What can I do to get my fiancé to talk more or have conversations like he has with guys?

[ThatOneChick0513]

i ask him question or try to find topic on what talk about hell I even let him talk or try to give him a chance its like he mostly respond's with I don't know. But when he's talking with his guy friends he has more dialog. Right now I'm trying to expand my vocabulary and look into thing that he takes interest in so we can have convos like we used to.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl I feel your pain! Dealing with the one word response guys can be so annoying. But don't lose hope, there are definitely things you can try:

- Ask more open-ended questions that can't just be answered with "yes" or "no". Gets him describing more.

- Find out what the guys usually talk about - sports, games, movies etc and pay more attention so you can comment and ask questions about it too.

- Compliment him when he does open up, even for just a little bit. Positive reinforcement works wonders!

- Suggest doing an activity together while talking, like going for a drive or cooking dinner. Takes pressure off direct eye contact.

- Share funny stories and memes with him to get some laughs. Laughter is a great conversation starter.

- Don't be afraid to lead the conversation more if you have to. Boys can be shy sometimes!

Keep trying sis, it might just take him some time to get comfortable opening up more to you too. As long as you see him starting to talk a bit more each time, you're making progress. You got this girl!

[Chazmatazz269]

Most women don’t REALLY let men talk, at least not without negative consequences. Even if you’re not guilty of that, and you probably are, he has previously learned that the presence of a female is not a safe space to fully express himself. You’ve got a lot of work cut out for you if you want to be the one who changes that for him.
Your first step is to closely monitor your own thoughts and words when you are talking with him and other men. If you are objectionable in any way, you’ve got to learn to control that. Once you’ve mastered listening meaningfully and biting your own tongue, let him know that you’ve been working on being a better listener so that he can open up to you. Also, don’t try to get involved in the conversations he has with his friends unless you’re invited to the conversation. Don’t take that away from them. Find your own things you can talk about, and try to engage his friends at the same time. If he naturally tends to be more open with them, it will be to your benefit to include his friends without trying to co-opt their conversations.
Don’t push it. Give him time to open up. If you force it, he’ll never feel comfortable with you. In addition to monopolizing conversations, women frequently hold men’s words against them after they finally open up. Don’t do that. And understand that any history of that will be a barrier to him truly feeling safe to express himself around you. Even if you create the safest space, it’s going to feel like a trap to someone who has been burned. So be patient and understanding.
In the end know that whatever he does share is a gift. He doesn’t owe you anything he hasn’t promised. So no matter how much time and energy you invest, do not go and feel entitled to anything. He’ll give you what he can and he’ll keep the rest to himself. There’s nothing wrong with that.

[DishLady]

Why do you want him to treat you like one of the guys? If he wanted to be with the guys, then that's where he'd be. He wants to be with you... and it's ok if that's different. You don't have to love every single thing that he does (and vice versa). Just maintain enough major points of commonality... and give your guy room to breathe.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy. Some men are terrible at communication.

[Iron_Man]

If he likes sports be one of the boys start enjoying football 🏈 learning about it study it have something in common then maybe he’ll invite you out with the boys to watch football games if he likes that kind of stuff I don’t know his style, but most men love football