It’s time consuming talking , meeting , effort investing , and you don’t know if things will go anywhere if this is a potential guy or woman. Who has time for that? A lot of people can’t keep it real or be genuine.. my time and energy is important.
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I don’t online date - I use dating apps to socialize and network occasionally
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TwinkleLily5 we are the same ! I was thinking about getting back on the ice and figure skating.. I’m totally different and rare ! Also intellectual and classy! I may go get wine tonight just because.. yes dating has become a bore and the dating scene. If you ever in my state we can def do a girls night ! I just sat back and watch men lol..
Why does dating feel like you’re scrolling through a catalog nowadays?
I’m the same age as you are and feel the same way. As an intellectual woman the dating scene has been boring and lame to me since age 24 because a lot of men can’t match my intellect or does not appeal to me. They usually lead with there sexual instinct and stand no chance with me because that automatically turns me off at this point I accept the fact that I was brainwashed through the media etc to think men were knights in shining armor when they are more stress than anything. My opinion.
Is, it that bad, I haven't dated a lot, only went on two dates so far. But is it really that bad? For personally, I know online dating sucks so much, and I hate it. Is that also true for in real life dating?
@poneglyphs yes it really is that bad, a lot of people are not genuine anymore this applies to men and women. Some people will date you to see what they can benefit from you. Dating irl is just as crazy as online dating 2 guys I met irl life were very pushy for a date and expected me to drop everything I had going on and just go out with them whenever they set the date even if I already had something planned for that day. And trust me it gets way worse than that when you actually start dating the person. I’ve had men lie to me about their relationship status, kids etc. I tried online dating and met the person irl. The same day he started pushing for sex when I refused he blew up in a rage as if he was going to harm me. It’s crazy out here. And yes there are good people but they’re also a lot of people who do not have good intentions.
@TwinkleLily5 oh, really damm, well I'm a cute shy nerdy guy who want's to start dating because I haven't dated much and just to find someone. Also, have sex and go on dates. This just makes me feel sad that so many people are shady or scums. 😔😔😔😠😠
I am glad I grew up when I did. I had a long distance relationship for 3 years and I used to think it would have been good to have e-mail and text and Skype back then. We wrote letters and maybe once in a great while splurged on a phone call and always waited until after 11PM when the rates went down.
Right ! When dating made sense ! Now you don’t know what you’re dealing with! I tend to do better with older men ! Most of everyone I’m talking too per-say are older men and folks I lost connections with ! Dating back then made sense and you were interested too see what they brought the next day and seeing them !
I used to write these long letters, usually on Sunday night when I was in the library studying. After I put it in the envelope I usually put a few lines from a poem or song lyrics on the back.
I work at a college and see groups of kids walking between classes. Everyone is looking at their phones and nobody is talking. I bet if you asked a dozen people on this site if they thought social media was a good thing and I bet they all say no. But nobody wants to give it up.
I'm 6'3" and could hardly buy a car I could fit comfortably into that is of real quality. The spacious cars are unreliable and too expensive to maintain, while the more reliable cars are so tiny on the inside that for me to get into one is unsafe for me. The same applies to dating.
Coz that's what it is. Everything has came to online catalogue now a days. No customized customer service. You call a company the recorded voice throws random options at you. You speak with people they start reading scripts to you. I rather have one on one match maker. Who hears what I am looking g in partner and try to match me with some one.
That's why a lot of people look for hookups honestly. It's a gamble and unfortunately you have to go through that and no guarantees of anything. It really is like playing the lottery.
Because that is what it is. A catalog of people with high expectations and low preparations. Everyone wants to meet someone but cannot relate to anyone. smh!!
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