I have been talking to this guy for months online and he talks about meeting up but we still haven't why?

[Anonymous]

[TheBigGuy9]

Because he A. doesn’t look like his pic, has a girlfriend or wife or is lying about something he doesn’t want you to find out about

[Asker]

🤣😭😭 yeh probs has a wife

[TheBigGuy9]

You should be able to tell. If he only talks to you at certain times, has an excuse for everything, wants to meet up at a hotel or come to you, leaves chats abruptly? Any one of those ring a bell?

[Asker]

Oh shit all that what you have mentioned is exactly what's going on here

[TheBigGuy9]

Another one is overcompensates, things like constantly telling you that he loves you. That you are not like other women, you’re rare, you make his heart melt. Things someone tells another after they’ve met and been in a relationship for a while.

A lot of men (and women) do that for pure selfish reasons. Just not too long ago I had a woman write me on here that was married to some rich man and talking dirty. Only because I was tall with certain features did she like me. It’s usually you having something they wish their SO had.
These people use others as their way of getting away from their SO and they rationalize it as not cheating. It’s wrong on so many levels because it’s only them that are getting the satisfaction. They expect you to be waiting for them all day while they’re with their family. And that you should be there for them whenever they say so. They expect everything out of you, while they do anything they want. And then get super paranoid if you even mention someone else. Get really opinionated and judgmental. Basically, what they’re doing is describing themselves to you.

[TheBigGuy9]

You got any other questions, HMU

[Asker]

Ya my old friends with benefits who lives in america asked me to move with him lol dunno why

[TheBigGuy9]

Maybe he thinks you would make a good roommate? I don’t think that would work out? I have a sneaking suspicion that he would impede any men from coming around. You may be fwbs, but he wouldn’t treat it as such. Does he get jealous quick?
Where you live now?

[TheBigGuy9]

And I meant DM me, not write on here for the public to know

[loveslongnails]

Have you had a live video call with yet? Are you sure you're not being cat fished?

[In_Trance]

because you haven't made plans to meet up