Are dating apps a good idea to find your partner?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I used dating apps for a while with mostly poor results. You do have to pay if you want any real chance at meeting someone. The free versions are just way too limited.

I met a lot of guys that were not good experiences... guys who were just looking for a hookup even though their profile said they weren't, guys who were super clingy right out of the gate, guys who were rude and condescending. I even met one guy who I dated for a couple of months, only to find out he was hiding something big. He was not who he said he was, and he was clearly hiding something. I just never found out what. I'm not sure if he was married or into something illegal or what, but he was definitely up to something shady.

Anyway, after months of failed attempts, I met my boyfriend on OKC. He is hands down my favorite human, and I really do think we'll get married someday. I had almost given up on dating apps, but I'm so glad I didn't because they led me to him.

Now back to your original question... do I think dating apps are a good idea in general? That depends. If you're someone who is outgoing, social, and has avenues to meet other single people, dating apps might not be the best bet. But for me, I work from home, I'm kind of a homebody and I wasn't going to meet anyone IRL. And my boyfriend works in a 98% male-dominated industry. He probably wouldn't have met someone through his normal day-to-day activities either. So for us, they worked out great.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I voted no because I don’t like the men on there. 80% are just looking for hookups (this is tinder and hinge) and other guys that aren’t are wayyyyy to invested right away it’s creepy.

ZDoes · Accepted Answer

Speaking as a man seeking a woman absolutely not. Only because it's a business. And if we succeed, then they loose two customers.
They are expensive with questionable billing practices, and it's nebulous at best if you're even conversing with a real person or a bot, or perhaps it's an online ambassador. These are women who are compensated in some fashion to chat with you. They are prohibited from exchanging any personal contact information and likewise are never going to be available to actually meet in person. I might add that it's unlikely that you'll be told about these particular truths anywhere other than the very fine print when you sign up. And one could conceivably spend weeks or months investing site fees on a monthly basis in addition to the emotional investment of getting to know someone only to be continuously led on in a never ending deception, put off handed excuse after excuse as the why now is not a good time. A heart breaking exercise in futility to say the least.

seer09 · Accepted Answer

Couple of my friends have been very successful on tinder. They are married now with the people they met on tinder.

coachTanthony · Answer

The people who find success will say yes and the ones who don't will say no but also be bitter and pissed.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I actually found 2 good partners and one good friend on OKC. I got chlamydia from Tinder, and crickets from Bumble.

All told, I believe even though I am very grateful for the two partners I did find, that in general dating apps are a waste of time, at least for male seeking female scenarios. Sure, I found a couple good matches, but it was a terrible return on my time investment in terms of how much time I spent looking at profiles, sending messages (mostly ignored), dead end conversations, or other unsatisfactory results

Much better off just going out into the offline world and interacting with people. The chemistry and connection are much easier to judge, and the interactions in general are going to be more genuine and fulfilling, even the ones that are not leading to a mutual romantic interest.

LovingJo · Answer

You should have added a third option.. 😊
I've had varied experiences!!
Two of my most serious relationships, I've ever had, I met on dating apps and were loves of my life. But on the flip side, I've now been single for 7 years 😭 and I think it's been the hardest ever.. Whether that's to do with my mental health and the way I feel about myself, or whether it's just that men are more jerks right now.. I don't know? 🤷🏻‍♀️
I wish I did, it's hard!! 💯🥰

dustybiker · Answer

I’m mixed on this. I’ve heard results for each side. Maybe those that go in without expectations are the ones that have it work for them. I’ve never needed to try it, nor would want to. I like coming across someone and have stars align.. signs all over the place. Magic.

Anonymous · Answer

If girls hate the idea of dating apps, and hate guys approaching them then she is shutting herself from the world. I see that far too often now. Girls act that way and then hang out with their girlfriends to go to bars or clubs just to drink or do drugs or get a guy to bum rush you, are those girls your "friends", no. There are plenty of guys I was tight with but I drifted apart of them because they were into stupid shit. Now at my age, in my life, I just want to be with a girl and start a life and have a home in the city. Friends move on to, they don't stay in your life forever. To any girl reading this if you hate guys approaching you then at least try a dating app and don't look for 6 ft 6, gorgeous guys as your top ideal, ideal, ideal choice. I'm not on dating apps to find some Pamela Anderson Baywatch looking chick.

GingerGuy · Answer

I wouldn't say "good idea", but something you can definitely try and it is possible. But definitely keep your expectations low! There's so many fake profiles and ghosting today, that you should "expect" nothing from it. But there are some genuine people on there (like anywhere you meet people), but you have to sift through the "bad" ones and no guarantees you'll find them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

consider

something that matches by personality assessment may be better, and you have to pay for. I had best success there. the free stuff is really challenging. all is an option to gain experience and exposure, just realize it's pretty awful a lot and true for women as well. that said, I know of people who met on those sites. Imet my girlfriend on gag, you can meet someone anywhere. spend more time on yourself, being your best self all the time... that will change your reality.

Anonymous · Answer

The intention of the creators is good but what all online social platforms have in common is the inability to control who and what it is really used for.

I am a former youth worker and one day at work a 13 year old girl said I saw your profile on tinder. She asked me did I find myself a girlfriend? That girl may have seen my pic from an adult relatives phone who may have been the first to recognise me... or it could be so that the 13 year olds have their own tinder profile in their phones with lied ages. Just a face pic can fool many. I didn't see her face in tinder but if I had, I would have reported her parents without hesitation.

The scary thing about online dating is the wrongs of both genders in all age groups.

red324 · Answer

I don't know. There seems to be something wrong with every girl I meet online and it doesn't usually show immediately. Lately there have been a ton of insecure clingy girls that think I'm going to sit down all day and respond to their texts. Or they think I'm fucking some girl or have a wife when I don't respond for a couple hours one evening. Or they aren't even serious to begin with and change their mind after one date.

boxxie2002 · Answer

I have been with my partner 7 years after meeting on a dating app.

They may have changed, but back then it was an easy way to meet someone with no commitment or obligation to friends to meet up again, or awkwardness at work if a date went sour with a collegue

Ninani · Answer

They aren't too bad, but not exactly good either. Like anywhere there are a bunch of randos, but you can be lucky enough to find a serious person or two to date.

Assi2k · Answer

Immediately no. If he had the skill and confidence to chat up women in person, he would. Same for girls

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Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Yes... for some people I guess. I think so many people on dating apps dont take things seriously. So I dont know if its for me.

doe9de · Answer

Yes and no. Everyone is different with varying opinions of what they desire. it depends on who is on the site and if they like you.

Flower7 · Answer

No because the people there usually don’t have good intentions.

JakeS00 · Answer

For me not a chance. Getting involved in things is the way to go to meet your potential partner because you can see the smaller things that you can't on an app.

Jlegacy · Answer

If there was a maybe option, I'd choose that. It has helped several couples find each other but for me if it was up to dating apps, I would still be single.

Wester1967 · Answer

As a guy 85% of my matches have been scams trying to snatch my money. Just so women know on the other side if guys act weird or negativity, it’s super easy to get jaded about it

Hypnos0929 · Answer

I've met people who have met people over dating apps.
The biggest issue for men is getting noticed and the biggest issue for women is filtering out the playboys, ONSs, and fakers. It's a numbers game but it's possible to find someone.

m33lad · Answer

Depends what part of the world you live in.
If you’re a guy? No!
Dating apps are all designed for ego boosters for women.

If 99.99% of men weren’t such weak pussies dating website would’ve been heaven on earth for men.

serious · Answer

Maybe. I am not too sure how authentic or helpful they are in doing so. One can try though.

Shiver · Answer

Meh, it works out sometimes, but usually it doesn't.

JosyJosy · Answer

It can be, but don't stop using other methods just because you're on an app, keep trying Everything

Babygirl_S · Answer

Definitely if your culture is not all about arranged marriages.

KyleC19 · Answer

It’s good but also can be bad you never know if the person you meet online is really who they say they are and sometimes people aren’t as good looking as the pics online

moviedude714 · Answer

Well they often say that the average woman has way more options on dating apps than the average guy does

livingnightmare · Answer

no because most of the time they would live too far. i think most people want to meet someone locally not in another city, state or country.

Queenofthedog · Answer

Fuck no. is a waste of time. It's going to cost you money to join, and you'll get nothing in return

Silver158 · Answer

you can find decent people on them but in my experience, most women are either on there for hookups or simply attention.

Fuentes · Answer

I use Tinder to smash i would never use it to date lol

Youdumbeotch · Answer

I’ve had no luck on those sites despite thinking it would be easier than my real life

brends2626 · Answer

No. Some of them are in a relationship.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I haven’t had much luck on those apps

Hangry06 · Answer

YES.. especially if they have filters

user1516 · Answer

Absolutely not. It’s rare.

Browneye57 · Answer

No. Dating apps are for losers. You'll see.

ChiPaPa · Answer

They're a waste of time

Anonymous · Answer

Dating? What's that? :(

clampfan101 · Answer

If they work. None have worked for me though. :/

username998 · Answer

It's very unlikely but it's not impossible

tomtom05131 · Answer

My nephew met his wife on a dating app.

Relux47 · Answer

It’s a waste of time and money

Somegirl408 · Answer

not for me no

jimmy2 · Answer

If you want scam ho for it

teslas16 · Answer

I think it's a good idea

15_Debo · Answer

Depends...

Anonymous · Answer

With covid, it's about all that we have now.

dudeinohio · Answer

Worked for me

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a waste of time

msc545 · Answer

Terrible for men.

Slim57 · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Naah

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