Does anyone else find men are really lazy on dating apps and won’t message first?

[Anonymous]

I believe that both can message first but I find that some men just don’t message first and expect you to make the first move. My age range is 25-38 and have found the over 35’s to make the first move. On hinge they will like your photos but not leave a comment even though there’s lots of information to start a conversation. And when you start the conversation they are so interested but have told me they don’t want to message first. Do the younger generation have less confidence?

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[Anonymous]

It's not about laziness or lack of confidence. But as a rule I don't message women first on dating apps. And I advise any guy who will listen to do the same. Online dating is as equal as you get in the dating GAME and women hate that. So as I tell guys why would you EVER give them that power back. Read most women's profiles and they say it themselves " I'm just seeing what's out there" they type on their bio's... why? Because they want to let you know they are above online dating. They don't need it. Women in a bar can be out looking for some d*** but she can pretend she's just there with her girls and reject every guy that walks by. She can still do that online but she can't hide behind why she's there and she despises that.

[FilmGuy93]

Speaking as a guy who doesn't approach; it has nothing to do with laziness or confidence. I refuse to make the first move because far too many women waste my time and effort. My time is too valuable to spend it talking to women who don't make up their minds.

[Assi2k]

Whenever I try a dating app outta boredom, because dating apps r a joke and they don't work, my inbox gets too flooded so I gotta delete it in a couple days.

[Jamie05rhs]

You should try posting less attractive photos.

[Assi2k]

@Jamie05rhs No I just post normal pictures that shows my face and body

[Jamie05rhs]

@Assi2k I know.
(I was trying to give you a compliment! 😉 )

[Assi2k]

Oh lol. thanks hun. I'm sure you're too

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

And thanks! ☺️

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that men are just becoming lazy in general and really dont put in effort when it comes to much of anything these days.

[ChiTown33]

Gotta give us a reason to hun.

[siegetiming]

When guys keep trying to approach girls first and get rejected over and over, it becomes a bit frustrating. Maybe they aren't lazy, they could just be tired. Maybe they see you and go "Oh great, I'm just gonna get rejected by THIS girl too. I don't even give a frick anymore."

[KrakenAttackin]

Nah. Men have to send something like 150 "likes" to get a single response (Tinder/POF/eHarmony did a study). Of course this is an average. Chad Thundercock sends three or four likes to get a response to that skews the average for regular guys. So if a guy has to send 250-300 likes to get a reply he is not going to put much effort into each "like" for such a low chance of return.

[Jamie05rhs]

Right. Once the conversation has started, THAT's when we put in the effort.

[Anonymous]

No to tell you the truth men don’t message first unless they’re forced to because women are so goddamn entitled that when we do try we’re shamed and attacked her given some snarky remark so if you want to talk to us then you can start the conversation, and then you can see just how difficult it is when somebody wants to shut you down.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, so... It's not about a lack of confidence. We just don't give a shit.
You haven't impressed us enough to care.

[Asker]

Makes no sense 🤣 Then you’re just that desperate you’d swipe on any girl? You realize women don’t swipe on everyone.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; I'm saying the opposite. I swipe left on 95% of the profiles I see.

[Jamie05rhs]

But even with the ones I swipe right on, I'm still skeptical.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

No I actually see the contrary, that girls are lazy and absolutely NEVER text a guy first. Also most of them are terrible and boring in conversations. Always the guy has to initiate

[Chthou95]

The entitlement is hilarious. Women have to do bare minimum and expect a man to start a conversation and keep the conversation when they themselves don't do any of that

[Asker]

Aww the fact you’re not a real man is hilarious.

[Chthou95]

Act like a real women

[clampfan101]

I would if I found someone I was interested in, but lots of girls don’t say much/anything about themselves on their profile.

[Anonymous]

"I find that some men just don’t message first and expect you to make the first move."

This statement is very ironic coming from a woman.

[Asker]

Clearly you’re one of those males 😘

[Opinion Owner]

I'm married, sooooo...

[Asker]

So your wife done all the hard work.

[Opinion Owner]

Hardly, lol. I just think it's comical when women complain about men not making the first move when most women are not willing to do it themselves. Female hypocrisy at it's finest.

[Asker]

Just said I don’t mind making the first move but the majority of men don’t. Female hypocrisy 🤣

[Opinion Owner]

I'm talking about men and women in general here. It's rare for women to make the first move. Men do it all the time because if they didn't they would literally never get a date and the human species would go extinct.

Yes, female hypocrisy indeed.

[Yourfriend2021]

They are tired of getting no response or getting rejected.

[Jamie05rhs]

That, too.

[Yaharro]

I think women disappoint man a lot so think man are more aware now culture is changing

[Hanrej]

No, if anything I find men are about 100 times more likley to message me than women are. I think women are lazy. 😊

[Nachowedgie]

I find women don't make any effort whatsoever when it comes to conversation

[IncognitoBandito]

I doubt most men take them seriously

[Anonymous]

Everyone is lazy on dating sites.