My girlfriend is a recovering addict?

[Anonymous]

I don't like what she did on drugs. I love her but I just can't accept it. What do I do?

[HollyK21]

Last thing she needs to deal with, on top of trying to recover, is you holding a grudge against her or bringing up the past. If you can’t let it go, then you need to let her go, and that’s all there is to it.

[Asker]

Ok cool. I'll do it today.

[Asker]

I don't get why addicts get a pass for always giving it up.

[HollyK21]

It’s not “giving her a pass”, because that would be saying it’s ok, and it’s not. But she’s trying to elevate herself from that dark place and I believe that is what matters. I had a friend some years ago dealing with that and it was some hard shit, man. Constantly on drugs meant she was constantly getting used and even to this day she’s crushed that she did that. But why hold her down with negativity? She knows she screwed up, same as your girlfriend did. Nothing more these people can do (on top of being sorry/regretful) but to try and grow.

[Asker]

I just think it's super gross. Good for her change but being a used up girl isn't cute

[HollyK21]

Just because she’s had a lot of sexual partners does not mean she is used up. She’s just as good and worthy of love as anyone else. Shame on you to hold it against her. If you think it’s gross then I guess you’ll solve that problem when you break up.

[Asker]

Yeah it does. Plenty of people have used her body to cum. Nobody needs that. What do I say when I break it off? She shoulda told me earlier

[HollyK21]

Thank goodness your opinion doesn’t define her then, right? And I don't know dude, whatever feels right for you to say.

[humanearth]

Dump her ass then