Ladies would you date a man who is unemployed?

[ManHater]

Would you want to date and man who does not have a job?

Do you find it better to date a man who had a job or a carrier?

How do you feel about dating a man who feel lost and has no drive to do something with his life?

[Midnight_Kiss]

Not if he chose to be unemployed as I dated a man who was unemployed by choice and he had terrible money management and was constantly asking to borrow money from his parents and me.

On the flip side not all employed men are a wise choice, my ex was paid triple ttw amount I was and yet he paid for nothing, I always footed the bill for the holidays, I carried him financially through the 2009 recession and through his bankruptcy and he still frittered his money away on other women. The day I walked away from him was the best decision I've ever made.

[VforVindication]

You seem like such a caring woman. These types of men do not deserve you.

[Alli39]

Depends, as long as he's doing something productive with his time (self-employed, education, preparing to open a business, doing charity work, etc) or it's a short term thing (on break, between jobs, etc) then it's fine. I'm less cool with long-term lack of employment, even if he has the money to do it, just because that sounds pretty unstable/chaotic in ways I probably am not looking to bring into my life. But I guess it's mostly situational.

[Messianic_Monk]

I think there should be a clarifier with this question: did he just get laid off? is he seeking a job? or does he plan to stay unemployed and be a stay-at-home dad?

I think women are sympathetic to the first 2... I think. The last? There might be a few... but by in large I don't think women want to support their man.

[aficionado]

I used to think this never happened. But I met my now-wife when I was unemployed and down in the dumps, and we still ended up getting married eventually. Maybe I am an outlier, I don't know.

[Jazzy54]

Here’s my thing. If he’s actively looking for work and submitting applications, sure. If he’s just a bum, no way. I can’t get with someone who just sits around all day and does nothing. It would drive me crazy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This is how most men feel about women who are stay at home wives expecting the guy to support them, she's "just a bum".

[Jazzy54]

Being a stay at home mother is equivalent to having two and half jobs. So, no, not the same. 😊

[TheSpaceGnome]

No it isn't. The only actual time consuming part of child care past infancy is drumming up the finances, otherswise its just cooking, cleaning and laundry.

Any job that pays well enough to cover the cost of 1 child, myself, and a spouse, is going to either be much more work, or be a passive income leaving me free to do half of the childcare and housework.

That said, I don't want any kids, I work from home, I cook my own food, and I'm not messy, the few times I need to clean it takes only a few minutes.
She'd have pretty much zero labor unless she did half of my work. I'm not giving her half my paycheck or covering her portion of the bills if she is being a bum.

[WhitneySnow]

@TheSpaceGnome cooking cleaning and laundry take a lot of time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@WhitneySnow No they don't. it takes like 1 minute tops to put in a load of laundry, cleaning is rarely needed and takes 3-10 minutes tops, and cooking varies but anything that takes a while is sitting in an oven or pot most of the duration. Anything thats constant effort in cooking takes 1-15 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Depends. My crush is studying and working on the side so he has plans to work full time. If he had no plans to become successfull then I wouldn't be intressted. He can have a normal job but just being at home doing nothing is not attractive

[strateguy632]

if i were a lady i would not. before the date it would be the first thing i asked where is your job which company.

[Simslover92]

Yes as long as he is trying to work towards not being unemployed.

[Sour-rose]

nah. No time to waste on a n*gga with... basically a n*gga.

[Anonymous]

he needs a job in his career field. can't build anything without our lives having careers...

also have no time to mess with someone who has no drive to make something out of his life.

[electromagnetic]

By choice? No.
If he’s been laid off and in the process of looking, then yeah.

[FreyaRed]

yes, as long as he isn't a burden for my finances

[nastyb]

Would you date a woman who couldnt have kids?

[RingOfFire]

I think there should be a dating site for men who don't have jobs and women who don't have kids. Million $ idea! 👍

[RingOfFire]

Make that "can't have kids!"

[nastyb]

@RingOfFire

Same question thrown back at you. The reason why women want a man who is financially stable is because financially stable men are the ones who can actually raise a family.

[RingOfFire]

I absolutely agree! 🙂

[Lynx122]

Yes I would :)

[serious_miss419]

As long as he is proactively addressing his lost feelings and is in motion of help. Then The job will appear in that process.

[boggboss]

Why are u looking to date whilst unemployed lol

[Iwillnot]

Why not? I'm disabled.

[TacosRAwesome]

Probably not.

[Anonymous]

No. I wouldn't

[sheikalana]

Not really.

[gothbxtch]

yeah

[DreamLife7]

Nope