Is a woman pursuing you for a relationship, or making the first move attractive to you?

[SenseiSeptred]

It happened to me, and I am in a happy relationship.

[Twalli]

I like it. I don't have to worry about her saying no. Also I will never turn down a first date while single

[DonkeyDan]

Yeah I quite like it when they make the first move, makes everything far simpler.

[Browneye57]

I always have to laugh at this silly comment - the 'move'. WTF exactly is a 'move'? They say 'hi', or 'hello'?
If everybody thinks women are going to become men, they're completely full of it. Uh, no.
We've raised a whole crop of girlie-men that can't go after what they want, so they sit on the sidelines just hoping something will happen.
Women still absolutely loathe weak men. And even if they put up with it for a time, eventually they get bored and then go looking for CHAD THUNDERCOCK. :)

[serious]

Yes I will be attractive to me but I will politely and nicely ask her to back off as my purpose if to remain single and wouldn't want a woman to get hurt. I will be upfront and tell her to back off right away the moment I see any such signs of a woman showing interest in me in any way whatsoever.

[SenseiSeptred]

Well don't be selfish either at the same time because to want is to sin.

[serious]

@SenseiSeptred

Wanting to remain single for life isn't a sin. I wish to remain single for life and enjoy life in my own ways, lead a disciplined life, no bad habits, eat healthy food, watch movies, play games on PC, iPhone etc etc.

The purpose I have is my own choice, my decision. What I am doing is not a sin by any means.

Either you don't understand the meaning of sin or your perception of seeing life and things are different.

However, you are right I am selfish but that is only in good ways and not in bad ways. There is good and bad aspects in everything and same thing applies to selfishness. Being selfish isn't as bad as people may it seem.

Anyways it is fine. Just wanted to explain myself.

[SenseiSeptred]

Yes, we are different, but it doesn't just apply to life, it goes beyond death as well for the both of us.

[Miristheiss]

It is flattering regardless. Someone seeking you out instead of the other way around.

It is attractive if I am into her.
If she is someone I'm not attracted to... it is flattering but not "attractive".

[loves2learn]

I imagine that would be very sexy indeed. I am happy for you two.

[Tiptoetamm]

I've always made the first move. I've never been afraid to get the man I want

[moviedude714]

God bless you for that

[Tiptoetamm]

Thank you

[Jake99999]

Sure why not. It’s sexy. I like women who are confident and direct.

[JosyJosy]

I think the guys will definitely appreciate it. Just don't be like super desperate or thirsty.

[moviedude714]

If I'm already attracted to her then it's a dream come true but sadly this has always been extremely rare and probably always will

[TexasRed95]

100% yes. I am horrible at approaching women and it has never ended in success. I would love for one to approach me for a change.

[FraITA92]

Then stop approaching women, you are fueling the supply of men to them. Let them approach you, and show you that they are honest women who truly believe in equality, not only when it benefits them =)
All the other women are worthless, keeping whining about how men approach/court while they are not doing anything. They are the definition of hypocrisy, which disgusts me

[TexasRed95]

I live in a college town in the south. Women don't approach men here.

[FraITA92]

Well, you said it never ended in success, so the only thing you are doing is giving them the impression that there are countless men waiting for them, and they will never be motivated to try and be proactive.
Instead of keeping trying endlessly, you should: keep yourself in your best condition, be not obvious but direct in showing the girl that you are interested (eye contact, smiles, maybe while passing near her),
open a 'passive' online dating account, where you only swipe (less than 30% of profiles, not based only on looks), join one or more groups or courses that match your interests, it will both reduce your thoughts about dating and improve your social life, which improves your chances of finding a decent girl (who isn't hypocrite and sexist). Let people you trust know that you like that women have some initiative. If you have female friends let them know too, maybe they have a brave single friend 😉

[tbr281tr]

Yes but she sleeps around a lot and I’m not into that. I appreciate the gesture but would want to be with someone that respects herself.

[jasco]

yes it is. It’s unlikely to happen tho but it is very nice to know someone likes me like that

[Anonymous]

so far , only girls i didn't find attractive who did that
so..

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, I prefer that, actually.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Already more than the passive ones🙂😊

[Bobme]

Heck yeah.

[dudeinohio]

Yes it is

[anylolone]

Yes.