If it was up to a certain sex to choose, what sex would be better at choosing a lifelong mate? Men or women?

[Anonymous]

Like say it was only up to one of the sexes to decide who their mate is. Which sex is better at selecting an ideal successful mate for themselves- men or women?

Men

Women

A total of 92 votes were cast: 29 girls and 63 guys. See detailed results

[zeitgeist057]

With the caveat that I'm speaking in vague generalities due to the polarizing nature of the question...

My observation is that in general, women don't really choose that well. They tend to just stick to whatever man happens to be around more. If that's some abusive, controlling guy, then they go with that. They are more passive in the way a partner is chosen.

On the other hand, men in general tend to be more assertive and proactive in finding and selecting a partner. They don't just sit around and wait for whomever. They are historically more the choosers than the chosen. They also tend to put up with less BS, and will move on if a woman doesn't fit. There are of course exceptions to this, and guys without confidence who stay in unhealthy relationships because they have lost their mojo.

[zeitgeist057]

Proof of concept: Look at number of men proactively answering this question vs. women--> at time of writing, 21 males to 5 females. Women are not as assertive in general.

[edgey]

Men can make good picks purely on surviving.
Women can make good picks on surviving in the modern world.

Men - Will pick a partner who can bear healthy children (usually), and will make a formidable partner with him against the world. This is usually without relating to modern times. Men have wanted the same things in women for centuries. Attractive, loyal, healthy, cooperative.

Women- Will (usually) pick a partner who can provide the best life for her. Someone who has sufficient resources, is a good defender of the home, can take care of her if needed. Unfortunately, it is easy to lie to someone about those things.

With that said, real men, who don't do what current society tells them to, usually make the best picks.

[JustAnj]

I'd say neither I have brothers, guy friends, girl friends, and sisters.

A lot of them if not most always have a hard time choosing good partners.

Soooo neither.

I think it's fair to say both genders get better at finding matches as they get to know there boundaries and accept their failures. Especially finding themselves before getting serious.

[Anonymous]

I know I'm biased, but I'd say women. Men think a little too much with their crotch. Don't get me wrong, women can do that too, but I don't think we typically do it to the extent men do

[VanillaSalt]

Men… let’s be honest for a minute. If a man wants to sleep around he’s going to sleep around but you hear women complaining they want commitment. The only men that would choose to tie themselves down to marriage are the ones that actually wanna be married. Women can’t seem to pick em so ya men would be the better choice.

[VanillaSalt]

Downvote me I don’t give a fuck. You know who your are if you actually want a relationship and if you are just a hoe looking to hookup.

[Anonymous]

Depends how you define “successful mating” I suppose. Women would be more likely to select some godlike figure of wealth and status as a partner. But does that make a guy’s choice “unsuccessful” if he doesn’t fixate on income or status the same way? In terms of availability, it gives him more choices. But in reality men don’t really get to choose many things of this nature.

[20yearsolder]

Probably women, or maybe not, you tend to overanalyze everything

[Asker]

True lmao

[MCheetah]

I don't think it's simple. Logic would say women would be better at choosing because pregnancy and kids, and all. But women in general tend to make poor life choices much more often than men (especially in dating). So I really don't know.

[DWornock]

Assuming that who they choose has the right to reject their offer men would be better at choosing because they are more logical and are far less likely to have unrealistic standards and because men far more than women are willing to lower their standard to a level that would not reject their offer.

[VTecumseh]

Men think men are the best, and vice versa. This poll is hilarious and is a perfect example of why we need each other.

[backblueblack22]

You would think women would be better at choosing because they are usually much more picky. But destructive and violent men are often a turn on for them. They CREATE their own problems and drama.

This isn’t all women of course. But too many of them.

[Jake99999]

Impossible to say. It’s not a gender thing. Neither gender is inherently better. It’s an individual thing. Your gender does not automatically make you better or worse at it.

[VikingWarLord]

Neither because we are POLYAMOROUS creatures by "Default"

Monogamy is a newer invention. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan

[Asker]

Bleh, we also by default are supposed to be naked in live in the woods and yet do we?

[MCheetah]

Bullsh*t.

[t-8900]

I also wipe my ass and take showers which our ancestors did not. But hey if you want to be stinky...

[VikingWarLord]

If someone told you that you could only drink water and no other types of drinks, what would you do?

If someone said you could only eat oranges and no other fruit for the rest of your life, what would you do? Same with one type of food and ONLY that food for the rest of your life, what would you do? Eventually you will want VARIETY and that includes with your relationships. The divorce rate and infidelity rate already provides your duuumb-asses with the the obvious about our 'nature'.

[VikingWarLord]

@t-8900 It wasn't just in our past, there are still people all around the world who practice polyamory, you twit!

[t-8900]

@VikingWarLord boi I was talking about wiping asses. If you want to share your woman with other men that's your business though 😆

[Pj1981]

Good question but I'm going with the female. I'm a guy and I make some really shitty choices.

[tatianamay]

I think both should be given the choice of choosing their own partners. I'd go with men though

[TallAnon]

Women, men aren't evolved to stick with one partner.

[t-8900]

LOL you need to see more of the world if you think that. Plenty of women with 4+ dudes they juggle through on the phone

[TallAnon]

I simply pointed out that a woman can bear a maximum of around 15 kids while a men can impregnate about 80000 women. Biologically, they have to be more selective. Your anecdotal evidence doesn't seem very relevant in that regard.

[t-8900]

You're saying men aren't evolved enough to stick to one partner. Plenty of men who stayed with one woman throughout history.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Even the guys agree on this one that women would chose better!

[t-8900]

I've watched enough Maury to know it's not women. Not even trying to be biased on this one.

[Anonymous]

Women do the choosing today, and the divorce rate and single motherhood prove they have failed.

So men would likely be better able to make a better choice, women have certainly failed.

[KrakenAttackin]

Hypergamy and the cock carousel prevent modern women from making good partner decisions.

[gag2021]

When it comes to starting a relationship, it's the woman that chooses the guy she wants.

[Slim57]

Men, we dont choose people who beat us and then still stay with them

[anylolone]

Both suck equally.

[Asker]

Lol yeah

[ArsenalTheYhur]

Women because men don’t fuck their male friends

[msc545]

Men probably. Or neither one.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I think the ones that need a Silent G

[Tiptoetamm]

Definitely men

[simpforeddie]

girl supremacy

[Ncink]

Om horny

[jimmy2]

Well is my love