I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend before. I have been cursed I feel when it comes to women. I have had such bad luck.
I am not retarded. I am short in height, but I have a solid build and I can communicate. I am not a druggie. I have all my teeth and all my limbs. I am not physically disabled. I just don't see how I ended up in this situation.
I do seek a young, decently attractive woman without a romantic past. I did find a girl like that who didn't even have a male friend before she met me, but sadly, I wasn't her type.
Women don't pay a damn bit of attention to me anyways.
You're not ugly man, I'm no homo lol but I think you are good looking guy. I'm in my early 30's and I'm still single. I had opportunities to date girls in my early 20s but I was shy as fuck. Then I gained weight, lost weight, gained weight. But just be the best version of yourself and of course it doesn't hurt to be in better shape. Don't worry about the height thing. Now yes, there are tall girls who only prefer being with guys. But I'm 5 ft 8, I dated a girl who was 5 ft 10, over 6 ft in heels and she was cool with me. You gotta understand women and girls aren't wired to go right up to guys/men and chat with us. Girls and women are the one's approached, guys/men are the approachers, that's even embedded in the animal kingdom with male and female species. I'm not going to give some typical generic of "focus on yourself and the right girl will find you". You gotta put some effort as well, categorize what you want in a girl. Don't listen to girls on GAG who have this negative perception if you approach a girl to talk to her that catches your eye, just go for it and be respectful because you never know. I hope things work out for you.
I meant to say I had more opportunities to date different girls or be in a relationship but I was too shy to meet different girls or commit because I was either 1) shy/nervous a. f or 2) immature in my own right.
Dude, you just have not met the right woman yet. Stop worrying there is something wrong with you and you are doomed. You are not. Just keep trying, you will meet someone. The odds are in your favor.
If you wanted to up your game and really work on it, get to the gym, lose some weight, try online dating or get involved in some activities where you could meet someone.
What is probably going to happen is you will meet someone when you least expect it, and you will be glad you didn't give up. Hang in there.
I think it's more important for you to work on yourself. Why do you think you're destined to be alone? Are there things about yourself that you think make you less attractive to women? Things about yourself that you don't like? If so, work on those things. Make yourself a better self for YOU. Doing that will make you a happier you and give you more confidence in yourself. That will automatically make you more attractive to women. Women love confidence.
I think you might need to let go of some standards, because honestly looking for a young woman without any romantic past is not very reasonable, also if you are feeling insecure about yourself in anyway, you need to work on that, build up your confidence first. Most women can tell if it's fake.
You are probably eliminating a lot of awesome women with this limitation you are setting. Why are you worried about her past, if she had a boyfriend before? Who cares. If she chooses to be with you and you are in love and have a great relationship, her old boyfriend that she left won't matter at all. What are you worried about? You are eliminating a ton of potentially great matches for you.
@Jake99999 It is the hypothetical situation that exists to where she can reunite with someone from her youth and it be a sweeter, more desirable outcome, even if it doesn't happen.
Well, think about this. Many people are not sure what they like or how to be in a relationship. By having some experience dating people, you learn about what you like and don’t like, what works and what doesn’t work, and how to behave. Experience in life is a good thing. I think it’s going to be very hard for you to find someone with zero romantic history.
What if you met a really attractive woman with a great personality, she is into you, she checks every box for you - except that had a boyfriend in her past. You are telling me that you would walk away because of that?
What are you afraid of? Or, is it an ego thing…. you want to be “the only one”…? After a time you will get tired of this crusade and hopefully you will open yourself up to the possibilities.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman who has had past relationships. It’s totally normal. And if you think by being her first, it somehow first, it somehow guarantees it will last…think again. If it doesn’t work out, the you yourself would then have a romantic past. Does that make you damaged goods now? Of course not. It would make you a normal human like the rest of us.
But…you do you. Just remember, you sitting there feeling sorry for yourself that you have no one in your life…. there are changes within your control that could remedy that. I think the biggest thing for you to work on is this question about finding a relationship virgin.
I really like your way of thinking, but I don't think this will work for this guy, if he's a real person.
Plus I don't think he'll just change his attitude sooner. What's surprising it is he's not concerned about the sexual history, just the emotional bonding.
What he doesn't seem to consider is that a girl too can have a strong crush towards a guy but kept her feelings to herself for various reasons. So that too counts as emotional attachment
I can't speak for you, but I certainly am. I voted Option C. And dude... We look pretty similar! I'm just black. If you're taller than my short-ass (1.81 cm), then you definitely stand a better chance than I do. I'd just say you need to smile in your photo, cause you look depressed AF there. (I hate smiling, too.)
Speaking as a straight guy, you look like a typical handyman/electrician/HVAC guy from Alabama or Tennessee who owns a Ford pickup truck and gets laid plenty of times with the local female equivalents of yourself. You'd own a house by 27, be married by 28, and be worth six figures by the time you're 30, and never wasted a dime in college. That's my impression of you; just a good ol' Country Boy with a good woman. Not sure if that helps or not.
no you are not destined to be alone, dating is hard in general my man. I am 35 never had any serious relationships myself. When I was younger it was rough and people made me think I was ugly my entire life, was only a couple years ago I found it not to be true. If you are going through depression like me (which I hope you aren't cuz that shit is debilitating) definitely focus on yourself.
Try hitting the gym, its a lifestyle change but when I did, I found no shortage of attention, whether I wanted it or not from men and women. Overall, I want someone to connect with and not some fuck buddy so I had to pass on them. Let me repeat though, dating is HARD and relationships are hard work that can only be successful of two work at it. Just keep confident, you are not a ugly dude I promise you that. You will always judge yourself far harsher than anyone around you.
No. There are two problems: 1) you don't have much confidence 2) although you don't have much confidence you are too choosy. Why it's problem to have a girlfriend that had some romantic relationship or knew some good friend before? And by the way you can start dating some "not much beautiful girls" firstly. I know that it sounds weird and silly for me, so sorry, but not every girl is beautiful. You should also be interested in her character and not only in her physical appearance. You think that some super hot princess will fall into your lap and will say how much she loves you? So, get also confidence. And if you want to impress girls more by your appearance, great would be to go to the gym. by the way how tall are you?
Brother, you ain't gonna be alone. Compared to me, you are freaking Brad Pitt. But you cannot develop confidence in meeting women, if you are not out there constantly working at being social. I think I averaged a 4. I get if you put out a poll on your looks you would average at least a 7.
It doesn't make that much difference in what you look like to people who aren't shallow. It is your personality that makes the difference. You might want to read the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Do you really have anything to lose?
I don't know you, but I can assure you that you will find love, you will find a loving partner who will value you. As of now, just focus on improving yourself, get your lifestyle rectified. Eat better , exercise better sleep better. So my answer is , no you wil not be left alone. There is always someone for everyone. Take care
Of course not. But it will be harder since you're looking for someone to be their first. There are many people who are single but already have been looking. Isn't it better to find someone who's already got some experience who already figured out what she wants? Also, gotta ask how short are you really?
The only thing that prevents you from finding someone is you standards. You will not do this but it works. Start by dating big girls. Your success with them will give you confidence to ask prettier girls and so on until you reach your level. Above your level, girls will reject you.
Is it possible your standards are too high? You're a good looking guy, but you are cutting your chances way down by only going after women who don't have a romantic past. And the older you get, the fewer women there are who have never dated
It is the hypothetical situation to where she can reunite with someone from her youth and it be a sweeter, more desirable outcome, even if it doesn't happen.
If you mean that you're worried about her gping back to an ex and leaving you, then I would say a woman with no romantic past could still meet someone new while she's with you and leave. There's never a guarantee, all relationships face the possibility of an end
You dont look ugly but the look on your face says it all. your defeating yourself before you get out there. you just need to show some love and the right girl will say yes to a date. Once you have more experience you will feel better about yourself so just try to stop all the talk in your head. Woman are natural conversationalists and make it easy just try to find someone who shows interest back and snatch her number
Women’s “tastes” are all over the map some like fit some strong some thicc dad bods are the only ones they like. I think your only problem is the unicorn you seek. The only way to find a virgin girl is at a college or work in a supermarket where girls have their first jobs. It is not impossible to find a virgin but it is extremely rare you might die alone looking for it 🦄
while I do not know your personality, I dont think you will have problem, even go to the market, woman are a plenty there, you never know where you might find that special one
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No, we’re on the same boat. If it’s meant to happen it will but don’t rush into something that’s not good for you. Remember... you deserve to be pursued to and the right persona for you will do it, don’t sell yourself short.
I've read some of your comments and questions. Why do you place such a premium on having a woman with no romantic past. For your age, you are eliminating about 80% of all women.
