What was it like for you the first time falling in love?

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Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

Looking back and thinking, I don't know if I really was in love. I know I've had dated three boys in a span of weeks. It wasn't love. The term "boyfriend & girlfriend" was just a label we put ourselves under without thinking about it. We didn't do any couple things. My last boyfriend, he heard the teacher telling her students that there's going to be a transfer student joining our class and that I probably know her. I asked the name and the teacher gave me the student's name. I said I knew her and my boyfriend gonna ask me if she's cute. I shrugged my shoulders, not really bothered with looks in any way back then. (I was 12 at the time). Once the transfer came in the class and took her assigned seat, boyfriend asks if it'll be ok if he dates me and her. I agreed. He asked transfer student, who said no and that's when I got dumped right then and there. He left me for a better-looking girl. This just proves my theory of me being ugly, talking about looks. I've never once told myself that I was beautiful because I know, looks-wise, I am definitely not that. That is the first truth about me that I've already accepted.

On to where if I've ever fell in love. I think so at least. There was this one girl. She was 12 and I was 13. Her family are Christians and I'm just an Atheist. We were best friends before we became girlfriends.
When I spent the night over at her house, later on that day, I witnessed her texting a grown ass man. He sent her a nude and she returned one. My heart just did a flip and kinda sunken a little. I told her to stop texting that pedophile. She didn't listen. That was one red flag.
I guess I really was in love with her, despite her texting a pedophile.
Her mother moved, so the family had to move too. Weeks later, her mother reported me as a pedophile. This confirmed that her mother found out about us.
She called me, telling me something that I couldn't interpret, so I just broke things off with her, having the hunch that I'll never see her again.
I want to find her and tell her that I broke up with her because I knew we weren't going to see each other again.

Now, I'm not in love nor am I planning on falling in love anytime soon. I know I'm not ready yet.

5000pts · Accepted Answer

It was meeting a total stranger and spending every day after that wondering how you managed to live all your life without them up to that point. Realizing that you never truly felt alive until you met them-that you didn’t even notice you were missing something until they came along. Falling in love with him was different than any crush I had before him. Every other guy had a charming smile, or made my legs weak when I stood beside him, or made me blush and giggle, or made me stupid. But he opened my eyes. He made me realize that everything I thought was important -clothes, money, status-all the superficial stuff I thought I wanted in a man... would have never been enough to give me a fraction of the feeling it gave me to see him exist in a way that inspired me to want to join him in his existence for the rest of my life. When I realized I had fallen I love with him I understood something which I wouldn’t have ever realized without meeting him. Everybody around me was a means to an end, to an image or an idea of what love was supposed to be. Everybody around me was just an opportunity to reach the milestone of marriage with a long list of criteria to enhance MY sense of success. But he was an Individual. Knowing him alone felt like enough for me to want to be a better woman. I actually valued his happiness and his individuality over my ideas. It was the first time in my life where I put somebody else above myself. Where he didn’t have to dress a certain way, look a certain way or even be the high value rich, handsome man I had previously thought would swoop me off my feet one day. Not to insult his status or his looks or his financial situation because he wasn’t doing bad. But I learned immediately that it wouldn’t matter to me if he had everything or nothing... all I wanted was to see his smile some days and I would know that life was good. Not that it was easy, not that it lasted between us, but that it was genuine

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

The most unselfish thing one can experience.
Myself is quite admittingly selfish, a bit low with EQ which i do manage at this level i am comfortable with i know i probably could make it better but i don't care. Anyway so myself is indifferent, selfish and bit blunt.
While also one to experience limerence.
Which means i get obsessive, think mostly about how i need them and i cannot live without them. And stuff that can be sweet, maybe overbearing but for sure selfish i do try to manage it my best and honestly do well. Apart from some mistakes i've learnt from.

But again anyway. So i was with my 1st love for a bit stuck in that with her, i was always thinking about how she makes me happy and that she is the best for me. But one day it just kinda clicked.
I shouldn't be thinking how she makes me happy, i should be thinking about what makes her happy. I should be thinking how to be best for her. This was when i first realised what it means to truly be in love.
Now it didn't work out partly me been too unselfish ironical or maybe that's what i tell myself at me making a simple mistake of leaving her. You see it was a LDR i thought she would be better off and find someone better if we stopped our LDR which a couple weeks later i regretted but like i thought she found someone and is now happy in a close relationship.
Which i am happy about. Her been happy makes me so. But it shall always be one of those things were i am annoyed at myself.

Safe to say i get better over more experience and learning from these mistakes. But i do think my first love will always be a good thing even with not a perfect ending.
Also been in love and knowing what it feels like it's always funny to watch partners who argue and all that because not a single way from actual love would i think to get into such silly arguments.

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

I was 14. Yes, I believe 14 is old enough to be in love.

She was my age, and she was my first kiss where it meant something. She was amazing. We went to different schools so we didn't see each other as much as we wanted to, but we saw each other at least once a week. We had a very deep connection. We seemed to understand each other's wants and needs and supported each other in achieving them. We had very meaningful conversations about God and philosophy. Both of us were Catholics. She had a gentle compassion about her. A serenity that I found very precious. It's probably no small coincidence that she had many shared qualities with my wife.

I cared for her and wanted her to be happy. She eventually told me she was moving to San Jose in northern California. We were 16 at the time. I was utterly devastated. 😥

We decided it was best to break up. I held her and kissed her and she cried. I cried to, but on the inside. I wanted to put on a brave face for her so that her last image of me was smiling and wishing all the happiness she so very much deserved.

Ultimately I considered the relationship an amazing success. No, we didn't live happily ever after, but we connected and loved one another for 2 years. We broke up still in love.

As she was my best friend's cousin, I kept in touch with her for about two years, but my friend moved to Palmdale. After that, we fell out of touch.

When last I heard about her some 25 years ago, she was married and had children. I hope she is happy and well.

When my wife and I swapped stories about our first loves, I told her about her. My wife kissed me and said, "Awww. That's so sweet!"

This is a stark contrast to a friend of mine who also told his wife about his 1st love. She didn't speak to him for about an hour.

DaveToo · Answer

She was a redhead, extraordinarily smart, loved sex. I fell, literally, in love with her. (I fell over the couch in the sunken living room of my buddy's house. We dated for a year while I finished Coast Guard schools. That was 1966. November 11th, 1967 we married in NYC. A week later, after we got our apartment on Staten Island settled, we started our drive to Niagara Falls. Never made it. The roof of my Sunbeam Alpine Tiger blew off in the middle of a blizzard. I walked back and retrieved it, put it back on, but the hold-downs didn't do their job. So we drove through the blizzard as far as Schenectady to a rest stop. I called my brother and he came to rescue us. The next day he drove my wife to my Mom's house, 50 miles away and I drove the Sunbeam, holding down the roof the whole time to meet up with them. We spent my leave in the bed. Not to make love, we both had pneumonia. We finally took a bus back to New York where I got orders to Cape Lejune for combat training. From there I had two days with my wife then it was off to Vietnam for a year and a half.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Ah,

Complicated,

I had a someone - later taken away from me by my fosterparents - at age 1 or 2 already. It was a very sincere love/care, but also very... normal, ordinary, on many ways. It was all I knew. Perhaps she was my sister, or a fellow adoptee - we slept together in a hug, I used to feed her jam and wipe her lips clean after she'd smudge it, as a baby. It was as great as it should be. Natural mammal/human stuff, simply.

After that, there was primary school and a girl that started visiting me in the mornings before school, coming to wake me up from sleeping. Similar kind of almost animal closeness, but she never slept in the same bed as me. We never kissed. Barely held hands. Then she moved to another continent 4 years later.

After that someone I wanted to hug who ended up a huge bitch. All 3 were 10/10 in every regards, by the way. I am, too.

There were other bits and pieces after that, but only recently I saw someone and noticed I fall for the head size that is proportionately to body as large as mine. I am by all definitions a brainiac. And it is that instant feeling of love for a girl that is similar - introverted/almost shy, (very) good looking, and thinking of herself as ordinary. But I still need to find one to marry (moving countries 5 or 6 times in my life has not helped that effort one bit)

DizzyDesii · Answer

Straight stupid. Straight dumb. Straight hell. Wiling to do anything for someone who won't do the same for you in return. Cutting off your friends and fam for someone whos cheating on you with your friends and fam. Allowing him to fck you without consent just because you love him and are too afraid to push him off. Taking him back no matter how much wrong he did. Straight love hate relationship. Your first is always the hardest to get rid of. Not to get over but just to get rid of

Apulu · Answer

For me my first relationship was toxic as I was forced to stay with him even though I don't love him. But I do have crush on someone. It is a minor crush not a strong one. But I always got this feeling of butterflies in my stomach when he even smile at me. My heart starts beating hard when I see him online or even see him new profile pic. I always try to find a way to talk with him. My sister would tell me I look like an idiot with such a big smile (while I'm chatting with him). I start squealing only with a small information that I'm going to meet him soon. It is just an amazing feeling. Like you could do anything for this. Lol now that I'm talking about my cheeks became red. It is just a fantastic feeling. I think if there connection are more stronger then IT IS LOVE!!!

Jerre · Answer

I worked for an Agency of the Federal Government and was stationed at an Embassy in the Middle East. Also working there was a girl I really liked. We began dating and soon we’re madly in love. We eventually became engaged. A year or so later we set our wedding date. Two weeks before our marriage, she was killed in an auto accident. The love of my life, the only woman I ever loved was gone. I then volunteered for some missions in the Middle East, often worked 24-7. I don’t think I ever got over losing her. When I returned to the States after 10+ years, I took and early retirement, bought a home on the water in Florida. My lifestyle changed drastically, but do enjoy meself, but think of her often, the only time I ever loved a woman.

ohshee · Answer

Probably the same way that it would be today there's so many different types of love and when is true when it's unconditional when it's real there's nothing in this world that can stop you you are on top of your game no matter what you do because it opens that door to allow you to be yourself and shine it allows all your confidence Within to become even stronger at the same time that is the most beautiful thing in the world it's the most frightening thing in the world for a split moment and in that split moment you either accept it and Excel are you stopping back off but it's like two gears clicking together you surrender the past and Let It Go because there's no room for it where you're headed and the world has become one with every fiber of your being and there's nothing you cannot do you're walking on air

abc3643 · Answer

The problem with the first time is that, often, you don't know it until it's too late. Then, when you get your first real broken heart, THEN you know what real love is all about.

Graydon · Answer

Happened to me on here actually when I was about 17 (we met on here basically and she was 15) seemed to fall madly in love at the time with a real strong connection but long story short it was only just puppy love,, never met in real life & didn’t last long before she lost interest.
Still a virgin at 21, (no joke) and tbh I have rather low faith that it’ll happen for me for real with someone in person…

Anonymous · Answer

Painful, I had a crush and fell for this girl. I would to her a lot and then in a bad week when I couldn't eat or sleep I thought my well can't get any worse I should ask get out.

That was an idiotic thought.

I spent the next 2 weeks at collage in a terrible state. As I over heard some of her friends talking about it as she told them and showed the messages I sent. Add on to the fact I had an early start job, lots of work I was to depressed to do and I literally wasn't able to eat for 2 weeks or sleep really due to an injury.

Robin83 · Answer

It was painfull. She was constatly testing me, made a ton of drama, and I was an emotional mess. It was absolutely terrifying. Made me say and do stupid things, and Inhad no control over it. At times I wanted to kill myself. I didn’t have the tools I have now to deal with women properly. Luckily, it won’t be that bad after the first time. I’m glad it’s over.

libsaretards · Answer

Kinda like a movie. First day of school and I notice her because she was new and seemed shy. She was remaining distant from the others at the bus stop but came right up to me when she saw me. I pretty much fell in love right on sight. It was completely unexpected and love was not an issue I really thought of until that moment. It has been over 10 years since we last spoke but I still remember all our conversations clearly and find myself missing her on occasion.

exitseven · Answer

I thought about her all the time. I could not wait to see her. When we were together I never wanted the time to end. It was actually pretty nice on a lot of different levels. I was a shy kid that never had a girlfriend and it was amazing that this girl was really into me. It really did a lot for my self esteem.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Not good really. We had little in common and she was a cold creature by nature. Not really affectionate. I was bummed when she called it off until I met a another woman from Cyprus and life was really good. Like reallly good. Learned the best lesson of my life that summer.

CordetteMonet · Answer

Amazing. Every day, I felt excited to wake up so I could see them again. I wanted to do things to make them happy. I wanted them to do things for me to make me happy. I felt connected to them, more than anyone else in my life. I was happy to be a part of their life. It was one of the best feelings I've ever felt.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the first time I was truly in love, was around a decade ago. I couldn't stop thinking about her, and was unable to think about anyone else sexually. And just laying on my bed looking at her picture was enough to get me turned on.
I haven't experienced that with anyone else.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I had a bit of a panic and it led to a lot pain and angst. I was only 13 and not really sure what it was. it was the first time I could use a name with something nice.

proNutro · Answer

I’ve never been in love. Sure I’ve dated and really really liked the guys but I’ve never been in love.

Jakekk7634 · Answer

I was 15 he was 15, He was hot, Huge biceps, Super strong and tough too, Total bad boy, I blushed when i was around him and i could not even function around him, When i confeesed my love he called me a f*G and now he hates me, I still think he is the hottest guy ever tho.

chriscdi · Answer

It was good but it flopped, then I fell in love again and it flopped too, then I thought to myself, maybe some people are just meant to be alone so now I'm back to my number 1 focus and it's the money, it's not as good as love but it's a painkiller lol

randomgirl09 · Answer

It was great while it lasted I guess - It went all well at first but went downhill not long after - learnt a lot from it thought but honestly the whole experience has turned me off being in love ever again - Took years to get over it

helva · Answer

I was 5 and we would marry and have 4 children. 2 boys and 2 girls, but we did not know in what order.

15_Debo · Answer

it was eww feeling too clingy  and now it feels like lifetime ago It feels odd to think bout it now it lasted 4 years lol

Rachelspiks · Answer

Painful. I didn't know what was happening, because no one had bothered to tell me that this would happen.

Agape93 · Answer

Like falling face first into a chasm. But where fear would be, was contentment

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It was amazing cause I really loved her and when she broke up with me my day was ruined and no one to help me when I broke down to cry

pinaypixie · Answer

It was shocking because I had previously thought I’d been in love before however that wasn’t the case at all. My husband is my very first and last love ❤️

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It was wonderful and exciting, falling in love doesn't have a 1st time or last time unless you get married which means you chose to love 1 person forever and you will always be in love with him/her 😊

Coulis · Answer

It was dizzying. Almost otherworldy. As close to an out of body experience as one can get. Pinch me I'm dreaming.

But it was all hormones and adrenaline because he was a scumbag.

Second time he was total grandiose narcissist.

Neko911 · Answer

Lmao I was like 5 and it was with Eric. Literally everyone knew and it was just nice...

igaveyouanickname · Answer

Like a warm blanked fresh from the dryer: easy, uncomplicated, warm, and natural.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I honestly don’t remember because I’m too in love to😅

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

My eyes will be locked onto that person, I want him to notice but I am shy and I forget all the social skills I gained

Sohard · Answer

It was shitty because she didn't feel the same way I felt for her so it was always a heart break haha

KellyKOO · Answer

I've never been in love. I hope to fall in love one day if/when my crush gets he's act together 😭😭

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I worried a lot and also cried a lot since I always questioned if he loved me

genericname85 · Answer

it felt stupid and it was stupid xD like a desparate obsession that was utterly pointless.

Dude_777 · Answer

I fell in love so many times, that i don't even remember anymore 🤭.

EaterPeter · Answer

Denial. I did not knew for sure If I was in love until we broke up.

Andres77 · Answer

Exhilarating! I was 14 and she was 22. I was over the moon. Lasted two weeks. Totally crushed... Ahhh, Rosalinda...😞

JC1981 · Answer

Time stopping when we kissed the first time. Although I don't think he was in love with me.

eagle1951 · Answer

I honestly do not remember what it was like. Because of the years, but also because once I found true love done of the others matter.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

For me falling in love first time is like  Having sexual & horny feeling for someone first time. ❤️

scooogy · Answer

I think the caretakers in kindergarten rather wanted us to fancy each other in order to learn that social skill of "dating" 🤔

Starwitch23 · Answer

I was scared that what if I am the only person who was feeling this way. What if he doesn't?

varan69 · Answer

The best ever jumping in clouds, every song will be the cutest life was love in the air. Just like a movie kinda the notebook haha

SlipperyStinker · Answer

Difficult. It happened directly before a very harsh period in my life began, and due to it carrying into it, it self destructed. I left, she and I split, and she resented me for it.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

In order to fall in love you must be capable of being loved

Jonny59 · Answer

jesus I have no idea how do I experience love lol?

Yaharro · Answer

It's feel like you got all the happyness all at once

1stranger · Answer

It was weird and different but like a poem.

Anonymous · Answer

nice for a while  until I found out  that it was fake

Asianguy123 · Answer

it's probably shooting some crack cocaine for the bad girls and boys.

Anonymous · Answer

It was great until my brother told her and then her him and his girl all laughed

Anonymous · Answer

I thought I was about to experience it for the first time but she takes 10 hours to text me back. Maybe in another life

Glasgow55 · Answer

Magical - and it still is.

Dnice1 · Answer

It was sweet and gave me butterflies

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Scary I never felt so exposed and out of control

Justneedtokno · Answer

Well… It was beautiful

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Magical

Still-alive · Answer

Nerve racking but alluring at the same time

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