Ladies would you date a guy with no ambition but is happy with his current job?

[Indiefoxx]

Would date

Would NOT date

[weasley8]

It depends on where he is now. I’d love it if the person was happy even though their job didn’t have the most prestige. The main question is whether they would be able to contribute to provide for a big family. Because I want a big family. And it wouldn’t be fair to the guy if he felt pressured to stop doing what he loved in order to take care of them. So mechanics, electricians, and people with jobs like that, sounds great. If they work part time/minimum wage, and have no plans of doing anything else, I’d pass.

[Blackcupcake]

What exactly do you mean by “no ambition”?


Not wanting to make more money? In that case I would date him cause money is not a dealbreaker for me as long as he’s stable and can support himself. Also if we end up living together then it’d be a teamwork thing and I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t be an issue since we’ll both be working.


But if you mean no ambition in the sense of self improvement, further educating himself and just overall improving as an individual, then I would not date him. I want for my SO to motivate me to work hard on myself and I would do the same for him. Once again, a team effort to help each other keep growing. But if he doesn’t want that then I’m not sure we’re gonna be good for each other and our goals in life.

[Clarke498]

I'm young, so at least for a while if there were no other plans, but the second i start seeing it as something more serious I'd have to either make her change that or leave.

[K-I-S-S]

Hey, he has a job, sounds better thatn tons of other guys 🤔

[sagevalentineee]

I hope you don't take this too personally, because as you can see, half of the girls in this poll said they'd be happy to date you.

For me not really... I can't stand the person who wants one job for the rest of their life... no change, no progression, no ambitions, especially if it's a man I'm dating, that's truly a huuuuge turn off for me.

When a man is clever and super passionate about what he does, and has long term goals and knows how to reach them... it's soooo sexyyyy.

[Aethereal]

While I personally don't hold the same position as you, I can understand it (to some extent anyway). I would however like to know why. If for example, a guy has a job that doesn't keep him working overtime while still paying more than enough to survive and afford some luxuries; why is it important to you that he seek even more, when that could well mean he has less and less time for other things (like his partner, kids, family, hobbies, etc.)?
I think its possible to be passionate about what you do without constantly looking to "level up". If your guy's long term goal is perhaps to earn enough without sacrificing so much of his time, is that wrong? I'm not berating you or anything. I'm just curious. I've noticed that a lot of people believe success (even happiness) must come through suffering or constant struggle, but I can't understand why anyone would think that yet. I also feel that many people are unable to find happiness in wealth because of this drive (or pressure or whatever) to always do more or "level up".

[sagevalentineee]

@Aethereal I think there's a big difference between someone who is constantly not happy with what they have and a person who has healthy ambitions. There are definitely some extreme social climbing men I have met; whose entire life centres around 'levelling up' that I'm not too keen on and yes I would not date a man who behaved like that!

If you feel like you are in a very comfortable position with your life, then congratulations to you, I think that's more than okay.

Perhaps this is one of those oedipus complex mindset things that I have, but my father was a workaholic who started his own tech start up and has been incredibly successful doing that. So maybe that's influenced me in the type of man that I like, my boyfriend is a very good entrepreneur too - and working a lot. I just respect what he does a lot and find him very attractive. Maybe that's also a female status symbol thing - I'm not sure to be honest, just hearing him, making a speech being so erudite and having achieved so much - it's hot, for me at least.

[Aethereal]

I see. Thanks for the reply. I guess that how we viewed life growing up is one of the factors in how we approach this. My mom's life was pretty much a story of foreigner becoming successful in a far away country (she moved from being helpless to becoming the primary breadwinner, even making director at her job). But she was very workaholic, and thus, always busy. I realized a few years ago that seeing her workaholism (while I respect and love her), had made me come to resent/dislike workaholism in general (because of how it steals away time from the people that matter, or are supposed to matter), and that had a big influence on me. Basically I promised myself to never prioritize work over my loved ones, and my happiness. This has led me to seek a more "work smart" than a "work hard" path in life.

While it's not the limit of my personal ambitions, what I earn now (if it were permanent) could pass for satisfaction (to me). It allows the balance of time and money that I like. But my ambitions have since expanded somewhat since I met my girlfriend. My goals aren't big by say US/Western standards, but they push me to ensure I provide what I expect of myself to my family and SO. But I aim for satisfaction, not wealth, and I would probably ignore opportunities that promised wealth/greater success at the cost of time (which is the most valuable resource to me).

I guess a good answer to this question is really along the lines of "to each their own". Those who like one or the other will still find partners who love that attitude. It's nice that we both did.

[Jaketea]

I am ambitious because I am scared of the future. So, I want someone to also be ambitious so that I am not the only one fighting to be financially stable all the time. A not-so-ambitious person is not harsh enough on themselves and will regress instead of not moving forward irl. They can't expect they will work the same job for 30 years. (even governments will have significant changes in 50 years, why won't a corporation?) My father was not a very ambitious person (due to depression) and it was a downward spiral until he became ambitious and wanted to improve again. He slowly regained his position.

[ImSparkly]

Depends, can he cover his expenses and things he still wants to do (go surfing in the South Pacific, backpack for a few months, other hobbies?) if so, yes. If he’s just scraping by and has no hobbies or other interests, probably not. Work doesn’t have to define us.

[muscularbumblebee]

No, if I have high ambition I expect the guy to have the same so that we can help to improve ourselves and keep achieving our goals even when setbacks occur, not a potential nonchalant attitude of ‘well at least you have a good job’

[TwinkleLily5]

I haven’t dated a guy like this but both of my sisters have. Both ended up supporting their boyfriends financially sadly.

[Anonymous]

I would’ve said no a while ago (only because I had ambition so out values would likely clash). But now my views are changing so yes I would.

[he-takes-a-part]

Good question.
Only the ones suffering will answer.

[alice55]

Depend how much he earn.

[TessCasie]

If he’s happy why not

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on what he's doing currently.

[Joker_]

They would or wouldn't

[MoonStalker]

If I loved them.

[jimmy2]

Lol well there are much worse guys

[stri_dante]

sounds good.