Why did a guy who acted interested in me stop talking to me?

[Anonymous]

Me and him have never talked face to face. We have classes together. One day he asked me on IG for my Snap. We started snapping a bunch that week. One day he sent a pic of his dog. He knows I think his dog is super cute. He called me cute, I played dumb, I don't know if it worked. We still haven't ever talked face to face... probably because I'm nervous, I have no idea what his deal is, tho. He sits near the classroom door. He has opened it for at least everyone, but for me, not even once. We had one conversation on SC about a SORT OF personal topic, which i thought was great. He told me we should chill. I was scared and told him I get crazy and he doesn't wanna see that so that would scare him away from asking me to hang again. days later he replied to my story and we had a convo there which lead to a convo about him complimenting my body, and saying he can't stop staring. I was really dry that night after he said those things they were pretty disrespectful. He apologized, and then the next night asked me for nudes. I didn't send NUDES, but I sent pictures in underwear I really liked him. He slowly stopped snapping me a few days after calling me perfect and hot when I sent those pictures that night. Then completely stopped. school from home started because of quarantine, someone made a GC on SC for kids who shared the same biology teachers. He was in it, I was in it, and a bunch of people. One night, we weren't talking about biology... it was actually really crazy. He started being rude to me in the GC, saying I wasn't funny, calling me a baby, etc. But, then he started SnapChatting me randomly that night. we talked for a few mins, and then it became sexual sorta. We snapped for a month maybe, after that. And then, he cut me off again. He snapped me once more, I didn't snap back. I'm tired of this game. What's his deal? There's a bunch more to the story.. but overall my friends thought he liked me, too. Maybe he's a playboy. please help!

[btbc92]

Guy wants sex and he sees you have no sexual interest. Walk away. Guys are usually interested in sex. Your not friends with him, you don't really know him. He's just somebody your classmates with. Would you think your parents would be happy seeing or hearing this from you and this guy? Talking sexual? That's all he wants. Don't speak to guys at night like that. This guy is sick. Cut him off for good. You can bet he's talking about you to all of his friends and everybody you know. The moment he was rude, you should have ended it. Yes, he's a playboy but worse. He's a you know what.

Why you sent him pics of you in your underwear? Sweetheart, you know what he's doing with that? Showing his friends. The moment he asked for nudes, you should have blocked him. This is why parents need to supervise you kids. Because you have no idea what you just did. He just wants sex. I highly suggest you get your parents involved in this because you don't know what this crazy guy will do. He may stalk and harass you by next year. I'm dead serious. You have to get your parents involved. Yes, they will be angry. But it's for your safety. This guy is not safe.

[Asker]

thank you for the answer, but why should i get my parents involved?

[btbc92]

1. You're a minor playing an adult game.
2. This guy can god forbid try to hurt you or rape you. Maybe even kill you.
3. This guy now have your photos. He can easily cyberbully you and spread your pics to the internet and share it with the whole school. Which the school will eventually get involved with anyway.
4. If you don't tell them, they will find out the hard way that you have done this with your phone. And from other kids blurting their mouths.
5. If he threatens you, which he may, the cops will have to get involved

[ArcadianBanks]

I agree that people should be careful, but scare mongering is not the way to help

[btbc92]

That's not scaremongering. That is what it is. When guys want to do stuff like that, thays exactly what they do. I know guys like that. I think I would know exactly what I am talking about. So let's not pretend this does happen, becuase it's more and likely happening already.

[ArcadianBanks]

Not every guy is the same , you are viewing this person that you dont know as if they are a carbon copy of whoever's but you in the past, yes it's something to be cautious of but that's no reason to round scaring people saying that every guy that looks at you wants to rape you because that is simply not true

[btbc92]

First of all, if you are doing those things and it's bad enough you are minor, yes you are the same. You should not be doing those things because if you are a child or an adult. Not only is it immoral but it's disrespectful. The point isn't that has nothing to do with that. You provoked somebody the wrong way, then it cause the problem. Because of her parents were involved, they're not going to like it at all. Not about scaring people. About doing what you know is not correct, and that's sinful to be doing in the first place. We're not for you to be looking or touching. And neither should we do the same to you. Bad enough she was not comfortable with the situation and she only did it because she thought that she was doing the right thing. That is not what a woman should be doing let alone anybody should be asking of her. Because now it teaches her that she has to be sexual in order to get a guy's attention and that is not true at all.

[btbc92]

And who says that it's my past because thank God I don't have that. I'm telling you what to do to avoid those situations. The fact that she already did those things he still going to tell everybody else because that's exactly what they do. So let's not pretend like you don't know what goes on. She can end up seriously depressed or God forbid mentally ill because it is trauma inducing.

[ArcadianBanks]

Oh that's why you so irrational you're a believer, and if you're God thinks everyone should have free will who are you to be telling a young girl what she should and shouldn't be doing , a woman is not expected to do or behave in any manner they can choose to do what they please because they have free will and it is no ones business to stand in the way of that. Regardless of what you say you have been going against "gods" will

[btbc92]

No. It's Wrong period. Not because I am or ain't. She is a minor, a child a d the one who has to be responsible for her, are her parents. She made it her business when she is pleading and asking for help on here on GAG. Obviously you are one who love seeing naked women and girls for your pleasure regardless who they are. So please don't sell me the bias.

[btbc92]

I have no doubt your one who would agree to see hers and she is a minor. Says a lot.

[btbc92]

As I woman I find it messed up. She felt pressured and she did it anyway. Sorry to say, you have no actual argument.

[ArcadianBanks]

Very nice of you to assume something vile of me just becouse I have an opinion that disagrees with you , that's not very Christian of you is it. I do indeed have an argument by the fact that you totally ignored half the points I made making you're opinion irrelevant as you fail to offer a counter, you dont seem to understand that everyone has a right to an opinion and free will, what this girl does is neither if our business, if she tells her parents is completely of her own choice, not yours, I have the impression for a woman of god you dont seem to follow any of the commandments yet you seem to be able to apply your judgments so easily it would make me think you're not a woman of faith at all, that's the beauty of seeing both sides. I can see you dont even know how to form an argument let alone continue one. You're not worth my time replying to anymore, it is impossible to educate an irrational and down right hypocritical person such as you. I will not be replying any further.

[btbc92]

@ArcadianBanks You should have never replied in the first place. And I don't have to make assumptions about you. It's the truth. If you find this sexually acceptable your just as bad as they are. Plain and simple. Don't like it? Too bad. As Christians, we are called to righteousness and stand for righteousness and that also means not be in agreements with things that are not of God. I never did those things, therefore I can give that judgment. You call it vile for a minor, but it's vile if she was 18 and over. Hypocricy.

[btbc92]

What's wrong is wrong. Your 20 years old and behave as if you weren't taught better. Not once was I scaremongering her, so you need to look at yourself before you want to try to judge other people. I at least always check myself. Because god forbid this guy does just that, you owe her an apology.

[ArcadianBanks]

It's pretty obvious he was just using you, I'm sorry but that's just how screwed up some people are

[Avicenna]

Guys generally back off if a girl doesn't seem enthusiastic enough about him.

[Asker]

i didn't want to seem too enthusiastic about him, though- incase he didn't feel the same way about me. he talks to a bunch of girls the same way as me. what now?

[Avicenna]

The thing is, if you teally want to date him, you need to show him you're more interested than them or he will keep talking to other girls until he gets a girlfriend.

[Iron_Man]

At your age boys will be boys and lose interest in a drop of a hat