Girls, would you date your best guy friend if you were sure it wouldn’t affect your friendship or circle of friends?

[Anonymous]

Yes I would

No i would not

[Blackcupcake]

no... that is gross, we pretty much grew up together and I could never look at him that way. however we used to pretend date in high school before he graduated lmao, just for the fun of messing with people

[Asker]

Gross how?

[Blackcupcake]

we're very close but it's platonic. so attempting to look at him in that light feels gross, makes me cringe.

[Asker]

So you’ve never found him attractive?

[Blackcupcake]

nope, I mean he is attractive but no not like that.

[Asker]

Would you date him if he wasn’t your friend and he asked you out?

[Blackcupcake]

nope I never go out with anyone who randomly asks me out.

[Asker]

So how do men go on dates with you? Who’s allowed to ask you out?

[Blackcupcake]

I like it when a guy approaches me or I approach him in a friendly manner, we get to know each other and then if the sparks are there things escalate naturally. Instead of going on a date with someone I may not know and have all these expectations of how things should go... not really my thing.

[Asker]

So you prefer to be friends first?

[Blackcupcake]

Friendly…. not friends

[Asker]

So basically a guy has to approach a girl in a friendly manner without becoming friends?

[Blackcupcake]

in general? no but that’s just my personal preference.

[Asker]

I can’t get dates so I’m trying to find out how I can get a date.

[Blackcupcake]

well... I guess you just gotta find a way that works for you... also, not all girls are into the same things so if you have someone you're interested in, try to find out about how they are, what they like and go on from there.

[Asker]

I’ve been rejected by over 100 women. Clearly I’m doing something wrong.

[Blackcupcake]

over 100? damn, where do you even find that many girls

[Asker]

Online, through friends, at social events.

[Asker]

And every single one of them said no when I asked them out.

[Blackcupcake]

maybe try not being so hasty with asking them out?

[Asker]

I’m not that hasty generally. Sometimes I wait weeks, months or even years.

[Blackcupcake]

uhmmm... I'm not sure what to tell you then, is it something about your personality or the way you talk? what do YOU think is the reason you've been getting rejected?

[Asker]

I’m not sure to be honest. I normally get told that I’m a great guy and they really enjoy my company but they just want to be friends.

[ellie71]

I wouldn't, it would be so different after dates

[Asker]

What do you mean by that?

[ellie71]

The interaction between me and my "used to be" best friend would be changed and different

[Asker]

In what way?

[ellie71]

The treatment in most things i believe