How do I ask a guy I’ve been talking to online for 7 years to meet in person?

[Anonymous]

Okay it feels pretty stupid for a woman my age to talk about this online… I should know dating by now but I don’t.. okay? 😂

my history of dating is pretty much been single for majority of it. My longest relationship was 4 months and even then I only saw him twice, he was local and just excuses of being at work. Didn’t have trouble finding time for his boyfriend 2 weeks after we split up.

I haven’t been with anyone for 2 years… I guess I’ve just been feeling let down by love one too many times and I’ve just lost faith. I still have love in my heart… just no one I've found worth giving it to.

but there is one guy on my Facebook, we have been friends for a good 7 years but we’ve never met in real life. And he’s local too. We aren’t always constantly messaging each other, but he’ll just pop up sending videos of his dog doing something funny or a new trick he taught him. Sends me cat videos. Tagging me in posts and having convos inbetween. We both have a similar sense of humour, both love gaming, animals, share similar opinions on important topics.

He hasn’t been in a relationship since 2015 and he’s not one of those guys who has a lot of girls liking/commenting on his posts (if at all! except his mum and sister xD)
which I don’t understand because he is a good looking bloke!!! It’s an enigma and I’m finding it enticing that there is no competition for a handsome, down to earth considerate man.

WTF ARE YOU WAITING FOR !! ~ your probs wondering

I feel like being straight up saying “don’t you think we should meet for a change and see if we actually connect in person?” just feels way too delicate and aggressive. I don’t want to destroy what we’ve got going… as stupid as it sounds 😂 how can I suggest meeting up to him?

[Interstate]

Usually when somebody is single for such a long time... there is a reason behind it. And it isn't always about not having met the right person, or anybody for that matter. If there are NO Women affiliating with him (even on f. b), you have to stop and ask yourself if there is a problem and what could it be. And in a lot of cases the guy IS good-looking. Not always, but most.

But if you decide to go through with this, just ask "You know we have been online friends for so long, what how would you feel about seeing each other face-to-face?". If he says he is for it, then go through with it. If he is uncomfortable with it... there is something going on you do not know about. In that case, consider going separate ways. IF there is something off with him you don't know about, you don't run the chance of him putting you into a situation at some point. But in the meantime, inquire and go from there.

[Anonymous]

If he wanted to meet, he would have found a way to do so already. I've worked with guys that drove miles to meet women they barely knew... this guy lives locally and hasn't done so.

“you don’t want to, I’m a lot angrier in person and can’t stand people ”

When people tell you who they are.. listen to them.

''I’m finding it enticing that there is no competition for a handsome, down to earth considerate man.''

There is always competition. And sometimes they only show themselves after another woman makes an attempt.

[NathanDavis]

" do you think we could try and meet sometime, and then see if we actually connect in person like we've done it online? ”

I think this version might work a bit better, I think it gives him the chance to consider it and then decide, and with this edited version it won't imply that you're already thinking of a lot more, basically it shows you want to equal the situation online but this time in person... without the "pressure or expectations" of going for more right away

[Asker]

Okay looking on previous chat I have said to him “known you for 8 years and I’ve never met you in person 😂” over a month ago

His response was “you don’t want to, I’m a lot angrier in person and can’t stand people 😂”

[NathanDavis]

that last part must have been mostly a joke... and if he has mentioned in previous chats, then he won't be that surprised when you mention the possibility of the two of you meeting up, you should try and see how it goes, at least bring up the topic and take it from there

[exitseven]

Maybe what you are proposing is a little heavy handed. If he is local maybe find an event in the area and ask him if he would like to go with you. Or just ask him if he would like to hang out sometime.

[MTC29]

Just say, "I think that it's way past time for the two of us to meet."

I don't find that "aggressive," I think it's being honest.

[Jamie05rhs]

I can relate.

Though, honestly, for me, once I'm Facebook friends with someone, I just friend zone myself. Because I figure it's better that way. I don't want to lose a friend by saying something stupid.

[Andres77]

Just do it.
If you've known him for so long... it should be easy.
One of the easiest ways to convince someone to do something is to get them to think it's their idea. Hint at it and be patient.

[FilmGuy93]

You could just ask him if he is open to meeting in person.

[Iron_Man]

Wow that sounds a little bit like me from the beginning But I only took two years

[Iron_Man]

Make a deadline

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

sounds like a catfish situation, but, i dk. you might want to call nev

[humanearth]

Open your mouth and say something.

[Yaharro]

Omg is that even possible god I have no clue 😵

[OddBeMe]

Jesus Christ, go to fcking bar.

[Anonymous]

Ask him to meet. That's how you ask him.

[he-takes-a-part]

hahaha