So we work in the same building but different departments. When he first ghosted me, he would stare at me when we passed each other and we would kind of get locked in a stare until I looked away. He often looked as though he wanted to say something to me.
After about 6 weeks of this I got fed up, especially as he seemed a bit nervous every time he saw me. So I sent him one last message saying to not worry as I wasn’t going to get angry with him, I didn’t hate him and I was happy to chat as friends. I was trying to be nice, and hoping he would feel more comfortable and ignore me. But then he starts giving me sympathetic, and patronising looks, and making a point of trying to get in my line of vision and catch my eye. This drove me totally crazy as it was messing with my head and I hate pity, especially as it was totally misplaced. After the second time he did this, I started to completely blank him. I wasn’t mean, I just act as if I hadn’t even seen him.
But he still insists on staring at me and I can’t figure out why? He will even peer around things to get a clear view of my face. It’s been 4/5 months now.
The thing is, HE chose not to talk to me, and HE could talk to me at any point. So either talk to me or don’t, but this behaviour is just weird.! I’m not going to message him again, but I don’t know what else to do. It’s been six months since he ghosted me surely he doesn’t care about my reaction now?
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Promise you are thinking aboit him far more than he is about you.
Only when he stares and patronises me, then he really winds me up - promise.
How does he patronize you?
The pitying looks as though he feels sorry for me. I hate pity.
You don't know what he is thinking.
You are connecting some dots based on no real evidence.
No, that’s true, I don’t know what he’s thinking, but facial expressions are very telling. Psychologically women are more attuned to noticing body language than men are. We are often aware of things guys don’t notice. It may not have been his intention and if he’d only done it once and then stopped I wouldn’t care, but it was patronising. But your right, it doesn’t matter. I just don’t like being stared at, by anyone. I’ll just continue to ignore him and at some point he’ll stop staring.
That's really all you can do.
He has a girlfriend night be unsure about you as you never smile
I am sure he just looks for validation and then go his way again