s Follow your dreams and she will support you regardless if she truly loves you...
I would want for my SO to achieve his goals and dreams, and if it was dangerous then I’d nag him to be careful lol, but I wouldn’t stop him.
My dad is a police officer and he became one after the fact that he met my mom and they had one of my two older brothers... she did care and worry for his safety obviously, but she trusted that he would be careful with his life so he could come home to them everyday. Which he still does thankfully. So as long as you guys are on the same page, it shouldn’t be a problem.
Your photo says security enforcement officer? what academy let's you walk around dress like that and with a full on beard? & if they wanna offer you to be an instructor they'd have you finish T. O program probation, then put you as a instructor it's not always the movies where they pull you out of academy to be a secret detective like Chicago PD or the movie Departed and etc.
So ok Paul Blart or should i say Seth Rogen in the movie Observe & Report loloool.
I'd also be extremely careful about posting stuff like this and calling yourself in LE training just because you got a guard card baton and guard card weapon certifications, because if a real police academy you apply into or a real agency that actually offer in house academy's your background investigator will probably chew you out and then send you a thanks but no thanks letter of a firm DQ (disqualification) so u better get right
Instructor, id rather deal with education instead of babysitting adults that are irresponsible and dangerous. She can't protect you, you're supposed to make sure she is protected and feels safe. Some women have miscarriages without the leadership, and protection of a man present.
Do what you love, if you want to take the opportunity I am sure you could come back to the field if you decide that it was not for you.
In the end you can ask her and from what you say she seems to value you as you are now. I am sure she would not mind you remaining as a cop so in the end it will be your choice.
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Women are attracted to the man you are, not the one you become by listening to their fears. This is probably a very common mistake. If you want this to last, your only course of action is to be completely honest with yourself and follow that. She needs to be with the real you, not one that limits himself or disregards his dreams to fit her desires. If you deviate in any way from your truth, this relationship will fail 100%.
If I were in your shoes, I be an instructor. Especially if your area is a warzone. If it is a calm village and area being a cop would be cool. You can reach detective. Cities are harder and more crime happens. Dont be a narc in a bad city either if you decide to do that. You are a badass no matter what. You know what to do dude. \m/
Your job is risky yes, but if it's your dream follow it. There are plenty police men that have wifes and families and all and still risk their life.
Be an example for your future wife kids and comunity.
And stay safe
Talk to her about the risks and why you were planning to be a cop to begin with. It sounds like she's not afraid to express her thoughts with you.
With defunding the police BS I think you would be better off as an instructor. At least you would be home and safe every day.
Will you be bored out of your mind as an instructor? I graduated police academy in 2019. Why can't you police and go back for instructor school later?
Also... what does this girl have to do with the decision process?
Will you be happy with yourself in 5 years if you aren’t a cop?
Do what you prefer, don't chose your career because of a woman, what would you if she left you? You'll regret it then.
Why are you still wearing a wedding ring? Or are these old photos?
I call bullshit there is zero law enforcement acadmies that would offer a job to someone going through recruitment or basic police training...
Being a Police Officer is a very pridefull job so don't leave and serve the nation
Wake up do what you want. Nobody gives a fuck about the cops no more thought you knew?
You look so good in that uniform
Good luck sleep on it
be careful.. you got a shit ton of badge bunnies!
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