I met a guy on Tinder and while we were talking online he repeatedly said “you’re out of my league “ we haven’t even met up yet?

[Sarahleee_123]

Or if i feel insecure he would say “dont worry im sure you’re out of my league “i never hear guys say this it sounds silly, what does he mean?

[ohshee]

I've always felt that's one of the most ridiculous sayings that I've ever heard it's either a manipulation or he doesn't have confidence or little bit of both but with him saying that he's trying to get you to see him in a different light and what he needs to do is stand up and be who he is take control of himself because how in the world is a girl going to fall in love with a guy that doesn't believe in himself or can even prove it at that moment. And I would save you pretty smart girl and know who you are and have your confidence that's the reason why you're asking this question even though I hate that saying I'm going to have to agree with him he's out of your league you just a regular person with a big heart and knows what she wants there is no such thing as a league LOL

[Sarahleee_123]

I agree with you. Its silly, in terms or manipulation, what do you mean exactly by that?

[ohshee]

Well how did he make you feel by saying that. So he either wanted you to think about it or you really doesn't have that much confidence say no no no no you're worthy you're great you're good enough for me

[ohshee]

Sorry not you,
Either he doesn't have much confidence or it's if he said it knowing that you would say no no no you're Worthy you're great next time you talk to him listen to the lady speaks is he making it all about him. And then wants to know how you feel about it but not coming out directly and asking you

[Lionman95]

He means that to him you seem to be better than he is so you´ll not going to consider him seriously for a relationship. He thinks that you´re either too attractive or too intelligent. He expects that you´re just chatting with him to play with him until a guy comes around you find more attractive which leads to you leaving the first guy.

[Sarahleee_123]

Oh wow… i never thought of it like that.. so basically you think that he won't want to pursue me because of those reasons?

[Lionman95]

Yes he might expect you to go as soon as someone that seems more interesting to you and leave him alone. He says that maybe because he made that experience before.

[jshm2]

He's just blowing smoke up your ass to inflate your ego, so you don't flake on him.