I’ve been talking to a guy on a dating app but he never mentions meeting in real life?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this guy for 2 weeks on a dating app, we’ve been talking everyday, the conversation is nice and he is asking nice questions, quite deep and keeping a conversation going. I’ve been travelling for 10 days but now I’m coming back and he knows, yet he never mentioned anything about seeing each other in real life? I’ve already made a few first steps like messaging first, therefore I dont know if I should ask him out myself, I don’t want to seem too pushy and also I want to know if he is interested or not.. am I being to impatient? Or is he not interested? Maybe anyone can give me tips on how I can hint I’d like to see him, or anything else☺️ thank you so much in advice!

[DaveJord]

Ask him out, if you really want to meet him you will be direct about it.

Look I been online dating for years. I have chatted women for days and ask for their numbers so we can start texting off app... maybe make plans for meeting, and crickets. Like you spent days chatting and it was seemingly going greats, but you move to want to meet them in real life, and all of their sudden their monkey's uncle grand mother dies, and they are supper busy. Work is super busy right now, but in a few weeks things will slow down.

Like I am shocked this guy has been texting you that long with your, I been on business trip for 10 days... I would have dismissed that as excuse or Red Flag from the start.

Look if this guy has been dating online for any amount of time for more than a day, he probably does really trust you are who you are pretending to be. Because if you really wanted to meet him, then you would make the time to meet him and not pull this he never asked or is not pressing the issue. bull shit.

Because if he has been dating online for any amount of time he has hear ever excuse, ran up against all types of women, and really probably figures that if he does not pick the exact right time and way to ask you out you will freak out and stop talking.

So, if want to meet him in real life just tell him that, and make sure you make the time to do it.

I get it all the time from woman, with their incredibly over complicated lives, jobs, kids, pets and God even knows. Like I met one woman that was train for 50-mile endurance races. Like 50 miles in one day. Like seriously?

I would love it for woman to start ask me out, every now and then you meet one that will be like yes, lets me, Wednesday at the restaurant... like that is so sexy.

I cannot tell you have often I have asked a woman out and I do not get a yes or no... I get a let me try to work it out and I will get back to you. Then they text for days after and never bring it up again.

Like trust me there are some real whack jobs out there, and men honestly do not have a clue on how to navigate that. And do not pull the well any normal person would think... no they fucking would not, like please God where are these normal people everyone speaks of... because I want one! :)

[Anonymous]

I NEVER ask to meet a woman on a dating app. I always let her make that determinant. Because i always want it to happen when SHE'S comfortable. I've had women talk to me a month and I've had women want to meet me after 3 sentences.😆

But I don't message women first either. The fact that YOU initiated the conversation, yeah you should probably ask to meet him. I don't think you need to worry about him being afraid to meet you, I mean he's talking to you. And even if he is that's not going to get better by NOT meeting you.

[DarkWinterNights]

A guy is not going to continue messaging you for 2 weeks if he’s not interested in you. Maybe he’s waiting for an opening or a sign that you want to meet?

[Asker]

Perhaps..! What kind of openings signs could I give without being pushy?

[DarkWinterNights]

After two weeks I would suggest you meet somewhere neutral for a coffee or drink. I’m a guy, so you may want to change it a little to suite your style, but I would probably say something like:

“Hey I get in on Friday, I don’t go back to work until Monday. Do you want to get a coffee or drink on Saturday?”

Or you could be a little more open ended about it, mention something you plan to do on your time off and ask him if he has any plans. You’ll need a follow up if he chickens out though lol.

[The_Smart_Engineer]

Do you both belong to same city? Or stay far away?

[Asker]

Not the same but really near, like a 20 minute drive

[The_Smart_Engineer]

Then I guess he’s not interested to meet you. If it’s a 20 minutes drive, it’s not a difficult thing to meet up