Why would a guy still act nice and kind, even though I rejected him?

[Anonymous]

We rarely talked much but I was certainly interested in him because he had this certain positive and nice vibe about it and he was nice to every else as well. He is also quite shy. A couple months ago he asked me out via text (I couldn't really talk to him because I was a bit too nervous and there was an awkward atmosphere around us). After asking me out via text I rejected him and he wished me well with my career and future and communication stopped there. It got even more awkward when we saw each other but he would smile and still say thanks when I give way to him in the corridors. Instead I do the opposite. I was nervous around him and would fidget a lot. I also sat on his table although I could've sat elsewhere. He still holds the door open for me but I don't understand how you couldn't be nervous in a room with someone who rejected you or you rejected. Also why do I act so nervous around him but still want to be close?

[DaveJord]

So from the guys preceptive if I asked a girl out, and she said no... I never had any hard feelings about it. Not to the point that I wouldn't be nice to her. Sounds like its a work place thing, so if rude to you at work then you have cause to open a sexual harassment complaint.

But in general the guy will act nice to you because you might change your mind later. What's point of being jerk, I mean then she will never date you and if its a work place thing have cause to file a complaint.

As far as you still wanting to be close to him... well sounds like you have some insecurities about dating possibly. I mean you have to seriously ask yourself why did you say no if you were at least mildly interested? Why not go out with him and see maybe there's a chance, so way say no if your interested and have a desire to be close to him?

Sound like someone has some degree of insecurity. Maybe you should revisit the situation and ask him out and find out if there is more to it or if you're just being weird and making it weird for no reason.

[FilmGuy93]

I'll never understand why so many women think that the only way to address a problem is go scorched earth as soon as a disagreement happens. You didn't want to date him; it's okay. You didn't want to date him, that doesn't mean he hates you.

[ShadowMonarch]

You need to act nice too... he is trying to make things fo back to normal

[spartan55]

You sound like you have zero social skills.

[Asker]

I can talk to other men you know. Just not him. I think it might make him a bit jealous. Although he can talk to other girls just fine.

[jasco]

Because he's a nice person