[Asker]

yeah I'm lucky with that because I'm almost positive he will eventually miss it he's given me hints before. and I just realized he's either just busy or just testing me. and that's kinda how our friendship has been like we've even discussed it. but I just don't see the point in it...

[sean24]

i don't either guys are stupid and that's why I date girls

[Asker]

lol... or you'd be gay otherwise? but I get your drift ;)

[sean24]

haha yea but completely straight but yea I really hope things work out for you good luck

[Skelwor]

There could be a number of reasons. Maybe he found out something that changed his mind about things. Why not ask the guy directly and see if the same happens to you?

[Asker]

lol I don't want to look like I care.

[Skelwor]

Then ignore him right back; if he's gonna be callous, return it.

[Asker]

he's not ignoring me, I havn't tried talking to him at all and I guess I gotta keep it that way.

[Skelwor]

Oh wait, if you haven't tried talking to him then he's just waiting for you to talk to him. Forget my first answer.

[Asker]

lol I told him I would never talk to him first on anything, I mean that could be a really good possiblity but I think he's tried talking to me once and then let the conversations be a dud. it just randomly changed so I don't know what the difference could be.

[Skelwor]

With the information you've given me, it sounds like he feels that you don't like him that much and is getting a bit tired of trying to keep conversations going. It's up to you if you want to stay friends with him or let it die out.

[Asker]

but we've discussed this before, and its quite obvious that if I was like talking to him as much as I did that I obvoiusly do enjoy his company.. but it shouldn't matter if I "like him" he has a girlfriend that's partially the reason I don't put much effort, and you think he would understand that..

[Skelwor]

Maybe he doesn't understand. If you really enjoy his company, try reassuring him of it. It's perfectly normal to reach out to someone as a friend, too; don't be hesitant to if you feel you should.

[Asker]

ughhhhhhh that's really against the way I work though, but I guess I can't expect someone to always strive for me. I feel like your right though.

[Skelwor]

Sometimes it's necessary to bend the rules a little bit, even if they're your own.