Ladies, would you date a man without a job?

[venom9801]

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+1 y

He doesn't enjoy working and doesn't have any plans to do so.

[ludorock]

It's not a red flag, nor is it a turn off, it just depends who he is. If he prefers to stay home and keep the house clean, cook dinner, take care of all the stuff on the back end, or likes to write or draw or make money from twitch live streaming do something that isn't a traditional career - of course, why would that be a bad thing? That's perfectly fine and wonderful and if it makes him happy then amazing!

Now, if he doesn't want to work, doesn't want to help clean and cook, doesn't want to help make sure grocery shopping gets done and such then that's a different story. If he just wants to sit around and watch TV, play video games, sit around drinking, do nothing but read all day and not help out - that's a problem. That's not a partner, that's a parent/child relationship, not a romantic one, and that's not healthy for anyone.

That doesn't mean he's a bad person, but it does mean, I think, that some growing up needs to be done, or a conversation needs to be had between the two people. We all have learning and growing to do, this is just one example.

[venom9801]

Great take!

[Azura_88]

So I'll have to bring home heavy cash to meet both of our needs.
ONLY IF : he has to be a really unique guy.
He should be loyal to me, listen to me, love me, adore me, be devoted to me, NEVER EVER look at other women, should tolerate my temper tantrums, pamper me, CARE ABOUT how I feel, give me nice sex and should follow my lead 80% of the times.

[Azura_88]

Otherwise Never ever.

[venom9801]

Plenty of guys who would love nothing more than a good bit of femdom. I think there's a very large population of fellas that are compatible with your needs.

[Account]

Nope. I like people similar to myself.

[DizzyDesii]

If he was jobless due to the pandemic yes. But he’d need to be constantly applying to positions and he’d need to settle for something by the end of the year until more opportunities arised. If he was jobless before the pandemic, i’d wonder whats taking him so long to bust a move

[DizzyDesii]

Based off that update, hell nawl. I prefer an ambitious man

[Irnwhdbsj]

Does he not have a job because he's working towards something better? Then yes I'd choose him over a man with a stupid dead end job. Is he an academic? Then yes I'd love him because we would be in the somewhat same situation. Is he just stupid? Then no.

[venom9801]

He is the most intelligent man to ever live.

[Espresso-Grande]

I don't view people as losers just because they don't want to work. There's always an underlying reason why someone doesn't want to work. So i guess it would depend on his reason for not wanting to work

[Mavie]

its alright as long as he is studying now or looking for a job or even taking a break. the most important is to be a good man who is not lazy

[venom9801]

You have a very nice head.

[Mavie]

Thank you ^^

[venom9801]

No problem.

[howhigh420]

Yeah if he was able enough to look after himself have fun go out at times enjoy his life all men with jobs dont mean there's better than the ones without them

[Anonymous]

My life outlook is different to that entire description. Someone like that wouldn’t be a good match for me personally. Mine would have fixed three-six minor to large house issues since this morning waiting for job call-backs. Motivation leaks into other parts of our lives.. so does laziness and depression.

[LivyLiv]

Yeah as long as he isn't a slob. If has passion for hobbies and other things but doesn't have a job it's fine

[PrettyPriya]

Yes, but I would like to know the circumstances around why he doesn’t have a job.

[PrettyPriya]

@venom9801

After your update, I would say no. I would not date someone who is being obviously lazy.

[Blackcupcake]

So if he doesn’t want to work, what would he be doing exactly? If he wants to be a couch potato then that’s a turn off. But if he has a plan, whatever that plan may be, I might support it just as long as he’s not being lazy or unreasonable.

[venom9801]

He doesn't own a couch.

[Blackcupcake]

point is, if he just wants to sit on his ass all day doing absolutely nothing productive with his life then we’re not compatible at all.

[venom9801]

What do consider productive?

[CordetteMonet]

Yes, but I would prefer a guy who at least aspires to get a job.

[jindoll]

it depends. maybe he just quit his job and doing a better plan for himself. But, honestly, I am turned off by the guys who don't want to work. There's a difference between a guy who's working hard in finding a job and a guy who doesn't make an effort at all.

[cloudspy]

How does he look after himself financially then? Elaborate on this.

[venom9801]

Benefits.

[cloudspy]

Why they on benefits, what benefit?

[venom9801]

They're on unemployment support allowance and Personal Independence Payment and they're on benefits because they want to take full advantage of the system so that they can still survive and have as much free time as possible to themselves to spend on things most important to them in life.

[cloudspy]

So they are working the benefits system to be able to do what exactly, what are the important things to them?

[venom9801]

Cooking delicious food and studying the human condition with the hopes of finding a simple, unbiased solution to all of the miseries of modern society, then educating as many people as he can about said solution.

[cloudspy]

That's a pretty major task he's set himself there. He's adding to a misery of society in my view. Yes, I could go on a date with him but probably nothing more serious.

[venom9801]

So it'd be a fuck him and leave him type deal?

[venom9801]

Why do you think he's adding to the miseries of society?

[cloudspy]

Yeah probably if I was physically attracted to him.

[paradiseonearth93]

Been there, done that. No I wouldn’t unless he was in between jobs and looking and applying.

[venom9801]

What happened?

[paradiseonearth93]

He got very insecure since I had a job as a software engineer and made more than him and he always would accuse me of wanting to leave him for someone better and he constantly was down on himself and blamed me. He wasn’t jobless when we met but he worked at a very crappy place that he hated and then he was jobless after he quit. And things between us kept getting worse and worse, no matter how much love and security I tried to give him, he was set on destroying the relationship because he felt so down on himself. It was a huge disaster.

[TacosRAwesome]

If he's legally making enough money to function and not need me to be his sugar mama then maybe.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't want to get a job because he's lazy and just want to watch TV all day then no.

[Passion_Devil]

My answer is the same as the answer you will give to my question. Is he actively looking for a job?

[venom9801]

Clever comment! Unfortunately, Passion_Devil and this hypothetical man that definitely isn't me would be incompatible.

[Passion_Devil]

I see. I read the update.

[venom9801]

I'm interested to know why you value a man that has a job over a man that doesn't. Is it a monetary concern? Or is it more of a judgement on his character based on the fact that he isn't officially integrated into society?

[Passion_Devil]

He doesn't need to have a job. He can have no job, but I want him to actively look for one. I want him to expect the same of me. So we're safe if something was to happen.

[charlean]

No. I want someone who at least working toward getting a job.

[charlean]

Unless he’s super rich that he can provide a comfortable life for us then I wouldn’t mind just me going to work as long as he contributed his wealth. Because I’m more looking for security rather than the productivity

[ellie71]

If he good for another thing, it's ok, I can earn my money too

[Aquariusmystery]

No. If he’s not even looking for a job he can fuck off

[HimaniS]

Umm.. depends if he is working towards getting a job or not!!

[venom9801]

HE IS NOT!!

[Anonymous]

If he has no plans to do anything then no. He’d need to look for others with a similar mindset.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s providing he has no special needs or disability of some sort etc. Just thought I should clarify that as we’re all assuming he’s more than capable here when we write our answers. A relationship is about being partners and helping each other.

[Nazgol]

Nope. I'm no babysitter. If he wants has to go back to mommy

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Depends on why he doesn’t have one.

[EmmaMary]

Not A Fucking Hope In Hells Chance...Loser.

[venom9801]

Are you talking to me?

[venom9801]

Only 17 questions and over *20,000 opinions* good lord. You know what they say about people that have a lot of opinions? And you definitely seem to have way too many.

[EmmaMary]

@venom9801

You asked and I've given my own personal opinion... Nothing More Nothing Less... Goodbye.

[venom9801]

Hope life turns out better you.

[lizchill]

Yes if we were truly in love.

[SnakeBoop]

depends. is he actively trying to get one?

[SnakeBoop]

nah to the update. thats just a deadbeat waste of space

[venom9801]

Damn. Very strong feelings. What makes you think that?

[SnakeBoop]

has no plans to support himself= deadbeat.
i ain't interested in taking care of a man child that will no doubt let down in every other area of life.

[venom9801]

Ah okay. So you believe that a person's character is synonymous with their job/lack of one?

[SnakeBoop]

any decent person would want to financially support themselves/their lifestyle. so yes in a way

[venom9801]

So any person with a job is a decent person?

[SnakeBoop]

no not always. thats not what I said anyway

[venom9801]

It's exactly what you said. Am I misinterpreting it?

[SnakeBoop]

yes. i never said personality/character is defined at all just by their job status

[venom9801]

You sounded like you had very strong feelings that indicated the contrary in your initial comment. So you don't think that people that don't like to work are deadbeats after all? I'm confused.

[SamE86]

If he was like a drug dealer or something

[Wettt]

Depends how long he'd been unemployed for

[Tiptoetamm]

Yes as long as he's looking got a job