My cousin brother who is of age 14 proposed me. I love him in sibling way. But he really love me mad. What will I do?

[Apulu]

My cousin brother confessed me in midnight. I told him to give me time. The next day I honestly told him that I love him as a brother. Since that day he was depressed and cold, rude to me. I couldn't watch him in this state. He is one of the most important person in life whom I can't let go. I didn't thought of myself and did a lyric prank on him of "crazy over you" by Blackpink and proposed him for his happiness. He became extremely overjoyed. Then I realized that this relationship was fake for me. I felt that even my career path is blocked by my parents and the love life is blocked too. I broke up with him. I got really rude and mean treatment from him from that day. He began to bully me. Then to make him stop doing that to me I pretended to be my sister and tell him that I got possessed and all. But he confessed again. I again told him I love him as brother. He became very bad coming in his friend's advice. I again had to propose him. He accepted it. Then I again made HIM broke up with me by texting as ghost to him to stay far from me. But things didn't went as planned. He told me about ghost thing and I didn't had a way out. So I ended it up by telling him that ghost won't let us be together unless we both become something in our life. I hope that his teenage crush on me would be ended after 10-15 years. But I still have doubt as one thing is for sure that he truly loves me and will not let go of me. Give advice to remove him without breaking his heart and him again loving me as a sister. Keep in mind that all confession, break-ups, the ghost and sister chat happened through texts. Don't hate me for the for doing all this. He was telling that he will suicide if we break up. He doesn't believe the fact that love doesn't hurts but loving the wrong person hurts. He thinks true love only come ones and I'm his true love. I want him to leave but at same time want him to stay. I don't understand my life!!!

[Tstrbrainer]

You too messed up knowingly or unknowingly.

Anyway, you are just teenagers, his feelings will fade away eventually as time passes, provided you don't encourage his feelings towards you and keep a good distance.

Depending on the intensity, it might take some years.

Anyway, don't expect him to see you as a sister anytime soon.

[Apulu]

This kind got me relieved. Yes I realized that I have messed up. But I was too scared. As far as I know that he can bully anyone badly and I didn't wanted to be victim. I should have been against him from starting. But my fear of loosing him overtook me. Now I don't care even if he dies because it is his problem. He just knew everything but pretended unknown. He should have knew it that it was one sided.

[Tstrbrainer]

Exactly. His actions sound really immature to carry a healthy relationship.

Plus his friends may not always be the wise ones.
So better stay away from him at least for a year or two.
Don't insult or provoke him in any way, but just avoid him.

And find someone older who you can trust

[Apulu]

Thank you for understanding me. I think I should choose someone 15 -17 years boy as those are kind of mature.

[Tstrbrainer]

I'm not very sure about that.
Age gap is fine among adults, but while we are growing, it's not advisable. If you are 13 , I suggest you don't date guys who are 16 and above.

This is just my personal opinion, sometimes there might be wonderful relationships, but there are certain differences which some may not be able to adjust with

[Apulu]

Ok thank you again.

[Tstrbrainer]

Good luck

[Jamie05rhs]

What is "cousin brother" equivalent to in English?

[Apulu]

I didn't get it.

[Jamie05rhs]

What is a "cousin brother.". Are they a relative? Or is it a term of endearment?

[Apulu]

He is the son of my biological dad's Biological brother. We are blood related. Not step cousins

[Jamie05rhs]

Then that is what we would call "cousins."

[Jamie05rhs]

What country are you in, if I may ask? In the USA, we don't marry cousins. But your culture may be different; I don't know.

[Apulu]

The problem is I'm Indian. Not in all the states over here prohibit cousin marriage.

[Apulu]

I'm Indian but not all states over here prohibit cousin marriage.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, after reading everything you've written, my opinion here is that you need to be very firm and tell him that you cannot be in love with him. Because I believe that is what your heart truly feels. And you need to tell an older brother or sister about this situation, so they can back you up. It will be good to have someone on your side to support you in this; because as you've told us before, he doesn't seem to to take things well and he will resist you. But the truth remains that you two cannot be together.

[Apulu]

Will he hate me after that? Like will he love me back as an sister or just ignore me?

[Jamie05rhs]

He will probably be mad. But that's his problem. Don't let it affect you. Don't let that dissuade you from doing what you know is the right thing to do.

[Apulu]

I can do this one with help of my elder cousin sister. Thank you a lot. for the opinion. You removed a toxic burden from me.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's good! :)
You are very welcome. I'm glad that I could help.

[SnakeBoop]

Reject him. Fucking duh.
He's 14. It's not love 🤣

[Apulu]

Thank you sis, out of all the opinions you made me feel light. But he is kind of threating me that he will bully me or do something that I will regret if I don't accept. It is ending badly both the way. What do you think. Is this crush or obsession?

[SnakeBoop]

Call his bluff.
And then tell his parents if he starts being funny.

[Apulu]

If I tell this to his parents then it will come to my parents and as our family is famous in our city, rumors will go around. His mother is a gossiper kind of. She will make situation more bad as she will tell to her friends but from the opposite way. Then I will be seen as villain in the whole city.

[SnakeBoop]

Well I mean you're not innocent so yeah, shitty actions have shitty consequences.

[Apulu]

I was forced to do it all. I even didn't started all this. He knew from the starting that I don't like him and have a crush too. But still he is acting to be unknown and letting the way go like it is. I have told him the truth a long ago but he just doesn't listens me. I was forced to be shitty. Not that I'm blaming him as I understand it is his teenage crush but he is taking this so seriously like there are no other girls in the world who will be with him. I don't want to be bullied and don't want to fake my love.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You are too young to get married

[Apulu]

Not that I want to!!! My cousin brother did this all knowing that I don't see him in that way and I have crush on my male friend. He is kind of telling me that if I don't accept him then he will bully me or attempt to suicide. I know teenage mood swings but this is other level.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell an adult you trust

[Apulu]

But as it is India my parents will hate me instead. Indian parents don't like relationship and doing one with cousin is too much for them.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell them your cousin’s brother is harassing you. They will blame him. Not you.

[Gwenhwyfar]

He is toxic

[Apulu]

Thanks a lot. Only girls gave me positive opinions.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You’re welcome 😊

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

You lied to him several times to try to manipulate his feelings. I don't think this situation can be helped.

[avengers197197]

Same thing happened to me couple of days ago and this times it's my younger sister of 21years old, and I'm 23 I rejected her very nicely but she didn't gave up and then I told her Im only behind bodies of girls not for love (I thought she will hate me for this and won't call again), but she said I will improve ur lusty thoughts without any physical contact


Then I got mad at her and told her that I see her as sister only and nothing else and now she is saying u say yes or I will drink sanitizer bottle now

So I asked her for some time and I have to answer within next 12 hrs

What should I do, I'm thinking about calling my aunt but it will make situation worse

I feel like I should rather drink poison than giving her answers and it's something that I can't talk to anyone other than as anonymous guy on internet

[avengers197197]

And I'm indian hindu boy
And she is my dad's sisters daughter help me🙏🏻🙏🏻

[hahahmm]

So you pretended to be in love with him... then when he reciprocated you rejected him. You're a lying attention whore who gets off on having power over others. That's why you write: "I want him to leave but at same time want him to stay". Just think how sad & pathetic it is that the only guy in the whole world who you can get interest from is a relative who only noticed you when you started lying.

[Apulu]

You are misunderstanding me. If I was a fucking attention whore then I have my whole family and friends which is like uncountable also I hate attention. Also it is a problem as there are chances that my crush likes me back and this isn't good. Didn't you read "He was telling that he will suicide if we break up." and "I didn't thought of myself and did a lyric prank on him of "crazy over you" by Blackpink and proposed him for his happiness". It is like he is forcing me. He knows everything. But still acts to be unknown so I will stay with him. He very well knows my weakness that is seeing my family sad. Also after my sister he is the most important person in my life. So he knows that he is going to win in end. Just tell me how to remove his crush in me. If you can't then the door is open FUCKING LEAVE. I know I'm disrepectful but you should know your limit.

[hahahmm]

Stop acting like a victim. You started all this trouble. Too bad. Remember it as you get older... as a lesson in why you shouldn't mess with somebody else's feelings.

[Notyourbuisness]

Stop it dude. She feels really depressed. You are adding oil in fire. I'm on her side. Don't be lazy and go read what she wrote for others. She admitted she did a mistake but her fear of losing her brother overtook her. Teenagers Nowdays. Well remember she was alone in the whole situation. Did you read that her career path is blocked by her parents. She already have lot to worry. See it from teenager's point of view not from late 40's old man 🤑.

[hahahmm]

@Notyourbuisness I don't care how she feels. I'm more concerned with the guy she abused who feels suicidal. If she wants to get babied she should go talk to her mama.

[avengers197197]

You are indian and so am I
But in my case it's my younger cousin sister of 21 years old
I tried to show her that I'm only behind sex and body of girls but her reply made me feel ashamed as she said just marry me and I would help ur that condition but no sex or anything else and she is telling me to answer by tomorrow morning otherwise she would kill herself by drinking sanitizer (or anything), now I'm screwed

U can try this if he is okay with it then say him that he is only behind my body and not for real love

It didn't worked for me bcz she was mature girl but in ur case it's different so u might try that

[YollyM]

Tell him he's family and family doesn't marry family it's nasty

[Apulu]

I will try this too. Thank you for not giving hate.

[Nick473]

Its okay I proposed to my grandma when i was like 7

[Apulu]

But you were a kid that time. He is taking the teenage crush too seriously

[Nick473]

Yeah his hormones are going crazy he just needs guidance

[Apulu]

I think so...

[Nick473]

Maby someone you know can put some sense into him?

[Apulu]

I will try talking to my trusted elder cousin sister who is of age 16. She is close to both of us. Maybe she can help me out. He may also listen to her.

[rachel776]

wouldn't your cousin's brother also be your cousin?

[Apulu]

I don't get it. But we both are blood related. I see him as brother but he see me as a girl

[es20490446e]

First decide what you want yourself, then clearly state that to the guy.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I don’t know, live with it. It’s super easy, barley an inconvenience

[IncognitoBandito]

I would keep away for a few days

[Anonymous]

Tell him the truth and don't sugar coat it.

[Apulu]

He knows everything but is still acting to be unknown so I'm kind of forced to stay with him.

[Anonymous]

Tell us about the guy you really want. The bad boy

[Apulu]

Are you asking my ideal type?