Still into a girl who rejected me, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

As much as it hurts, it wouldn’t have worked out. I loved a girl who rejected me. And she had feelings for me too (told me that she loved me multiple times). But she had a boyfriend. Three years later, she comes to my job as a new employee, how do you think that makes me feel? I couldn’t even focus at work. I’m like wtf is she doing here? She knew I was going into this job before we stopped talking. But she also had a friend who works in my job too. Anyways, I tried to ignore her, but I think she knew I was there when she looked at me. It was for five seconds at most. But since I last saw her. I grew for the better. I started working out, and am the best I ever looked. Anyways, so I wonder if she knew it was me? Nonetheless, I talked to my friend about it, and he told me that I should talk to her. I wasn’t going too because if she really missed me, she would’ve come up to me. But he told me that I have to be the man in this situation (but I still have pride). He said if she’s there because of me, at least let her know that you’re still the same guy she knew. Not someone who’s stuck up. So I’m conflicted?

[ChiTown33]

I wouldn't do it man. And even if she came up to me she'd have to make some inroads towards me. She rejected you! So as far as you're concerned that's still the case.

Personally I have a "1 strike you're out" policy with women. I'm not saying I won't date a woman who's rejected me. But the offer from me is easy. If she rejects me when I ask her out the price goes up from there. She has to either ask me out. Or at the very least convince me to give her a second chance.

Your friend makes a good point. But you make a better one. I'm not saying you shouldn't suspend your pride to give a girl a second chance. But only when that second chance has been earned. Until (and if) that ever happens just continue on business as usual. Speak to her if she speaks to you. And speak accordingly. There is nothing between you two.

Good luck man! Let us know how things go.

[Asker]

I was just gonna act friendly, but act like I’m not into her anymore. That way I at least still have dignity. And trust me, I’m the same way as you.