How do I stop being so scared to talk to women?

[rl2000]

I’m scared they won’t want to talk to me and I don’t know how to stop being scared

[Browneye57]

Ew boy, you've been brainwashed. And you have no game.
Start with 'hi' or 'hello'. Or ask an innocuous question, like...
You're standing in the line for coffee, cute girl makes eye contact, "Have you tried the arabic coffee? Is it any good?" Or, "I wonder what the featuered coffee is."
Or you're at the grocery store, you ask cute girl "Do you know how to make a beef roast?" Or, "What's better, hickory or alder smoked bacon?"
She'll either dialog, or she'll tell you to fuck off. Who cares? It's just a conversation.

Understand that any pretty girl is just a person. No different than you. She still eats sleeps and shits a big turd. Get over it.

So here's your homework... in two parts...
From today forward, try striking up a conversation with EVERYONE you meet, EVERY DAY in your life travels. Either gender, just get good at drawing people out. People love to talk about themselves. This way when Ms. Right comes along you won't have any trouble striking up a convo and keeping it going.

And part two, there's a shit-ton of PUA here - use what makes sense and cast off the rest: www.therationalmale.com
Do some reading.

[ChrisMaster69]

By learning to talk to them in shops etc.

go clothes shopping, only talk to female sales assistants.

slip in some minor small talk, don’t try chatting up, keep it short and non weird.

just keep doing similar over a few months, ask direction in the street from a woman.

gradually get some confidence.

[Mikeysoda]

No better way to get over the fear than to just do it. Push yourself. You can start it out as exercises with no expectations from them. Then from there, you'll break out of the fear. You just have to do it. Even if you just start by saying a greeting and a compliment and keep walking.

[Anonymous]

Realize that you meet the wrong one and she can a will ruin your life. Lol
Honestly man look at the sheer number of women there are. Good God relax!
I'm not saying be a dick. But just be you. F*** her if she's not feeling you. She didn't reject you. She saved you a whole lot of nonsense.
You're going to find what's hardest isn't talking to women. But deciphering who they truly are vs. Who they want you to think they are.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Think about it this way.
If you don't go and speak to a girl in the first place, it is the same outcome as her not wanting to talk to you, so what have you lost by trying?

[JackSmy]

I've posted this, so many times, just click on the magnifying glass, on the tool bar and try some key words!
Put in SOME EFFORT TO LEARN IT!!

[AlexanderAnttila]

You start talking to them. The only way to get over it is to get used to it. If you never manage to take the first step it'll never happen.

[Slartybartfast]

Fear is a good thing, trust me, women can ruin you.

[ForgottenFuRyan]

Imagine they'll statistically end up getting fat and taking your kids?

[Anonymous]

you are still young. As you get older and experience women you will learn that most of them aren't worth talking to and the ones that you do approach should be nervous about talking to you.

[Blackcupcake]

Why wouldn’t they wanna talk to you?

[rl2000]

Because they would think I’m ugly

[Blackcupcake]

Tell me a bit about yourself

[rl2000]

Like what

[Blackcupcake]

Anything, your good qualities, hobbies etc.

[rl2000]

I like watching sports, video games swimming and listening to music

[Blackcupcake]

What about your good qualities?

[rl2000]

I don’t know

[rl2000]

Well I’m loyal

[Blackcupcake]

I’m not trying to be rude or aggressive with this question but how are you planning on approaching and talking to anyone if you’re unsure? One of the things a girl will ask you about is yourself. If you can’t answer that question straight without the “I don’t know” then that immediately shows insecurity. Be confident, you know yourself and your good qualities. Hype yourself up but don’t be cocky or full of yourself.

[rl2000]

Well I’m also good at remembering things.

[Blackcupcake]

That’s interesting, things like what?

[rl2000]

Basically everything

[Blackcupcake]

So I assume you did pretty well with school?

[rl2000]

The only thing I was bad at was math

[Blackcupcake]

lol math is fun as long as you know what you’re doing.

Okay so here’s a few tips I’d like to give you.
- Be more confident when you start talking to someone. Tell me them about yourself, it’s okay to hype yourself up and it’s actually attractive as long as you’re not arrogant.
- Don’t give short answers. Elaborate a little, you don’t have to give a full lecture on one question lol, but short answers will make it seem like you’re bored or uninterested in that conversation.
- Ask questions back. If you let her keep asking you questions then she’ll think that you’re not interested in her. So ask her questions about herself too, both casual and personal ones but don’t go too deep too soon.
- Add some humor. Don’t make it too serious, joke around, tease, be goofy or playful. A lot of girls appreciate a guy that can be funny but also serious when it’s needed.

[rl2000]

And one thing is I’m 21 but I look young for my age and I feel like no woman will want to talk to me because of how young I look

[Blackcupcake]

hmm do you have a beard? Beards help with baby faces. Also if you exercise and look athletic. If you’re mature then girls will definitely like that. Also if you carry yourself with confidence, that’s attractive.
Looking young is not always a bad thing. Some are even into younger or younger looking guys. So don’t worry about that

[rl2000]

No I don’t cause I hate how they feel

[Blackcupcake]

okay so how about everything else?

[K-I-S-S]

See dude, you are already talking to a girl. It's as simple as that.

And if they think you are ugly then you just have to keep raising your voice.

I know on person it is harder. But don't talk to them out of the blue then. Go to a climbing gym or something similar where people share their hobbies, go some place similar you like and usually women like to do too.

And just do your thing there, talk to guys, take up local lessons, especially good if they are done in groups. And just work yourself forward from there.

[Joker_]

Don't talk to them

[anylolone]

Just talk to them.