I just rejected a girl because she had a romantic past and previous boyfriends. Will I ever find the one?

[Inthecraphole]

I pretty much rejected a girl online because she has had boyfriends before.

I am seeking a woman that has never had her first love. I am wanting me and her to be each other's first loves and first real relationship

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[btbc92]

You are overreaching and I am sorry. Even somebody like me had a crush or first love and that was extremely young, and I never dated. You need to stop pretending you never crushed on a person either. The more you restrict yourself for no longer reasons, the harder it becomes because it's just impossible. Unless you have a "The Tempest" situation when Miranda saw other men but her father and (i forgot the other guy), then is just not likely for the most part. You rejecting her because she had boyfriends before doesn't help you. What about the girl that made you reject her? She had sex before? Then I can understand. I cannot find myself with a nonvirgin myself when I am one too.

But if you are just rejecting her just over romantic pasts? Now you're showing your insecurities of self that isn't healthy. And it is not fair to others who have to be caught in that mess. If a guy had other relationships, that doesn't bother me. What does is if he was sexual in them, what and who he was attracted to, what happened in it, why it ended, what are his goals, and what are his beliefs and principles. Mostly sexually because that is a huge chunk that will affect the relationship. You're the only dealbreaker is that she had a past and had loved before. So again, unless you pick a woman who has never seen a man and is easily attracted. You need to be more realistic that you sadly are the one making it more harder for you. I'm sorry, but this is just the truth. I believe you made many posts like this before and it needs to stop because whatever answers you get is what you get and you need to respect that.

[Inthecraphole]

A crush on a guy she was never close to or never bonded with is fine. But if a woman has had a romantic bond with a guy, especially from her youth, she is just not worthy of my heart. She could be a great hookup where we screw and never see each other again, but nothing more. I refuse to fully give my heart to a woman the first time that has given her heart to some other guy before me.

[btbc92]

You don't need hookups and you're a red flag. Why hook up with a woman but expect a clean woman to never be involved? No, you don't sound right. And most certainly don't need a woman. A woman no offense, doesn't like men who use women for hookups but, wait what? That is stealing her right to love a man. What you have is bondage.

[Inthecraphole]

If a woman were to have sex with a stranger and never see him again, I would not be as hurt and cam overlook that. But if she has given her heart to some other guy before and has bonded with him romantically, especially during her youth, she is a no go.

[btbc92]

I am sorry. But you're being hypocritical right now. Women naturally bond especially if she was a virgin and had sex. Doesn't sound like you don't understand sexual relationships between men and women.

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m not sure if you are trolling at this point, but at your age you can’t expect a woman that is your age to be untouched by another man.

[Inthecraphole]

She can of course be as young as 18. I tend to go for the younger women anyways. Just as long as she has never had a romantic bond with a guy before.

[kyleelyn199723]

Yikes so you would rather date an 18 year old that has barely experienced the real world and dating, than a woman that knows what she wants in life even if that means she has had 1-3 other partners? I think you are very narrow minded. That 18 year old has the ability to literally screw you over in the process of trying to make a serious relationship if she decides that she can find better men. Completely odd to me that you don’t think it’s a rarity for an 18 year old to want to settle down

[Inthecraphole]

I just don't want to give my heart fully to a woman that has already given hers to some guy before me, especially during her youth.

[kyleelyn199723]

Well maybe you need to ponder why you are still single 🤷🏻‍♀️ just FYI, I have a man and I have a few exes and I don’t have feelings for any of them.

[Inthecraphole]

People grow sentimental as they age. A lot of people have a special place in their hearts for those they loved during their youth.

[kyleelyn199723]

Yeah but you have a lot of one sided flaws to your thinking. And I have personal experience with the side you think is correct. When I was 18 years old I just barely had any experience dating and got into a relationship with someone and ended up leaving him because I realized I had way more to live for than settling at that age. I think you need to evaluate the pros and cons to your standards.

[HighValue]

I suggest you change your mind somewhat and look for someone that is a virgin instead of not having ever liked anyone before. If you are the first and only one she ever likes enough to go all the way with that should be special.
Even as kids people like someone, so no romantic interests as a standard means you'll find nobody.

The thing is though, your past matters too. You have to be a genuinely good guy and not have a past of hook ups, etc. Can't be hypocritical.

[bamesjond0069]

Smart man. Thats what i did. I now have a girlfriend who never knew a man until me. Totally worth the trouble of finding her. Yeah she was 18 but thats not a bad thing at all.

[Inthecraphole]

Thanks. That gives me some hope at least.

[bamesjond0069]

It just takes a lot of work and time. You might be single for years. I was going for it.

[Inthecraphole]

I sure hope I can find her one day. It is unusual for a lot of 18 year old women to want to date a 30 year old guy. I am only 27 but I am creeping up to that age faster than I ever thought.

[bamesjond0069]

Nah its actually a good thing. The ones that like older men are more mature for their age and serious. The kind who dont aren't what you're lookinf for... party girl type.

[Juxtapose]

This is you killing your love life with those ridiculous standards:

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[Bluemax]

I believe I've mentioned this to you before. At your age, finding a woman with no romantic past will probably be tilting at windmills.

If you were into this girl and vice versa, I think you should have gone out with her.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

If it’s for religious reasons then go ahead and date within your religion. If not then it’s fine but you’re going to have a difficult time with your search

[ChiPaPa]

Are you fucking kidding me? You throw away a perfectly good relationship because she had a few guys? You do realize it gets harder and harder as you get older.

[Inthecraphole]

I am thinking my best option at this point is the sweet kiss of death to release me from the life of loneliness.

[btbc92]

He has the right to not date a person who had previous relationships. The biggest stretch is assuming many girls never had a first love or crush. If he is the same guy, he keeps making the same posts. I have seen anonymous posts of the same thing.

[Inthecraphole]

@btbc92 A crush is fine as long as she was never close to the guy. I am seeking a woman who has never had a romantic bond with a guy before.

[btbc92]

Impossible. Even I know that. Your jealousy over another man makes others not want to bother because it says, you are a very jealous man. And that is a big no-no. Why do you need a woman who never had a romantic bond before? That is the question.

[btbc92]

Most girls who had crushes tend to already be close or emotionally attached at best which is why some yearn for the same guy years later.

[btbc92]

Listen. If your concern is that she may leave you for those men, i understand. But women naturally bond over the man they want, and there isn't anything you can do about that. You have to respect her choices. As long as she is faithful and loyal, that is what you have to look at. Sexual choices are one of the top issues you have to worry about and not who she had a bond with. It happens regardless of what you want. They are people too.

[exitseven]

Do not get too fixated on somebody's past. You will be happier in the long run.

[Parad0xlol]

Bro... with your mentality it is safe to assume that you will marry both of your hands! 👍

[karaspara]

At your age expecting people to have never been with someone is not very realistic

[Inthecraphole]

She is 22. The youngest I will date of course is 18.

[Lunatic1]

You are definitely overreaching if you are searching for a girl who has never dated anyone. Just find someone you connect with and go for it.

[Anonymous]

I can get your point. But it's relatively low. But who knows

[Anonymous]

Hey u want what u want. Just make sure u have enough to offer in return. Build your health and career and personalityp

[kingykringy]

You should see a therapist

[Relux47]

Nope

[Jmmmfi4]

You're an idiot