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It's not a red flag, nor is it a turn off, it just depends who he is. If he prefers to stay home and keep the house clean, cook dinner, take care of all the stuff on the back end, or likes to write or draw or make money from twitch live streaming do something that isn't a traditional career - of course, why would that be a bad thing? That's perfectly fine and wonderful and if it makes him happy then amazing!
Now, if he doesn't want to work, doesn't want to help clean and cook, doesn't want to help make sure grocery shopping gets done and such then that's a different story. If he just wants to sit around and watch TV, play video games, sit around drinking, do nothing but read all day and not help out - that's a problem. That's not a partner, that's a parent/child relationship, not a romantic one, and that's not healthy for anyone.
That doesn't mean he's a bad person, but it does mean, I think, that some growing up needs to be done, or a conversation needs to be had between the two people. We all have learning and growing to do, this is just one example.41 Reply
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So I'll have to bring home heavy cash to meet both of our needs.
ONLY IF : he has to be a really unique guy.
He should be loyal to me, listen to me, love me, adore me, be devoted to me, NEVER EVER look at other women, should tolerate my temper tantrums, pamper me, CARE ABOUT how I feel, give me nice sex and should follow my lead 80% of the times.02 Reply
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22.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Nope. I like people similar to myself.
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+1 yIf he was jobless due to the pandemic yes. But he’d need to be constantly applying to positions and he’d need to settle for something by the end of the year until more opportunities arised. If he was jobless before the pandemic, i’d wonder whats taking him so long to bust a move
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Based off that update, hell nawl. I prefer an ambitious man
Does he not have a job because he's working towards something better? Then yes I'd choose him over a man with a stupid dead end job. Is he an academic? Then yes I'd love him because we would be in the somewhat same situation. Is he just stupid? Then no.
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+1 yI don't view people as losers just because they don't want to work. There's always an underlying reason why someone doesn't want to work. So i guess it would depend on his reason for not wanting to work
10 Replyits alright as long as he is studying now or looking for a job or even taking a break. the most important is to be a good man who is not lazy
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+1 yYeah if he was able enough to look after himself have fun go out at times enjoy his life all men with jobs dont mean there's better than the ones without them
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yMy life outlook is different to that entire description. Someone like that wouldn’t be a good match for me personally. Mine would have fixed three-six minor to large house issues since this morning waiting for job call-backs. Motivation leaks into other parts of our lives.. so does laziness and depression.
00 ReplyYeah as long as he isn't a slob. If has passion for hobbies and other things but doesn't have a job it's fine
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+1 yYes, but I would like to know the circumstances around why he doesn’t have a job.
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After your update, I would say no. I would not date someone who is being obviously lazy.
+1 ySo if he doesn’t want to work, what would he be doing exactly? If he wants to be a couch potato then that’s a turn off. But if he has a plan, whatever that plan may be, I might support it just as long as he’s not being lazy or unreasonable.
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point is, if he just wants to sit on his ass all day doing absolutely nothing productive with his life then we’re not compatible at all.
+1 yYes, but I would prefer a guy who at least aspires to get a job.
10 Replyit depends. maybe he just quit his job and doing a better plan for himself. But, honestly, I am turned off by the guys who don't want to work. There's a difference between a guy who's working hard in finding a job and a guy who doesn't make an effort at all.
00 ReplyHow does he look after himself financially then? Elaborate on this.
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They're on unemployment support allowance and Personal Independence Payment and they're on benefits because they want to take full advantage of the system so that they can still survive and have as much free time as possible to themselves to spend on things most important to them in life.
+1 yBeen there, done that. No I wouldn’t unless he was in between jobs and looking and applying.
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He got very insecure since I had a job as a software engineer and made more than him and he always would accuse me of wanting to leave him for someone better and he constantly was down on himself and blamed me. He wasn’t jobless when we met but he worked at a very crappy place that he hated and then he was jobless after he quit. And things between us kept getting worse and worse, no matter how much love and security I tried to give him, he was set on destroying the relationship because he felt so down on himself. It was a huge disaster.
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+1 yIf he's legally making enough money to function and not need me to be his sugar mama then maybe.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yIf he doesn't want to get a job because he's lazy and just want to watch TV all day then no.
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+1 yMy answer is the same as the answer you will give to my question. Is he actively looking for a job?
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I see. I read the update.
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He doesn't need to have a job. He can have no job, but I want him to actively look for one. I want him to expect the same of me. So we're safe if something was to happen.
No. I want someone who at least working toward getting a job.
01 ReplyIf he good for another thing, it's ok, I can earn my money too
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+1 yNo. If he’s not even looking for a job he can fuck off
10 ReplyUmm.. depends if he is working towards getting a job or not!!
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yIf he has no plans to do anything then no. He’d need to look for others with a similar mindset.
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Opinion Owner+1 yThat’s providing he has no special needs or disability of some sort etc. Just thought I should clarify that as we’re all assuming he’s more than capable here when we write our answers. A relationship is about being partners and helping each other.
312 opinions shared on Dating topic. Nope. I'm no babysitter. If he wants has to go back to mommy
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+1 yDepends on why he doesn’t have one.
10 Reply3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Not A Fucking Hope In Hells Chance...Loser.
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You asked and I've given my own personal opinion... Nothing More Nothing Less... Goodbye.
Yes if we were truly in love.
20 Reply926 opinions shared on Dating topic. depends. is he actively trying to get one?
110 ReplyIf he was like a drug dealer or something
10 ReplyDepends how long he'd been unemployed for
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+1 yYes as long as he's looking got a job
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